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I know it's none of my business and people can do whatever makes them happy so I'm not judging but what is the point in a really long engagement? Ex. 2 years or longer.
Yaaa....money, uncertainty, spur of the moment kinda regret it type thang....lots of reasons.
Most of the time it's a money issue. They're trying to save as much as possible to throw a big wedding.
Usually two reasons why; someone wants to put the wedding off because they're scared/uncertain, or they want to throw the biggest most extravagant wedding possible
It depends. Sometimes people get engaged because they think it's fun and exciting and haven't actually given any thought to the future, so they keep stalling.
Other times there are legitimate reasons people wait - they might be saving up money, they might both be at a very intense time of their career/study and want to wait until things have calmed down, they might be living far apart in the short term and have to wait until they can live together, there might suddenly
be a pandemic which means that their family and friends can't travel to the wedding ... there's lots of reasons.
Young immature people gets engaged for the sake of it with no real plans to marry in the near future because they don't understand much.
I have a termination clause in relationships i get into where it's a mandatory break up if an engagement lasts more than 2 years. Cause that just means theres something wrong that needs ironing out relationship wise and since it wasnt resolved in 2 years theres very little chance it will get fixed with additional years.
I think they just want the attention or feel like its making it into a more serious relationship.
Mind your own bees, Nancy, jfc. Marriage is a rather large commitment, what with the co-mingling of finances & lives. If people want time, they should take it. Better to go nice and slow than get swept down the river of regret. Haste is waste.
Personally, it's been down to the cost (financial, emotional, professional, etc) of uprooting my life to be with him. I like to plan for shit and not have any unpleasant surprises. Big fancy wedding doesnt interest us, but I want to make sure we're financially prepared for several eventualities, plus I wanted some time with my elderly grandmother, because once I make the move, I probably will never get to see her again and that fucking sucks.