I dont like sex. iin?

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I have not had sex in over three years and if you were to tell me that it would be that way for the rest of my life, I would be ok with it. Is this normal? Im a 27 year old female. You may look at me and I may look like a "sexually healthy, fit, great body/sexy etc" but i just dont have a sexual appetite. at all.

I never liked it. Even when I use to have sex with ex boyfriends, I was not fully into it. I just wanted it to be over. The stickyness of it, the intimacy, any little thing would distract me; my feet would get cold and I would think during the act "gosh dolly my feet are cold, when will he be done"

if he were to rip my clothes off, i would genuinenly think oh no not my shirt you ruined it." rather than the whole "rough sex" deal or w.e

Is this normal? I have been researching this "Asexuality" orientation and im suspecting I might be that. Who else is with me?

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  • PlebolaVirus
    8 years ago

    Then don't participate in it. I'm asexual, and haven't done anything sexual in nearly seven years. You don't need to fill your genitals with congealed semen and foreign bacteria to live a satisfactory life.

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    • xfg14
      8 years ago

      But where will men relieve themselves if not in the toilet between a woman's legs?

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        8 years ago

        In their hands

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  • Tempest-au
    7 years ago

    I used to be an exceedingly sexually active male when I was younger. Now I'm 48 and effectively a cripple, and I've not had sex with anything other than my hand in a little over 3 years. To be honest, I don't miss it.

    There isn't a "law" that says you need to have sex, particularly if you are not in a relationship with someone. If (like me) you are happy being single, then don't worry about it. As far as I know nothing shrivels up from lack of use, it's all going to be there if you change you mind later.

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  • LittleMissSociopath
    7 years ago

    glad i found you because i am a 27 year old female, i know i am pretty, but i don't want to be touched i never think about sex its been two years now. It's kind of sad, because i know sex can be enjoyable i have obviously had my share. You sound just like me with this situation! There were a lot of times where i just wanted it to be over too. The way i see it, is if we are happy living with no sex then lets keep living :)

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  • AB1234
    7 years ago

    I'd say you're pretty lucky. Nearly every big problem all my friends have is related to relationships. It's always been that way. And sex is always a big part of the problem. Who the other person is also sleeping with. Whether the other person is good or bad in bed. What the other person's genital size or look is. The other person's sexual stamina. How many sex partners the other person has had. And it goes on and on and on.

    Worse yet, even though I'm not 27 yet, everyone is always breaking up because something more titillating comes along, or because they're bored sexually, or because they're tempted... And I know you know about all those hook-up websites out there... So if you're not into sex, just imagine all the frustrations you don't have to deal with. You can have friendships and relationships with others who feel as you do, without the jealousy or other sex-related emotional discomforts.

    Not to mention you don't have to worry about STDs. I say, if you're happy living your own life, that's all that really matters. Have fun!

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  • LadyEmmaBug
    8 years ago

    Definitely normal, you're probably asexual or on the ace spectrum. Yes, those are real things. tumblr didn't come up with them. Just take some time to figure it all out, I guess.

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  • strangethingshappen
    8 years ago

    Most guys are horny pricks that don't give a rats about a girls sexual "needs". Yes its normal and I feel the same way, yet I haven't had sex before and I'm almost 22 :O

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Normal? No, not at all. It was some 50 years or more ago, but with women's lib came the right of every woman to enjoy sex openly. To become a participant, rather than a husband's plaything.
    It sounds as if you've never really been madly, passionately and crazy in love. Like you've never been with anyone who cared more about YOUR pleasure than his.
    I sincerely hope that one day you do meet a man who will 'rock your world'.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I've only been truly passionately and madly in love once in my lifetime and i really did wish to lose my virginity to this guy; often i would fantasize and be aroused by it. When I would be near him or even so much as him touching or holding my hand, I'd go crazy thinking about what he would do with those hands to me. Id fantasize about us.

      Truth is that never happened because he got killed in a car accident over 10 years ago.

      Since then no i havent "fallen in love"; quite the opposite- i am repulsed by the idea of love and sex and all that

      if i have sex its because its "what two persons are "supposed" to do" who are attracted to each other.

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  • xfg14
    8 years ago

    Maybe you haven't discovered what you're sexually aroused by yet.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Ive only slept with 3 guys in my lifetime the first time when i lost my virginity i did not want to but i was so damn nervous and scared that i forced myself to "face my fear" (I was 25 and the pressure of 'you are too old to be a virgin' mentality was strong) I pretty much just lay there. The second time was the same; i fcuked the guy as hard as i could so he could come quickly and it would be over, all the while i thought "omg hurry up come already"

      aaand the third time well i faked it again lol

      i mean my goodness! how many guys do i have to fuck or lack of to "sexually awaken" or be enlightened or reach this happiness everyone claims im missing out on

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