I am in a dilemma, give me your suggestion please

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there are two options, option 1, I chase after my dreams and passion(which will be difficult and most likely will not end well for the next few years), option 2, take a job that requires me to devote myself to it till I'm 60/65, everything will be paid for(educations for the job, living expenses, have pension money when I finish the job at 60/65, etc.), I get promotions every 4 years starting when I start the job. Tl;Dr option 1 will be hard but I like it, option 2 will give me stable life till the day I die basically.

P.S keep in mind the explanations I made for these jobs/situations is VERY simplified.

take the hard way 17
take the easy way 6
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  • Yaidin
    2 years ago

    Try to create a lifestyle where you can have a stable job as well as doing something you like. If you have to depend your income on art it can get frustrating and make you lose your passion.
    Who knows, maybe you can quit your job halfway through because your art career is setting off

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    • bbrown95
      2 years ago

      ^This.

      Sometimes turning a fun, relaxing, stress relieving hobby into a job can suck all of the fun out of it and turn it into a source of stress, and eventually lead to burnout. There's also the unfortunate fact that the fun/interesting jobs typically have a larger supply of people wanting to pursue them than they do a demand for said people, making it harder to make a decent living at. I think with careers like these, it's important to at the very least have a solid backup plan, and probably wise to keep it a side thing and then step it up to your main job if/when you get to that point, as you suggested in your last sentence.

      In my case, I'm actually glad I didn't go with my dream job from when I was younger. I initially wanted to be a horse trainer and riding instructor, and to run my own barn, but got a taste of that life while working at a barn as a working student, and found out quickly that while the barn was a joy to be at while I rode recreationally and only had to worry about my personal horses and myself, it truly became work as I carried the weight of the responsibilities of several different horses (and let me tell you, horses will ALWAYS find a way to get hurt, it seems), dealing with difficult clients, and on top of it all, the fact that one bad fall could mean the end of your career as a trainer. I also watched my favorite trainer and role model (whom I worked for) burn out, appear to be miserable and stressed out any time she was at the barn, and eventually shut her barn down and put it up for sale because she couldn't deal with it anymore, and without any other real backup plans. My current job is not a dream job by any means, but it's also not bad at all and I make a good living, while still able to enjoy my hobbies (I don't ride anymore, but do have a few other things I enjoy outside of my job).

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    Chase your dream. Most people who follow the path of what looks like an easy job for life... find out that it's not so easy and often don't have enough money to retire on (hint: there are no guaranteed pensions; companies default on them at will, and something like 95% of all government jobs have no apparent funding for their pension plans that are even close to covering 1/3 of their estimated pensions). Keep in mind that the time value of money changes (A future pension of $10,000/month isn't going to cut it when the cost of living is $30,000+ per month).

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    2 years ago

    It's honestly not as easy a decision as some would make it out to be, but I would say to go for the lower-paying dream job alright. When you're on your deathbed, all the money in the world won't matter to you. But you will get some enjoyment from looking back on a life well lived.

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  • Sanara
    2 years ago

    I have mixed feelings about it. It does matter what kind of person gets into certain jobs, especially jobs that other people's lives depend on like a surgeon. And if you do not feel like/thinking you're the right sort of person to work with that, and could deal with the downsides, then you shouldnt be there either, even if it gives good salary and economical stabilety. Those jobs are hard and should not be taken easy on. You could mess up the job/just not do it that well, and you personally may be miserable for years and take sacrifices not worth it to you. If you're really passionate about something, that maybe is a sign you were meant to work with it, but if its something like being an artist, it doesn't have to be your full time occupation, it can be your hobby outside of work and maybe you eventually start making money on it regardless by selling it. I dont recommend a very uncertain job as your full time, before you actually start making success. You dont wanna risk ending up homeless. If possible take a job you can simply tolerate, pays what you need (but have to be wealthy) and decently perform in, at first

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  • Somenormie
    2 years ago

    There's no easy way for most things.

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  • Curiouskitten444
    2 years ago

    Follow your dream. I had (essentially) the same choice to make 5 years ago. So so happy I did.

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  • Chap
    2 years ago

    You only have one life, don't waste it

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  • raisinbran
    2 years ago

    You'll learn more from the hard way and if you fail, those lessons can be applied to the easy way to make things even easier. No idea what I'm talking about but there you go.

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  • MonteMetcalfe
    2 years ago

    Follow you're dream.
    If you go the other route you may feel like a big whore and the monotony may drive you crazy.
    Plus you'll spend your life wondering "what if?".

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    It depends what option 1 is and how practical it is.

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  • SmokesTheScrapper
    2 years ago

    I would take the "easy" way first. Then you have a livelihood and can work on your dream on the side, as long as you don't have to work long hours.

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  • edgyqueerveganvampire
    2 years ago

    i'd take a middle road. if you can afford living with a part time job maybe you could start with that

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  • hauntedbysandwiches
    2 years ago

    Never ever settle in a job you're not fond of. Chase those dreams.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    2 years ago

    I’m curious as to why you will be staying in this one specific job until you are 65 years old.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      i'm gonna be in an academy for 4 years, the government pays for everything in return for my workforce.

      i'm not quite sure if i really can't quit after working a certain period of time, but everyone says it's a lifetime thing.

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  • Lusty-Argonian
    2 years ago

    What matters hear us will you be happy at option 2? If it's something you enjoy it's not a bad option but if not just avoid it and go go chase your dream

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    2 years ago

    for more context option 1 is to become an artist, option 2 is some kind of government work.

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    What is your dream?

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  • darefu
    2 years ago

    Depending on your age and current responsibilities. If you are single with little to no responsibilities;

    Chase the Dream !

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