I don’t know how to get men?

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I am struggling with social anxiety. I’ve met someone online and at first it was amazing. He said he wanted to meet etc. Seemed really interested. I always worry cause when I find someone like that one day they just start ignoring me.
He isn’t ignoring me but he’s being different I have quizzed him and he has told me he’s still interested and that he’s just busy. He was busy before hand but would still send me messages and photos even when he was driving (bad idea) but he doesn’t know so maybe he’s doing that with another girl?

I’m currently waiting for him to text first cause if he’s really into me he will?
He just seems so like me. And I do like him. I told him I liked him and his reply was ‘cheeky’

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  • CDmale4fem
    6 years ago

    He is probably looking to find another notch on his headboard. Hold off and don't text him. If he truly is interested he will text or contact you somehow. Don't spend your days and nights worrying about a guy that's probably just wanting to get laid. Remember, have your self respect, don't get played for a fool. How far away is this guy supposed to be from you ? If he says he's leaving his gf or getting divorced, turn and run far and fast. I am a guy, I used to 4f as many as I could. 4F = Find'em, feel'em, fuck'em, and forget'em. I know it was rude and childish. If I could do that part of life over again I would. As for the cross dresser part of me, I would leave that part of me the same.

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  • Alduin
    6 years ago

    Use Stun Spore to paralyze him and then use the Dust Kick attack to lower his accuracy, preventing him from shooting you down.
    Then attack him until his health is REALLY low and try using an Ultra Ball on him. This may take several attempts.
    If in doubt, go to Silph Co and plead for their experimental Master Ball and snag Dat Boi in one

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  • jethro
    6 years ago

    Well in these days of #metoo, I would expect that it is going to get a lot tougher for many women to get asked out. I wouldn't want some obscure woman coming out of the woodwork 20 years from now saying that I offended her while I was just trying to get a date. Hookers are much more accessible and less expensive in the long run.

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  • McBean
    6 years ago

    Your social anxiety is indeed working against you. You also seem to fear abandonment. Try googling up "How to be comfortable in your skin".

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  • SIYB
    6 years ago

    What'd he say after you told him?

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  • noozy
    6 years ago

    I would hold off and if you go on a few dates, keep sex off limits and kissing to a minimum. If he is upset by this, then he is just looking for sex.

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  • bbyfawn
    6 years ago

    I have social anxiety too. It sucks, because it makes you think people are pushing you away when really they’re not.

    I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a guy I like not talk to me for a day, and I would freak out because I thought he didn’t like me anymore. Every time this happens, the next time I see him he talks to me like normal again, and I realize I was freaking out for nothing.

    Chances are, it’s all in your head. Your social anxiety is just making you fear that his being busy means he’s rejecting you.

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  • bob7
    6 years ago

    On what app do you talk and have you ever video chatted ?

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  • Wtf055
    6 years ago

    Just chill and relax let him come to you.You're being easily available to him.Put some distance between you and him, and see how he acts.Some guys are like that(not all) they'll take advantage of you just because they Know you like them.But idk, he may not be like that..but be cautious.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I’m scared he won’t come to me.. we have so much in common and he’s said he really wants to meet and glad he’s met me.
      He hasn’t messaged but he’s been online so I don’t know :(

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      • Wtf055
        6 years ago

        Then he's not interested, find someone better.You shouldn't have to go through that if he really was interested in you he'd make time for you.And sending a text literally takes no time at all.A "hey, I'm busy." or something along those lines.People always make time for things they care about.Always.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          I just feel like asking him. Then I can move on. It says he’s been online. But I feel so embarrassed. I wouldn’t know what to say. Feel a pest for messaging everyday

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          • Wtf055
            6 years ago

            Well if it's really getting to you message him.But he's been online and hasn't been messaging you seems like he's not interested.He could also be waiting for you to message him first because he knows you like him.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              6 years ago

              I did that yesterday and he was still being cold so... I said if I’m annoying you or you don’t wanna speak id rather you just tell me... and he just said ‘I’m just really busy’ but I wanna know then I can move on. I want to be told when someone I like isn’t interested only then can I let go.
              Cause it seems like he’s fed me shit.

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