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I have been diagnosed with autism and schizophrenia. My social skills are not well and I have behavior problems and my senses do not work correctly.
Therapists do not want to see me and I have been banned from both the support groups.
I wish to have more support because I never hold a job and have problems with people I live with.
Is it manic your having a problem with that only happens occasionally? Or is it more of an anger issue? Cause that's how my baby brother is he's ok until he's triggered!
Normal. I've been banned from doctors, therpists etc for being manic and they were prescribing and treating me for bipolar. Their meds made me manic, i acted crazy as fuck and they banned me.
Being social and holding a job takes work and effort for practically everyone. I completely understand that it is harder for those who have disabilities or other such challenges, but it's not impossible. You seem intelligent enough and at least somewhat self-aware so what is the problem? You know you want more/certain things out of life but resist the path to getting it. Stop thwarting your success and stop being a victim. There are so many people out there worse off than you that are making it work for them.
I am intelligent iq wise and I am self aware. It's others I am not aware of how they think or what upsets them. The fact that everyone thinks different complicate's that.
I do well working by myself but when in groups I get myself in trouble and often have no idea what other people's problems are.
I am sometimes told I should just "know" things but I really do need to be told or I will probably disregard unwritten rules.
It is difficult to empathize with people when I cannot relate to them.
I doubt you 'don't know'...I bet it's more 'don't care', which is fine and more normal than you think. You don't need to relate to people or truly empathize with them to get by, you just need to seem like you do a bit. I think you can do that, you are just choosing not to.
What's frustrating is I really don't know. Honestly it has led me to not care because years of people's judgement has led to me no longer giving a shit.
There was a time I really tried but it never worked anyways so I stopped trying.
You remind me a lot of my son.
This type of stuff takes practice and commitment. When you were trying, did you use methods/tools suggested by a therapist? Did you practice every day?
Perhaps you are too self-absorbed. How often do you pause and try to think things out? Stop and reasses situations periodically. What am I doing? What should I be doing? What is that guy doing? If you are like my son, he is very annoying without purposely trying to be. I guess he gets lost in his thoughts and ideas and nothing else registers. Taking a minute every once in a while to think about what's happening helps. Also, reflecting back on your day. When did people get upset with you and what happened before, during and after? Stuff like that.
Maybe since you can't get along with a therapist yet, try some self-help resources.
I've had plenty of therapists. You are correct that I am self absorbed but it seems to be because I have difficulty knowing "why" people feel what they do.
I am aware I can be really insensitive but it's how my personality is and when I try to be nice I may still say something inappropriate thinking I said something nice.
I think it's because I don't process emotions the way other people do so I cross boundaries thinking it was acceptable.
It does take practice and while I have improved greatly I still find myself getting in trouble.