I don’t know how to relationship

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I have a second date on Friday. I have only ever dated. I am getting on well with this man but he’s already mentioning asking me to be his girlfriend... I’ve never been asked that but after one date for me it’s too soon, I’m not even fully sure about him yet. I do like him but don’t know enough about him really. But he says he knows when the time is right... but I guess I should go with it and what happens happens I’m nearly 25 and need to start somewhere, I’ve never even had sex! But putting a label on it is like I can’t talk to other people or see what’s out there anymore, what if I get fed up? I feel there’s so much pressure.

Then it puts in my head if we do become boyfriend and girlfriend I don’t know if he’s the one I want to marry...

So now I’m worried. What if he asks on Friday? Most people have had a few relationships I haven’t had one.

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  • Mrown
    5 years ago

    Becoming his girlfriend doesn't mean you have to have sex or that you have to marry him one day. You can just hang out and if anyone asks you can at least say you're no longer single, you don't have to rush anything. Subtletly take things slowly. If he wants to fuck and you're not ready for it yet, then straight up tell him you want to take things slowly, he will have nothing against it if he really (really) likes you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Thank you.. it’s lile I’m out to find someone to spend my life with... but I guess it doesn’t have to be the first person? I’m just scared I’ll get with him and a few months down the line or whatever I’ll feel like he isn’t the one....

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Tell him you need to take things slowly.

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    • charli.m
      5 years ago

      This.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        5 years ago

        I’m just scared... I do like him if he asks I’ll say yes because I want to see where it goes... but what if In a few months I found out that I feel he isn’t for me?

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        • charli.m
          5 years ago

          Then you tell him what you're feeling. It doesn't have to be forever. Just take it one day at a time.

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            5 years ago

            So having a boyfriend is just seeing ‘where it goes’ still? Lol

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            • McBean
              5 years ago

              Yep. Spontaneity is your best clue that the near future is bright.

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            • charli.m
              5 years ago

              Well yeah. It's hardly a lifetime commitment from the get go.

              It's just an exclusive, "seeing where it goes" without also seeing where things go with others as well.

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  • Theguywiththoughts
    5 years ago

    I'm not sure what kind of man he is but if u need the time to know him I would take the time. It's not about never had sex, don't worry about that. Also, if he is a normal human being (meaning non toxic person) he wouldn't care much if you had your own time. Being in a relationship doesn't always mean spend time 100% of the time on ur bf. But people who are abusive will make you spend time with them. Second part, when you know you love him, you will want to have sex with him. It doesn't have to be pressured sex. I think he needs to keep the pressure off and play it like you guys are both friends.

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  • Nicole20
    5 years ago

    The statement he made sounds pretty suspect to me. "He, knows when the time is right". Umm first of all no, it's a joint decision and secondly, no he apparently doesn't know, because it makes you uncomfortable.

    I'd look for someone else. One date isn't enough if you didn't know him for a long time prior to this.

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  • leggs91200
    5 years ago

    Stop using nouns as verbs you retard.
    Or as you might put it - Stop retarding.
    It is "I don't know how to have a relationship."

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  • 19sammi91
    5 years ago

    Lol me n my partner skipped all that haha (online dating app) first time we met we had sex!!

    BUT I totally get why your worried.. I'd never had sex or literally anything (kissing, the like) until I was about 25 as well or had a boyfriend till I was 26 going 27 lol

    That all said i agree with Rose.. tell him you wanna take it slow and have a few more dates and if he doesn't like that.. he ain't the one for you!!

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