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I cant get a boyfriend ! Im a 22 yo female virgin that has never had a boyfriend , im not beautiful but im fit , and im social but not that much
i have never been asked out by a guy before ,what should i do
Don't expect the world to change to help you get a relationship. You're going to need to try be more confident and make interest known when you like a guy.
Don't expect a guy to just randomly see you, not be able to get to know you because you're shy, then somehow helplessly fall for you, it ain't going to happen.
Start pushing yourself more and initiate.
You need to push yourself. I'm shy and I suck at talking to people. When I was 26 I got tired of being alone because of it. I tried to start conversations with dudes and I joined a dating site and I messaged other dudes with similar interests and incomes. It was scary and a lot of it ended in failure, but I kept trying. I eventually found the guy I'm dating now(we've been together for two years). You can't let shyness get in the way and hope someone will just fall into your lap. You need to put the effort in.
Shyness can cripple your life. I am a guy that's much older than you, and my shyness prevented me from finding girls, and now I regret every second. Find someone you like and ask them if they wanna have a coffee or soda with you to shoot the breeze. You may just find the guy likes you and you'll hit it off. Please try, and don't put it off! I did and now I'm miserable and hopeless. Please don't end up like me, regretting all the times I was afraid to even try. Some guys are shy too. Go talk to them. I wish you well. I'm rooting for you.
Dont give up or get desperate. Thinking your never gonna find someone, cause you will. Jus be patient until then. Not rushing into something right after meeting a man. Trust me im a man and the fact that your a virgin and never had a bf let alone asked out. Tells me that if you give them the opening, theyre not only gonna take adavantage of you any way they can but theyll also ruin relationships for ya. Jist be careful. Oh another thing.. Dont tell a man your a virgin itll just put a target on you and theyll only be after your cherry not your ❤
cherry is a slang term for your virginity, if you advertise that you're a female virgin a lot of guys will want you just to take your virginity, not for the actual you.
thanks for the explanation , and why is a virginity something important , we arent living in the 20s century anymore
There are numerous studies which show that people who have had more sexual partners have higher rates of divorce later in life.
Do you want to be constantly used by men for sex under the illusion of female empowerment? It will only make your serious relationships less likely to work out in the long term if you go out banging random dudes just to fill holes and feel liberated because there's a social pressure to lose your virginity as soon as possible.
Don't throw it away now, save it for the right guy. Good, in shape girls with low dick milage are almost impossible to come by these days and it'll mean a lot when the guy finally comes around.
There's no reason to go out hunting cock, numerous studies have shown that the more sexual partners a person has the less committed they will be when they settle down and maybe get married.
-Advice I wish somebody had given me when I was younger.
DON'T LISTEN TO JEB, GIRL!!! IF YOU WANNA GET PIPED, you just honestly have to be striving to be your best self, make decisions based on how you think/feel it will go for you. Take initiative, and just keep trying, don't give up, if you get knocked down, get back up! and if you want kids, make sure you have the right person, but also don't wait to long. There is nobody perfect, but there are some damn near close options. And statistically, every human ever has more than 1000 "the ones"
Also, Jeb, statistics have outliers, and getting dicked down a lot has nothing to do with divorce, it has to do with happiness, which is why you would get divorced, you candidate. Plus, why should she listen to you (or me for that matter) about what to do with her pussy?
You have a good 8 years of your womb being in it's prime fertility, there's no reason to go trashing the place down there.
Stop waiting for the guys to ask you. YOU ask them out. You may have to ask a few ungrateful assholes to find your boyfriend, but if you know what you want, then go get it and stop waiting for him to do it. There may be some guy that has seen you, but just doesn't have the courage to ask, or just hasn't found the right time to ask, or is shy (like I am), and needs flirting to initiate asking. BUT, yeah, you need to take control of your dating life, and try asking guys for their number, and maybe a lunch date. Let the girl power out. Good luck.
good advice , i know one girl that said she had over 100 sex partners and not one took seconds. she wound up marring the guy that was jerking off outside on her bedroom window. They are still married 20 years latter.
true story man , she worked with me, i was thinking of giving her chubby ass a pity fuck myself when some mexican was sperming her bedroom window. after about the third time she got him in her bed and he kept coming back for more. in a month or two they got married.
best way to meet a guy is take one of your hobbies you do for fun and find a guy that is into it. you are fit ? that means you dont have a fat ass i hope. thats excellent. at age 22 most women do have a wide ass. you havent been asked out because you havent been selling yourself. the men around you are getting the impression from you that you are not open for buisness.
Hi, anonymous, I'm a guy and very similar to you, I'm extremely shy when it comes to this, plus anxious and nervous, I've come across girls I have liked or found attractive and haven't really done anything about it, do you have instagram or something? Maybe we can help each other? I'm getting a bit tired of being alone and maybe we can at least talk to each other through social media and share stories and attempt to help each other?
I dont use social media , but you can give me your kik or something like that
Hmmmmm, well neither do I really, just have another good online friend on there and use it purely for chat, you get a notification signalled by a number that pops up when people message so you don't need to go on it unnecessarily, mine is "isitnormalguy" let's give it a go?
Hii I can't belive that a fit girl is still virgin at 22 yo btw I'm like the male version of you and I'm 22 yo and fit (I definitely think I'm hot) and I'll say even handsome my problem was that I was super quiet and shy. Now I'm very different more like a confident man and very social but now I don't have any "female friends" so it's hard to get a gf.
if you're confident and hot , you can just ask out any girl you see , and if they're single they wont say no
so like do you have acne or somthing? because some real old guys find that hot on young girls ? are you overweight ? you say you are not pretty so what's the deal i want to help you here.
Consider asking your friends to set you up with their boyfriend's friends.
Go to your male friends for some male-honesty. Explain to them what you said here, and ask from a hypothetical standpoint, if they were considering dating you, what do they find appealing about you and what they find off-putting. You don't have to take these criticisms to heart and change yourself, this is just a way to give you a different perceptive of what men see from first glance.
Believe me, except family, every male friend you've gained has weighed the option of dating you at some point (even your most trusted friend), before deciding you were cool enough to have as a friend only; so they will definitely have opinions.
Thats cool and thats a starting point , are any of them married? because practice sex may be required and married guys will be discrete. patient. teachers. so long as they understand the rules. so if there's sombody you trust get some training sessions in. No its not going to bust up a marriage . married guys won't cross the road for sex unless they are not getting any. I think you are getting automatically friend zoned for some reason.
Are u saying i should ask married guys for causal sex because i wanna practice ?
do you want cold feet because you lack sexual experience , you are competing with experienced women in the dating game young lady. Just trying to give advice not date you. Im saying if you explain your role to married guys they might be willing to help you. But hey nowadays there's always porn. a poor substitution for experience. Be prepared to fail.
I'm 26.. lost my virginity 4 months before my 25th bday and just got a bf now.. So yea pretty normal :)
So having a quick read of all the comments n such (I did skim over a little so sorry bout that)...
So your shy and don't talk much? I used to be like that too... seems like you don't have any confidence with yourself?? I'm the same lol and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that at all!
I know you said you don't like social media or like like or something.. but have you tried oasis.com?? That's where I met both my guys.. oasis helped me get to know guys easily so could help you...?