I don't care about other people

I'm basically the same, despite having been brought up in a poor family.

I'm the same way. Furthermore, I just don't like most people that I meet.

Most people here are missing the point or are being downright dishonest. Apart from Mother Teresa & the Dalai Lama, perhaps, everyone else on the planet is motivated by self-interest although this plays out differently. People give to charity, such as Cancer Relief, not because they're philanthropic but because it's insurance for the future. People like having partners and friends because they validate self worth and give assurance. Think about it. How many people makes self sacrifices for others benefit? There've been many social experiments to see how many people go to the aid of someone being assaulted or who'll help a 'lost' child. The shocking reality is that very few people do. Most look away and walk on by pretending not to notice. That is fact.

Are they faking? Or are you?

Some people are capable of faking emotions and believe me, some are good at faking emotionless. So try to ask yourself if you are trying to fake to yourself.

So you might have a personality disorder >.>
But as seeing that you realize yourself and are bothered enough to ask it here . . . it's a pass. Afterall , people are selfish by birth. You are kinda-normal. You just need time and someone to show you lots and lots of love.
Happy learning love =) [i can't believe i said it o.o!]

I signed up mainly to say I feel the same exact way as the OP. I have a fairly different situation as I work for a living and probably older (mid-twentys). I am probably one of the most outgoing people you would ever meet in person.

I love my mother dearly (never met my father) so I can probably say she is the only person I truly "care" about in my life.

All others, just a guise really. In the end of the day, I really don't "care" about anyone else. Sure people grow on me, but for how long? Not long after I don't have to see you anymore.

I truly enjoy being alone, there is nothing better to me than being able to be alone with my thoughts.

I understand the terror and horror in this world, and I am grateful I live in a country where I am essentially free, but I don't care about the lives of those people. Its not like im happy when there is a disaster, but I am not sad when things like this happen. That's life for you.

In my honest opinion, there are way too many people on this world now, if there was a plague that wiped out 60-70%% of the population the human race would be better off for a thousand years or so. Regardless if I was in that 60-70%%.

Now, the next time someone says have a nice day while getting off the elevator, think to yourself, would this person feel anything if the cable snapped and you fell to your death. Probably not, other than glad it wasn't me ;-)

BTW, I am in my opinion one of the happiest people I have ever met because I don't carry the burden of other peoples worries/cares/sadness/or hopes. I am in this game for myself til' the end!

You should think about caring about other people. Just think, if nobody cared about you, then you would have to get off your lazy ass and make your own money instead of people giving it to you.

You sound like a sociopath (look it up)

Perhaps it's just that you haven't had the right experiences yet to trigger the feeling of caring about, loving, or missing other people. "Good" and "Bad" are man-made ideas that rely on one another to exist. If you haven't had enough bad experiences - such as losing a loved one, being abandoned, etc - then perhaps that's why you don't feel the good feelings about what you already have.

Be careful what you wish for, 'cuz you just might get it. My advice would be to find reasons to be thankful, - truly and honestly thankful. That may help kick-start your karma so that you don't lose what you've got.

You are normal. If you are happy the way you are then thats okay. The reverse of your situation are all those stupid people who give their lives to others, the martyrs who are being used and abused. You will feel that your relationships with others is shallow and worthless, and others may react with similar treatement to yourself, this in turn impacting on your self image. As longs as you are okay with this, then the world is yours to take.

Honestly, I wish I was like you from the very start! Looking back, I really regret caring so much about others. I should have let them suffer and I worked on getting multiple jobs so I be financially secure. It seems like everyone walks around acting as if they truly care about others but the moment you need help, they all disappeared. At least in my case it was and still is.

All it comes down to is self-interest. I've helped friends and family alike in the past with money and time (giving rides, filling out forms, etc.) but when I was rear ended and didn't have a car for about a month, everyone's response was "sorry, I would help but I have to do this or that". These excuses kept on coming whenever I needed help and they weren't even related to money, they were just a one way ride to get surgery (since I would be under anesthesia and was not able to drive) or after my eye exam (pupils dilated).

After 10 years or so of this, I've decided to not give a damn anymore no matter what the sob story is. It's sad but when it comes down to it, you have to look out for yourself first because no one else will. People can say that I'm cold hearted but answer this...would you honestly be okay with dropping everything to help someone else whenever they needed help if you weren't getting anything in return (unless of course you're super rich and don't need to work)? I didn't think so.

Wow, you sound like my domestic partner's daughter. Out for yourself and use everyone around you. At least you're honest about being a useless bloodsucker who expects everything in return for nothing from you. I'll give you credit for that. It's just unfortunate that you'll probably breed, contributing further to global overpopulation and parasite redundancy.

Very NOT normal. You could have narcissistic personality disorder, or schizoid personality disorder.

Wow. Your entry just helped me a lot. I have been struggling with this recently and I just couldn't understand myself. I personally have learned that it stems from unforgiveness that I am really working hard on. But, when I read your entry, it made me care about you. Wow. I didn't think I had the capacity to really be concerned or care about anyone until I saw that someone else was going through the same thing....thanks.
I think those that are criticizing you need to work on their own compassion. Doesn't seem like they care much about what you are struggling with...huh?

Yeah...you're a sociopath. It's ok...doesn't mean you'll do horrible things but you won't sympathize with other either. For all of you that think this is survival of the fittest....YOU ARE WRONG. We are social animals and we are wired to feel for others so that we can relax and be assured they feel the same for us. We're mean to survive as a species...in social groups...not alone. If everyone felt (or didn't feel) like this person, the species (and every individual) wouldn't survive. Just like lions and other social animals, they form bonds and FEEL what the others are feeling so they can be much stronger as a group than as a bunch of individuals.

You asked is your attitude normal...not if it was natural. In my experience, your 'I don't care' attitude is becoming the new normal in the 21st century. More and more it seems people are becoming desensitized and don't care about anyone but themselves. Now if you had asked, 'is this natural?' My reply would be no it's not. The reason being even animals care. Animals love. Love and caring comes natural to animals. The difference between us and them is we have a developed intellect with which we can discriminate and choose. Their intellects are not developed so they move with their heart, with their feelings, instinct and senses. Something else I've noticed is people who don't care develop physical heart problems as they go through life. Their blood circulation is not so good since there is a constriction in the heart. Something to think about...

lonely lonely lonely

I DON THINK THIS IS FAKE. really, it sounds like SPD - Schizoid Personality Disorder. it occurs in less than 1%% of the population. but these people avoid social relationships and/or do not care about them. People to them mean nothing. if you associate yourself with someone it's most likely because you're getting something out of it.

this is not schizophrenia nor is it like it. but yeah. im just a psych student who likes to hear about this kind of shit. hope this answers you and you read this.

ya little git

youre going to be sad and alone for the rest of your life

Honestly, everyone likes to think that everyone likes each other and is nice, but the truth is, no one gives a sh*t. I'm a very loving person, but I'm practical. If a little girl was being chased by a pedophile (sp?) in a busy street with her screaming for help, no one would pay attention (that's why when I was a kid I was always taught to scream "FIRE!").

Not caring about people is who you are, and although it's not a good thing, you can't change it. Maybe one day you'll meet someone you love and start feeling for people, but whatdaya gunna do?

Piece of advice, many people are doing to think your just a rich bastard, so you might want to make an effort to find a way to be nice. Find your passion i helping people!

~Hekate

Sounds like you are depressingly average. These days most people are self centered, entitled, border-line sociopaths. That's why they write stories, make movies and celebrate people who care and even call these people heroes. Because most people are like you and are basically bores. Perhaps you will mature into something better than you are now?

being normal is not always the best for you.

You're better off then others really. You clearly know what you enjoy and have the decency to logically examine your role in your society. As long as you don't harm anyone and you can still enjoy your life hell! you are set to go.

You seem to have a very odd sence of emotion, my mother tends to avoid being sympathetic, but she still cares. I think what you need to do is sit back, think of one person, and think of the good times you and they have had together. Think really, wouldn't it be depressing that you lost everyone around you, and you had no one just to talk to? You may not see things this way, but I belive many people do.

It seems to be a common thing with money, I too am from upper-middle class and can be incredibly manipulative. Luckily, or maybe unluckily, my parents split and I'm on my own, sans money, so I've learned to care about people.
I babysit a girl who's father has money, and she is the same, even at such a young age.
You're normal.

Your a self centered person,and I suppose when you finally DO care about someone your bad karma may come back to haunt you and they won't CARE about how YOU feel.Doesn't seem to be to cool hugh?No one else matters? Then your life is pointless,vain and outright not worth even this comment IMO.God bless you to make you a BETTER person.That STUFF won't go with you when you die.Seems your a troll.I hope so.

i think people like you are put on earth in order to make comparisons to good people. I mean... what good is good when there is no bad

you will learn the hard way green horn life just does not work that way you can't check out for ever I know your scared to care because your afraid of being hurt but if you keep going down this road your on something bad will happen to you life will smash you 'you will understand and won't forget my words I promise you cause I know what I'm talking a bout I'm older then you and lived longer and I'm gifted I would take the next exit off this highway your on trust me your still young you got this idea from someone or something you read burn it fast or you will be so sorry I say this only to help you you won't hear from me a gain I'm only a messenger I came to this page for some reason do what you will but you were warned find another way to acted cool posting this type message will spread bad karma to you and those you love its your choice

good luck

it kinda actually bothers me because seems that people care about each other so much, yet i don't. hmm

You are normal infact i think you are the start of our evolution
people do not care about people
"its all about me"
my land my money my power fuck every1 elce is what i get from most people
no1 recycles no1 stops to help people
if some1 goes into a restorant an makes a mess they leave it for some1 elce, people spend there time praying instead of doing.
people are lazy an selfish,
there is a backstabbing jean that sevives because all the caring people have been
killed over time.
The real question you sould be asking is...
"do i want my kids to be like this or treated by others like this."

if not, then only you can do somthing about it m8.
try caring about people you dont know or showing people you love them, not with words or money, but with actions.

eg if a homless person was on the street. dont walk past or give him/her money stop speak to them put up with the smell ask them if they want something to eat get them food chat with them find out how this has happend an work out what can be done to stop this, an most importanty do somthing about it even if it means somthing simple like increasing others awarness of this.

its true you know we realy do make the paths for our children to follow

just remeber if you tell them they wont listen or learn.
if you show them, then maybe some will learn.
but if you involve them, then not only will they learn, they will teach

Oh my god...we're the same -__-", I don't really care about if anyone died too...unless if they benefit me in any way that is...but never cried too...

I do not understand this way of viewing life. I think I am an emotional person and my heart tends to feel things too intensely so I really cannot understand why you feel nothing. When I see others suffering and grieving I also get sad and I cannot help but care. I guess this is called mercy and compassion. Does this make me a weak person, NOT AT ALL. I feel the fact that someone can feel things genuinely is a strength and means you have the guts to make a difference in the world. Life is not about making money, or having a lot of sex or being the most popular…Life is about having meaning and purpose, and if you are able to help others and give them happiness than you will feel much more complete. At the end of the day if you continue living your life deprived of genuine human concern, you will slowly develop a void in your life. All I am saying is life needs meaning and life cannot have meaning if we do not consider other people in our perception.

To that end about being outgoing, that is the guise. I find being an outstanding and outgoing person when in public places/at work opens doors for me.

Also, obviously I am not religious, and find that to be a waste of time.

You don't have to be like others. As long as you are self-content and don't bother others that much, then it's not a big deal, even if this really bothers some people. Whatever~ Probably they are just people who hold the value "only being the same means being right" and like imposing it on others...

i kinda am like this except i just dnt feel for anything, yes i could be with someone but ive never loved them and never got into an actual relationship with them ive never had a bf/gf and yes i do like intimacy. i feel like my life and everything around me is pointless and just want to die. you may find me ungrateful but i cant help it. ive had my nan die and my best friend die and didnt feel a thing i didnt care and i still dont. im not all lonely and everything because im probably the most weirdest kid u will ever know if you met me in person as i do have a lot of fun but :/ i just dnt feel, i havent cried in years and years not even out of pain :(

You made my day. Let me begin by saying that "normal" is overrated. What does it mean to be normal? It ends up being average, mediocre, fit in and don't stand out because it can be dangerous. I don't like being normal. I prefer to be outstanding. I don't care about others either. I'm an only child, I've never had true friends and I have never fit in anywhere. I felt embarrassed for that, but now, actually I feel much better not fitting in. I care about my parents just because they are my parents, but they made me go through the worst three years of my life from 25 to 28. But I've forgotten them because you can't live with resentment all your life. It will kill you inside. I love to observe people and human behavior, but I don't like to mix with them. My only boundary is not to harm anyone. I acknowledge I am selfish, so what? I live truly happy in my own island. My life is about art, consuming and creating it. That's all I need. But the majority of people cannot understand that feeling. "Humans are social animals" is not an affirmation. It's a mantra and it's false. It's not a truth. I'm asocial and I don't suffer any disorder. In fact, enjoying time alone is a luxury at a very few people's reach. Some of you wrote he/she pretended very well feelings towards others. I'll try to do so. It sounds so funny.

It's not what I would call typical but it's not unusual, if that makes sense. You sound spoiled and line you get what you want, so why would you have to care? It sounds like maybe the issue is that you get material fulfillment but perhaps not emotional fulfillment for you to grow an attachment to those who gave you care as a child. I don't know. I don't give a shot about other people except for their role in my love and have anti social as well as narcissistic tendencies. But I had a spotty upbringing and a lot of issues like being molested so I turned off my feelings a long time ago.

Dear OP, I think the well will run dry eventually and the more you can assert your own independence (financially) the better. You're also young and naive, perhaps you are one of those like me who only appreciates things when they are gone.

The thing is, birth and death are equally beautiful even though death is often frowned upon. You see, we are just a spec in the universe and in the time span of infinity it's all good, everything will happen again in due time. Death is natural, unavoidable and is expected, therefor to the extremely logical person it is no big deal. And it shouldn't be. Shamans of the past ventured into the planes of death and they could not possibly do that if death had any power of them. The majority of humans have much to learn from our ancestors.

I hate the term sociopath. You are fully allowed to be anti-social and psychopathic as you please. Even murder is acceptable so as long as you accept the consequences. For every droplet there is a ripple effect. As Aleister Crowley said, "Do as thou wilt". Your own karma is your own beef. But the thing to remember that he also said is "love under will". You have yet to understand the universe and the simple laws that could change your life. Nevermind morality and stupid human-based philosophies, here is a lesson selfishness...:The more you give, the more you'll get. I challenge you to spend a week living in absolute love and honesty, with yourself and others, and you will be dumbfounded by how "lucky" you become. You are God, do not underestimate your power, ever.

You are vile piece of scum. You don't deserve to live. I only ever think about helping others, ESPECIALLY my family. Some of the comments I've seen, like "I was taught to scream fire because no one would help a girl getting chased by a paedophile on a busy street" haha I don't know what sort of place you must be from honey, but where I'm from paedophiles are brutally beaten for things like this. I can't understand why most people can't think of others. You are ALL (mostly) vile pieces of s*** that don't deserve to walk the Earth. I bet you're all a REAL bunch of characters. I honestly hope most of the people on this who think its a 'dog-eat-dog' world genuinely end up getting severely disfigured then have no one care about them. I honestly do. Because only then will you undesirable pieces of s*** realise that maybe they're not the most important people on the planet. You OBVIOUSLY think a lot of yourselves to only think of yourselves 24/7 haha. You are actually a disgrace to humanity. The funny thing is you probably get so much in return from others who actually CARE, but give NOTHING back. My guess is most of you go to university haha. That explains it. Most of these people feel the need to step on others to 'get to where they need to in life'. Nothing but complete piles of f*****g s***. That does not regard ALL who go to university. I happen to have a few friends in uni, however, most people in uni tend to have this attitude of self-worth.

One day you will care about someone a whole lot and they won't care about you and that will be good for you. Stay that way, don't change, please.

Caring is a feedback loop about emotional investment if you like spending time with someone or something you choose to spend time doing that which creates more opportunity for emotional investment. As long as you keep liking a person or a thing then over time you just care more and more about them or it.

If you don't like people then you will never care about them.

If you only like what you get from people that's all you will care about.

If you only like helping people that's all you will care about.

If you like being a lone wolf better than being part of a community then being a lone wolf is what you will care about.

If you like to lose yourself in conversation with others and grow, adapt and change then that's what you will care about.

Self interest is the root of all behaviour.

If that is true that you are not affected if someone nears you died, you are dead inside. Without empathy, I don't think one can be called a human.

I feel the same.i think what if I'm never good enough for anyone.I'm both good and bad.my bad side is I don't care about anyone.I feel I'm not good enough to be with good people,and I'm not bad enough to be with bad people,i dont like bad people.I have good trait,like I always act kind to others,I hate people who are evil who want to hurt other people.I feel moved when i see poor people,i want to help poor people.Both my mother and father are good people .My father is a person with love,moral,high selfesteem.My mother is good too but she can have not so good traits,well when compared to other good women she have not so good traits,she doesnt have deep love. Maybe she cares about others but not so deep,it's superficial.I wonder if I can ever find anyone like me.I know there are good people with bad sides but.how can I find a boyfriend,because i think im never good enough for good guys.i'm pretty good at judging people,i can see who's good who's bad .but it also means that i always judge myself.i dont have friends at the moment.In the past,i can fake and i still have friends.but i have done so many wrong things in life .I dont need a boyfriend,but my country,my family put pressure on me.i think i can live happily by myself for the rest of my life.i'm asian, a lot of asian dont get married.but it is only in japan. I live in a poorer country,where everyone want you to get married. The daughter of the president of Singapore doesnt marry.And he said it's up to you but you will feel lonely later in life.If you feel the same like me,can we make a little more contact .i googled"i dont care about anyone" to find people that are like me.i want to become friends .

No, you are absolutely not normal. You wouldn't care if one of your friends died? You've "never cried" over another person? You sound like a narcissist. The bottom line is you lack empathy, and you need to seek psychological help immediately. On one hand you could potentially have Asperger's or high functioning autism, on the other, your lack of empathy could be pathological - either Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder. It could also be a combination therein.

Seeking help is imperative in your case because those who pathologically lack empathy are capable of inflicting physical and psychological harm on others without remorse. In other words, you could have criminal tendencies.

People who lack empathy see others as mere objects, much in the way you are using your own family for financial support, whilst not caring for or about them. Shame on you!

People like yourself are a detriment to society for the hurt and grief you knowingly or unknowingly inflict upon others. I feel sorry for you. I also suggest you try volunteering in an effort to develop compassion for those around you. This world is already full of selfish people, what we need is more love, kindness, caring and compassion.

You should read about Objectivism. I wish I could reach your state of not giving a damn about others. Well, to some extent I don't care. But caring what they think is hard to shake. I think you have just never known anyone worth anything to you selfishly. If you knew someone that you utterly loved being around and they were irreplaceable in your life, then you would feel sad if they died because you liked them selfishly. I don't think it's normal, but the world is not sane. People care too much about others, what they think of them, what they think, what they do, what they are doing, what they will do, how they are, how they will be, whether they are happy, whether they are poor. Life is about living it and being happy. You might have a problem, but I think you might be one of the only sane people in the world left.

I feel the same way, I have emotions, but I'm narcissistic to the point of sociopathy. If my friend were to die, I would be annoyed that I don't get to talk to them any more and I have one less friend, I wouldn't really care that a person had died. I've learnt to pretend by working at a supermarket, but I evaluate situations as how they affect me.

I can relate, tonight i googled " i dont care about anybody" and this is what i found, I am relieved to see i'm not alone, I turn on anyone who doesnt do what I want, when I want, my mother refused to cosign an auto loan for me today and I told her never to contact me again, Who does that?? That cant be normal.

If you care enough to post this question in the public space then you still have hope.

I care because I need them. So essentially, I care only to make them stay in my life. I'm just a needy person, I need the people in my life right now. Do I actually care about them, like would I take a bullet for them? Probably not, but would I pull them out of the street if a car came? Yeah definitely. I don't I guess I'm not sure what I would do, I definitely don't feel the need to protect my loved ones. I actually feel a need to be protected. So I'm just needy. I don't care about very many people though, it would take awhile to get me to care. I am usually very interested in people, but do I care? No, not for everyone.

My mom whom I love very much, I think I take for granted. I unleash my anger at her, because I know she will be always be there no matter what. But I don't want to hurt her, it's not my intention to hurt her. It's just that I am very self centered, self focused. I am the most important person in my life.

I would say if anything, my behavior is a little more narcissistic than normal, but even then I am aware of it and can admit to a lot of people actually. I'm not proud of being selfish all the time, but at the same time, you gotta watch your own ass, or else people will just step all over it.

Keep it up! Cheers!

I hear all the posts in here, and I identify. I feel that I only act in my own self-interest as well, and that is the problem. I say it is a problem because when I look around, I see people every single day acting in the interests of others, be it friends, family, co-workers, etc. If you are a Harry Potter fan, the main message of the series was loyalty to friends and putting them before yourself. I believe that is a valid point. If you do not think so, then ask yourself about the movies "Troy" and "Braveheart". Could you rush into battle like that knowing that you will most certainly die painfully, and for a cause that you will not be around to witness the fruition of? I didn't think so. Neither could I. And yet, they somehow did it for family and country. Someone please explain to me how their bravery can be reduced to "self-interest" (If you are dead, then you are not around to soak in the praises for bravery).

Im almost the same as op, but its nice to care for friends and your loved ones. Especially if you love another person, you will become less selfish and want to care. Things will change for the better. But for those that says op has a disorder or what not, its all bs. Everyone thinks differently from different backgrounds, views and opinions, you can't just base it off whatever disorder test just because their behavior does not match that of the so called 'norm'. You are who you are

i have a question thuogh..how can you be happy without spending ur time with people u really care about ..at laest for a little bit?

well aftr 2 years is it worth bothering, probably a piece written to "stir it up" there's a lot of it about. Ignore it. It takes practice but it's worth it in the end.

no. try to meditate over compassion.