I can't cum during sex.

Perhaps if you were to continue when it "feels too good" you would cum while having sex.

Perfectly normal. Less than 10%% of women can climax with penetration. Most of those who say they do belong in the theatre and not the bed.

Some women can only climax when alone. This points to a psychological block, not physical. Try relaxing, try mixing it up, and most importantly-don't be afraid to touch yourself when he is in there! Plus, it's a major turn on for the guys...

I too have never experienced an orgasm with sex. Ever since i was in preschool, or before i can even remember, i have been masturbating. I don't know if that has impacted my ability to climax during sex, but all i know is it is impossible for me to cum during sex. I have climaxed twice with another man during oral sex, and i have had many partners in my past, I am a very sexual woman. I just don't understand why i can't climax! It's very, very, VERY, VERRRYYYYYY frustrating!!!!! I have no problem climaxing on my own, considering i have been active ever since i was two, but with a partner...it's an issue, plus it's no fun faking an orgasm, it gets old and tedious. Don't get me wrong, the sensation feels AMAZING, i could do "it" all day long, but i long to climax with his member inside me. I have read all your comments and not one comment actually has a solution or suggestion, i mean, it's quit obvious to rub your cl*t during penetration, but what if that doesn't work? I have had this convo with all my lady friends, i am a very open woman, and most of them experience the same thing or say they climax but in reality they%%u2019re lying. I'm just hoping/praying someone out there has a suggestion or THE solution. I have experienced big, small, curved and all! Nothing works!!!! ITS MAKING ME CRAZY!!! Also, does anyone get dry quickly often? I am the queen of lube, but still, it gets expensive, and kind of like a chore! There should be a doctor that specializes in this professionally, like a gynecologist, but a sexologist for females. Anyone know of such thing? HELP!!!!

ok if you want him to climax while hes inside mastbate till ur really close.... then let him do the rest with is dick... i could help you :)

Yes this is fairly normal. I had this problem for my entire life until a month or so ago actually! It used to be that once something was inside me I couldn't feel anything in my clitoris. I never had a problem getting off on my own with my clit, but once I was having intercourse it wouldn't work even if I manually stimulated my clit. So for a while I would masturbate with a dildo while also stimulating my clit. This got me used to the feeling. Then I got into a relationship with a man where I could be honest with him about my difficulties. I still had trouble having orgasms. Then one day while having sex with him I manually stimulated my clit while imagining things that turn me on, usually particularly riveting scenes I'd seen in porn. I had to concentrate really hard, but one night voila! I had an orgasm. Now the flood gates have been opened and I had two with him the other night. The formula remains the same so far. I have to manually stimulate my clit and think of things that turn me on. But I am just so happy to finally be climaxing with partners. I am 28 and it took me 14 years. I think I could have done it sooner if I had taken these steps sooner.

FUCK WELL THAT DIDNT WORK

Yes, I've tried that before. When it "feels too good" I try and keep going to see if that helps. But nothing happens, and it gets to the point where I'm like ahhh and I still have to tell him to stop.
And it also takes a while for me to cum. If he's just rubbing my clit, I'm not so sure if that would work. I have to have it rubbing my clit and close to the hole. It's really weird, I don't know.

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i have tht problem.... i can't cum during sex or oral.... it feels gud .. but gets too good when i have to say no more cant handle it. but if i masterbate i have to rub my vagina to cum. doesnt even work fingering. now thats wierd. im looking for help also if anybody can help please?

hi, im one of the unfortunates as well..
so just curious is there ne other solution other than just rubbing clit while having sex or relaxing? because these havent exactly worked for me.

69% normal. Giggity

Maybe its not THAT good.

I DO orgasm though.
I just can't when something is going inside me, like in and out.
ahhh idk.
I guess it's normal.
I honestly didn't think it was, but I'm glad I know now.

Totally agree with 'whatsnormal325' no questions answered just obvious technics. I have been having sex for many years and but only had 4 serious relationships. I am a highly sexual woman and am not shy in the bedroom. I have never cum, during sex, oral and sometimes I find it dificult during masturbation, I have no idea what is going wrong. It is really embarrassing....but I think that your partner must play a huge part in this....mine at least. My theory, is tell your partner what you like, what works for you....mine at times gets inpatient or just plain selfish, I give him exactly what he wants and more, I find it hard to tell him consistantly, no...he finds it hard to not think about himself. I now masturbate with a male friend of mine, using cyber-link! Its crazy fun and surprisingly thrilling! I'm working on what makes me cum....finding the right spot.

Don't Worry, its perfectly normal not to cum during sex.
as you get older sex will get better.
but if your desperate to have a proper orgasium try rubbing your clit and thinking about things that turn you on while having sex also make sure your comfortable with the personal your having sex with, and your not stressed or unhappy about something.

thats crazy that you explained EXACTLY what happens to me. i personally think its because i masturbated a lot when i was younger and know what i like

Not my fault due.

Alot of woman never orgasm

well ive been materbating for a long time. lol and i cum when i finger/gentle tap numerous of times/rub up in down on my clit but never have i came when a guys thingy is inside me. i dont know whats wrong with me either. i was afraid that since masterbated so much, i was unable to cum when i have a penis inside of me. ive had small/long/fat penis inside of me and its annoying when i cant cum. it feels so good during the pump action but i never had the chance to say hold up wait a minute. ive had a guy go really deep inside me but that really didnt feel like nothing, just kind of uncomfortable... i really think its the womans state of mind. if the woman is uncomfortbale, or is worrying about little stuff during sex, your not focusing on cumming and not even enjoying yourself. if i can remember all my partners, i was worried about something and couldnt really let loose. .. get comfortable, have sex with someone you feel good with. and tell him the things you like, and hopefully that shoould blow your vagina off the wall!!

I have that same problem, and also even if I'm alone masturbating I don't cum or even have an orgasm. If i'm doing it myself, it only feels good with a vibrator. I don't like fingering, it doesn't feel good at all to me, actually, it's uncomfortable. But anyways, sex feels great, but I never cum or orgasm. My ex partner thought it was weird, and i'm worried to have sex with any other guy because they'll think i'm weird or their doing something wrong.
Any help?

Try a change of position first. Doggystyle is a good one to hit the G-spot, or you could get on top and adjust the position until you hit the spot.

Also, you could try a little fingering first. Just tell your boyfriend to lay next to you, on your left side, while you are on your back. Then ask him to put one (or two for twice the pleasure) finger(s) inside and make him do the "come here"-move upwards. If he is right-handed, he should use his left hand because he can go on considerably longer that way. Orgasm guaranteed.

The first orgasm is always a barrier, you just have to find the spot.

A female friend of mine had the same problem and my advice pumped up her sex life incredibly.

Rub your clit while he's thrusting inside you. Or let him keep going when it feels "too good". That's probably your G spot.

i know quite a few girls that cant even orgasim when they have sex this is perfectly normal and what she said lol

I am the exact same as you. I've been masturbating since I was very little but have always had trouble with orgasming during sex. My boyfriend doesn't want to go down on me every time but I want to get off every time and I'd much rather get off while he's there. I want the connection. It really pisses me off that I can't have quickies that satisfy me. I too long for the solution but haven't found one yet.

OMG!
THAS is EXXACTLY wut i go thru!
I swear i cudnt have explained any better myself!
so its normal then huh?!
kinda disappointing...

I have the same problem! It doesn't work when he's inside and tries with my clit because I can't have anything inside on the same time! And I can't cum if anything has recently been inside of me.

I also have experienced this problem...i cum with vibrators and have before from oral sex but i cant seem to cum during sex..

YES!!! :)

Try getting on top and ride him. It may help to pull the sheet up over his face so you can easier pretend you are alone (or fucking the person you think about when you masturbate).

I'm 36 years old. During sex I can have an orgasm, as long as I am touching myself. The problem is when I do I don't become wet. I don't want to be vulgar but my husband and I have watched porn together. When the women have an orgasm the men instantly know it. Especially if it is oral. Not with me. It feels great but there are no signs that I had one.

my wife can cum EVERYTIME im inside of her.....she is just so horny that way that she can she cum while she is giving me a blow job or whatever and i LOVE it

Is it normal to have to play with ur self during sex i have always had to play with my self to be able to cum? sometimes it mess with me because i feel like my husband cant plz me but it has been with everyone i have ever been with

if you keep going when it feels really good, you'll get there.. it seems like it won't, but the more you practise, you easier it will be for you to get there!

I am just like you. If you find a sollution better than mine tell me. So I can only cum if I am on top and rubbing my clit while being penetrated. But my orgasms are only so so, when they should be awesome

if you play with yourself a lot actually well cause more of a problem because you get more comfortable doing it by yourself and you lose sensation.. don't get me wrong Im all for masturbation but to much well cause a lot of problems and you will have a hard time cumming for your partner... it will be hard but try not masturbating for a 2 or 3 weeks .. then have sex with your partner... your going to be so sensitive to touch you will end up cumming. i had your problem i never had a orgasm and then i did this and it worked.

I am the same. I have never been able to climax during sex. The only time I can is if I masturbate. I often have pain when I have sex if they go to far or whatnot. I have had sex with 9 different people and not one has been able to make me cum during sex not with penetration or going down on me. I have thought about going to see a doctor to see if it is normal or not but what's the point? I can only arrive when im alone just by rubbing myself.

I was scared that something was wrong with me as well. I didnt feel good at all from sex, but i wasnt with the right person. BUT now i am with the right person...and i still cant orgasm from him touching me or intercourse. I can masturbate infront of him and i can do it when he goes down on me and i'll get off but.... i cant cum and i dont understand why

Your clit could be located too low! And you just have a very sensitive G spot:)

I've encountered this as well and I actually think it's %100 mental. I have had sex with plenty of guys and had great experiences but with only 1 of them who happens to be a sex god - as a result of having ALOT of experience - could I feel that 100% comfort to achieve pleasure in all different ways. I think that this connections is really hard to find and unfortunately can't always coexist with guys who like being monogamous. Some guys just make us really self conscious, uncomfortable and our mind is NOT in the right place - even if we love them. At the moment of the BIG-O we need to be 100% selfish, they like it, It turns them on, it's funny how letting ourselves feel good takes practice. ..........

I heard a dotor on TV say that there's no such thing as a vaginal orgasm, anal, nothing. They all come from the clitoris. So all you lucky chickies out there that can cum from intercourse, the guy's causing friction with your clitoris somehow. I too, can't come unless its from direct clitoral stimulation

the SAME exact thing happens to me!! i thought i was weird cuz my partner thinks its weird i don't cum lol...i do though when i rub my clit though. w/ past partners i've always cum when i was riding him while he was sitting down because it rubs the clitorious at the same time. so glad i'm not the only one having this problem lol

yeah, i have the same problem, i was just surfin the net to see if its normal, i had sex for the first time 4 weeks ago, and so far i havent came through sex, i feel the pleasure...just nothin to show for it. lol. i have also came through oral sex but thats it...glad to know im not the only one who feels like this. i'll take some of the help from the other commenters on board and see wa happens.

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