I am in a comitted relationship, however i don't feel as much anymore

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Hello.

I am currently in a comitted relationship with a woman. We have been together for almost a year. However, we have kind of fizzled out, started talking a lot less than we used to before and I don't feel it anymore.

On the other hand, there is another woman who I am sincerely interested in as well. I know she's interested in me, and I feel a real connection with them.

Staying with the person I'm with now is the safer option, because it's almost guaranteed to last if I choose. However, my heart isn't with it entirely anymore and there's also this new person that I seem to really connect with.

Can you guys give me advice on how to move forward? Pros and cons of staying with the person I'm with vs moving onward to the person I'm connecting with?

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  • jrbsportz
    2 years ago

    Dude what is missing in y'all relationship? Sex money or inlaw try to work it out you just excited about the other woman cause things are flat in your house hold right now.if you jump into a relationship with this other women and thing get flat what then!!! Relationship gets flat work it out and find what you two looking for and if it don't work then go fuck the other women!!!! Just saying

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    I strongly suggest that both you and your wife read "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman, as a start.

    About 80% of the time the issue is that the two of you are not fulfilling each others emotional needs (your Love Tank is running empty).

    The 5 Love Languages will help both of you identify what each persons needs really are, and allow you to communicate it effectively with the other. Not to mention tell you how to satisfy your mate.

    Get 2 copies. Each person will likely read at a different rate; and be patient if your spouse is slower than you. Some people read and understand the book in a day, some others take 2 weeks.

    Post back if this helped or not. There are other books for other things that can come up; but, its a variety of books for a variety of issues.

    80% of these kinds of problems is described in The 5 Love Languages.

    I wish you well with this,

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    It doesn't sound guaranteed to last at all to me.

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    • darefu
      2 years ago

      Agree, if after only a year you're looking at others, then cut the string now.

      However I will say, if you are looking for the dating romance or honeymoon type feelings it does die down some and the roaring bon fire can become a campfire. That's normal and for some that happens quickly for others it may last 20 years.

      If it's only been a year, I'd say you weren't ready for a committed relationship.

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  • litelander8
    2 years ago

    Give yourself a month to try and rekindle. Meanwhile, leaving the other girl alone.

    Doesn’t work? Move on. No sense in holding her back from her having a man who will truly love her. Just as you think you found someone better, she can too.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    I would stay with the girlfriend and try to screw the other one on the side. What she doesnt know cant hurt her.

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    • litelander8
      2 years ago

      Jesus. 😳

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