I cant handle my birthdays

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its my 18 birthday tomorrow and i am dreading it i have told my family i,m not doing nothing and i told my firends i,m working the reason i dont like my birthday is that when i was 3 my dad left and since then i can remember i was asked 2 choice between who i would want 2 spend my birthday with! i could never have both of them their and also when i did have a "party" its was only family no friends or going out just sitting in the house talking etc. i mean what kid would wanna stay indoors with family on their birthday. but a couple of days ago my step mum asked me what do i wanna do and i said nothing she told me i,m not normal and it hurt me alot and it got me thinking and since my 13th birthday i have refused to celbrate it and i,m really nerves about tommorw and i hate it when people come around my house i just wanna be left alone but my step mum is really anrgy over it i just wish they would leave me alone !!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You're going to be 18, which is old enough to make up your own mind about whether you're going chill out or whoop it up.

    Although, by the whiny tone of your post, it seems like (deep down) you actually DO want to celebrate your birthday, it's just that you're not willing to celebrate it unless it's EXACTLY like how YOU want it. That's fine. It does seem a little childish and dramatic the way you're explaining this to your family. Makes me think you're not really turning 18, but maybe 15.

    Tip of the day: When you enter the full-time workforce, don't expect to get a day off for your birthday - nobody cares.

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    • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
      12 years ago

      That sounds very reasonable.

      The trick perhaps is to take OWNERSHIP of your day.

      I remember one year my birthday was pretty much ruined because I waited all day for one friend to show up who ditched out. yes he had a valid reason for ditching but ... he never told me in the first place.

      So after that I decided my birthday was my day to do what I wanted to and I would NOT wait around for anyone like that ever again.

      The following year I had a ME day for my birthday... I went out shopping at the mall, bought a gift for Mom's B'day. I went to the book store and spent as much time as I wanted. Then I went out for dinner.

      It was fun because it was a quiet day but... I did what *I* wanted to do, and spent as much time as I wanted on it.

      The year after that I spent my birthday at the mall again and got a glamour shot done. :)

      Now that I'm with my boyfriend he often tries to make it a nice day for me too which is sweet. And I try to make his birthday fun too. :-)

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  • sotv4life
    12 years ago

    get drunk, fucka a bitch...that'll give you a better memory of your birthdays

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  • AnonymousCanada
    12 years ago

    yes this is normal because as a child, you have had to make such difficult decisions on your own birthday! i think that is totally unfair for you, but i say you should give it a shot. now your older and you can have both parents if they would agree to it. or you can say screw both of you and just have friends at your party. if its a good enough party, you will just forget about your parents. your 18, its time to stop letting your parents dictate your life, make a few decisions on your own and on your terms. in short, yes its normal but i think you need to (please dont be offended, this is just for lack of a better term) grow a pair, and show those bitches how to party.

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  • Smilez325
    12 years ago

    Im 15 and dont like celebrating with a huge party. Just family is fine with me.

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    12 years ago

    If you're going to be 18, at least write the damn thing properly.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    Thats about the age when I stopped doing things for mine. Actually, I think I lost interest doing things for mine when I was around 13 as well. Don't worry, there's nothing wrong with that. Some people like to throw a big party, make a big deal about things, and some people don't.

    However, I do get excited to go out to dinner for my birthdays. Its always nice to go to a fancy restaurant and buy something you usually don't get everyday. Something like lobster. And the desserts are usually way better than just a regular cake you'd get any other time, you know. Big parties aren't really my thing, so I'm not the type to have a bunch of people over just for my birthday. And I don't really like to be showered in gifts like I did when I was little. Dinner is usually enough for me.

    One time I specifically told my sister I didn't want the people to come over and sing happy birthday, because I thought it would draw too much attention to the table and be embarrassing. Well, she did anyway. I think that was my 16th birthday, and I remember being so angry at her for doing that.

    By the way, Happy Eighteenth Birthday!!!! And if I am too late, Happy Belated Birthday!!!! I hope everything turned out fine. :)

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  • Darkoil
    12 years ago

    You should be wasted with your mates on your 18th, i had vip in a club and we got a free bottle of champagne, also got thrown out of the club when one of my mates picked me up and we fell down a flight of stairs.

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  • Aurora93
    12 years ago

    I didn't want to turn 18 either. I'd quite happily be about 15 haha.

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  • Tehboss
    12 years ago

    go clubbing come home drunk has fuck proceed to have sex with step mother. Profit achieved

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