I am sick of my selfish friend venting to and excluding me

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My current closest friend always cries to me about being lonley when he has tons of friends and everytime we hang out goes on about the fun he has with them and the stuff they're planning.

I didnt have a single friend until my 20s when I made internet friends I see irl sometimes so ive always found it deeply offensive when people go "I have no one" and then has tons of friends...Sounds ungreatful. Plus whenever I try to vent about something he barely replies and we rarely talk unless I get in touch. Its all about him.

He tried to date me once because he thinks im "cute" (wow, deep), asked me out then he cancelled to drink with friends and play games. From what he's told me he was the same with his ex. No wonder she found someone else.

Last year I was invited by an old acquitance to a party my friend was also invited to and he seemed bothered, ignoring me whenever I said I was thinking of going... Later he said he did it as a favor because I dont like parties.I never get invited to anything so I was excited. He also said "you wouldnt fit in".

He has now befriended my old acquitance (at said party) without telling me after I told him -I- was excited to reunite with this person. I saw posts of them hanging out online so he couldn't even have the decency to tell me.

My mom says that he has his issues,I should stay in touch and be nice. Would ya'll agree with that?! I got bullied and excluded as a kid so this triggers me.We barely hang out anyway since hes so busy with all his millions of clearly more appreciated friends and im not interested in his excuses.

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago

    So you either get over the issues he has. Or you tell him how you feel. Or you ditch him. 🤷🏾‍♀️

    People suck but if abandoned each other all the time no one would have anyone.

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  • Sanara
    3 years ago

    Doesn't sound like a very good friend overall. Friendships should be two sided, not only one contributing. If they don't care about what you have to say its time to find other friends, and I totally get why you're offended by some of the things they do

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    He has a lot of issues, but maybe he thinks you have issues too. I'm not saying that you have issues, but maybe you do too. Have you ever sought any kinda therapy? What were the things you used to get bullied about as a kid?

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  • bigbudchonga
    3 years ago

    I know this probably isn't want you want to hear, but I'd stick by and be his friend if I was you. It sounds like you find it very difficult to make friends; don't throw away the one you've got, even if he is a bit shitty.

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  • Whatintarnation
    3 years ago

    He sounds like an asshole. I'd drop him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    3 years ago

    I’d just separate from the dude all together. Doesn’t sound like you’d be missing much if you did.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    3 years ago

    He's not a good friend. Sometimes those people are fun to hang out with because they have good personalities, but they will bail on you as soon as something better is going on. He sounds like my neighbor growing up

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  • Somenormie
    3 years ago

    Like what Sanara has mentioned he does not sound like a good friend in any sense and certainly does not sound like a true friend either.

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