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All I want to know is if its normal to get whipped with a belt instead of grounded?I dont realy have a story.my parents have just always whipped me instead of grounding me.I think its the way my dad was raised.he said he always got whipped when he was young.so is it normal?
people think just because they were raised like that, thats the proper way to decipline there children. there kind of wrong it only makes the kid want to seak revenge and unaware of it they become more rebelous
Anyone over a certain age, say 35 yo, routinely got their butts spanked growing up...perfectly normal...:-)
Call the police buddy that's not cool. Next time he does that as he's walking away take your belt and whip him in the back of the head! It's not normal at all, it's also erm.. What's the word... ILLEGAL.
Yes whipping your kids sometimes is the only option as long as you do it on their butt and don't continue after on blow.
Kids now a days talk back to there parents and do not respect adults.
A good whoop ass always gets there attention and will stop them from talking over you.
Do not listens to these dip shit parents who call it child abuse.
Children without disapline grow up to be arrogant heart less human beings.
Just do not over do it a good belt whooping should only be done when enough is enough and your kids will not listen after several warnings.
Yes its normal some of you kids are out of control grounding is for babies if you're being little assholes by all means your ass should be torn ip with the belt
it was definately normal for me to get spanked but i was usally grounded along with it. my mom would give me 3-10 whacks with either the licking stick or the belt depending on how bad i was. as i got older i still got the belt, it just got a lot worse. starting when i was in 5th grade, if i did something that called for a whipping my mom would give me 10 licks with a belt and then make me tell my dad what i did. that was the worst. he would take me to the basement and tell me to take off my belt and give it to him. then i would have to pull down my pants and bend over the back of a chair. he would whoop my bare ass 15-25 times! that really HURT! i would have huge welts and bruises that lasted for weeks. it hurt to sit down for a long time but i was always grounded for at least 2 weeks anyway.
grounding kids may seem to be the more popular punishment but i think its still normal to get the belt. i saw my cousin get it when he was 14 and i have even gotten whipped the metal buckle when i was caught stealing at age 12
thats pretty normal..my parents got spanked and so did i. sometimes kids just need a swift kick in the ass to let them know what's good!
I don't believe that spanking/ no spanking is the issue here.
It's bad/ good parenting. I know children who have never been spanked and are the best kids. This is because their parents took the time to actually parent them!
I personally don't plan on spanking my children; I plan on parenting.
@OTHER09 GREAT reply! yep, great parents use their brains not their brawn to raise superior kids. These kids know the difference between right and wrong, respect their great, loving parents AND really try to live up to their parents expectations. (Like as a kid, I tried very hard to do) SO, if the parents aren't lazy, dumb, slugs but try their best to give the kids love AND guidance, these kids will NOT be the retarded predators of the future.
my son that is 12 years old told his farther to fuck off oh boy when his farther got home he grab his strap and gave him a whipping with the strap until his ass was red and that was with a bare bum we believe in the strap in our home it works I don't care what people say that is the rule in our home you lie swear steal misbehave you get the strap that's final
It helps kids not let anyone take advantage of them. My kid does that and no one gives him shit. But he's not a bully either. One of ur kids try to take my kids toys... He will whip his ass. It makes men.
Well this is a pretty sad commentary. Sad because so many adults still see whipping, whacking & hitting of little children is OK, even desirable.
So tell me this. If you settled things that way with adults - what would happen? You'd be charged and convicted. Fact is no one should be abused that way. Especially not children.
And what do you think you are teaching? That assaultive behaviour is the way to settle problems? Wow what a great life lesson. Just what we need - more bullies and criminals.
And for all those to say that it is the lack of hitting that is why children are out of control, you are wrong. It is the lack of skill and attention to providing children with real teaching & discipline - in other words - incredibly ignorant parents who are ill prepared to raise children.
Finally, our prisons are full of people who as children had the shit beat out of them.
How do people turn whipping with a belt into spanking? Doesn't that say a lot about what spanking really means! Your father could be charged with assault even in the US.
It is sad that so many parents were raised this way and grow up believing that not only is it OK to assault children, its good for them. Common sense alone would tell you that you don't solve problems by hitting. It is violent, demeaning and has a name: child abuse.
Ask your dad to stop and to choose appropriate forms of discipline if you think it is safe to and might work. Contact your school counsellor, children's services or the police to get support and advice.
Have 3 sons, ages 16, 14 and 12, and I use my belt on them when they deserve a whipping! The schools here, Texas, also paddle and my sons can get up to 10 swats for bad behavior at school. If they bring home "the Note", which must be signed and returned to school in the am, I strap them 2x what they recieve in school! Yea, I am strict, ans so are most paretns around here!
I am 34 years old and was spanked by my parents up till age 9. From about the age of 13 til I moved out of my moms house I got away with pretty much anything. Because of the lack of discipline I as an adult have gotten the dignosis of intermitent explosive disorder and oppositional defiant disorder and have been kicked out of many adult foster care homes and group homes because I have a very aggresive, defiant attitude. As an adult I have looked on line about spanking therapy for adults which they have but have a court order legal that would have to report that because of the vulnerable adult laws here in minnesota. Anyways my point being keep up the good work you are doing and don't let your kids become like me
Well I was whiped with the belt and hand. I prefered belt over the hand. With the hand I felt violated for some reason and once I told my dad that and after that he just used the belt on me. Honestly I agree with spankings. It is parents who spank their kids when they are not in control that creates the issue with spanking. Spanking is for when the child can't control themselves or they need an immeadiate consequence like running out in the miidle of a buisy street. My mom used to say if you don't get in control of your self, I will get control for you. I knew that meant I would get a spanking if I didn't stop throwing a temper tantrum. I am greatfull my parents spanked me because it showed me they are in control, there are consequences for my actions, and it honestly showed me they love me.
If your child say's NO, and they're being serious, it's not only child abuse, but could also be assault. The only thing my dad whipping me with a belt changed about me, was it made me temporarily suicidal, so please, do not whip your children. And honestly, Neanderthals (early humans/cave men) never hit each other unless for a mate. they rely on each other to survive, and so do we. So STOP
I think I have only ever been spanked once in my life, and honestly I think I would have turned out better if I were disaplined more. Not that I was a trouble maker growing up. And that one time was because my grandfather told my mother to do it. She coddled me right after. I'm sure my parents were raised like that and many generations did. As for how things are now, people are so scare about hurting children and tramatizing them, yet we let them play games like Call of Duty.
i don't ever remember being whipped.. or frankly, punished at all. i used to get my TV priveleges taken sometimes, but if there was something i was dying to watch, my mom would relent XD
i don't know. as long as you don't have giants welts across your ass, i guess it isn't so bad. society frowns on that kind of thing now, but people are overly sensitive. just as long as you feel safe in your own home...
Ya it's tottally normal. My dad used to spank me and if i was super bad he'd bring out the belt, now i get grounded since i'm in highschool. As long as your parents are keeping the whippings under control then it's fine.
yeah i agree with redneck up there, sharing is for faggots...if some other kid tries to take your kids' toy, i suggest killing them. that will learn them. stupid violent people....
anyway in answer to the question NO it certainly NOT normal to be hit as punishment, especially if you are old enough to post on this site, and i mean physically old enough, not legally, but ESPECIALLY if you're over 18. then it's just assault, rather than child abuse.
also read a basic psychology book people: punishment simply doesnt work, so NO form of punishment should be used. it's better to reinforce the correct behaviour with rewards. im glad i live in a civilised country where if you hit your child, you go to jail, where you belong with the other scum.
It makes men a-holes, yeah. Just keep all your violent butts away from me, thanks. Kids should understand why they shouldn't do certain things - if they see the real consequence they will get the message. If you just hit them they will just be afraid of you and getting caught. You are disrespecting your kids by hitting them. Understanding begets understanding. I can't wait till people who only know how to communicate by violent means die out because they are dinosaurs. Get with civilization.
I wholeheartedly agree with Ollieo. Hitting begets hitting. What does that child who is spanked do when their friend grabs their toy? They hit them. Where on earth did someone decide that hitting people--especially children!!--is a good behavior modification technique?!
Ah and just so you know I was not punished with whipings as a child, now that I am older I wish my parents would have takin the belt to me. I got away with alot because I thought my parents were push overs. Talking to a kid gos in one ear and out the other, grounding is just extra time you have to find something else to do till its over.
wow, makes you wonder what the world is coming to if a child can turn a parent in for punishing him (not all whipings are abuse) for something he choose to do.
Grounding is by and large a suckers move, does nothing to modify behavior. But that belt across the ass will often give them pause for thought next time they want to do something stupid.
That said, every kid is different. Some may respond favorably to the spoken word, some a few good whacks on the backside achieves results, and some there is no hope. You could probably beat them senseless and wouldnt change anything, those likely end up in jail anyway. But once they reach 14 or so, don't think it has much effect, and other tactics are required. Bottom line.. No one shoe fits all when comes to parents discipling their kids, but kids need to know there are consequences for anti-social or potentially dangerous behavior..
It is not illegal to whip with a belt as long as it is on the butt, is it frowned upon yes but illegal no. Kids are out of control today because parents find it hard to do there job and be the bad guy once in awhile. And smciver2 you are so right we stopped spanking our daughter 4 years ago and she thanks us now for doing it (although at the time she did not think we were doing right). She says kids in her grade are brats. They discuss how there parents are push overs. So if you think being there friend and talking or grounding is doing good thing for them think again.
I was whipped w the belt too. As long as it is for a good resason you will greatly appreciate it when ur older. Kids these days walk all over thier parents because physical punishment is frowned upon but I truly believe it is effective. If I were my parents I wuld have killed me!
I was spanked and it taught me fast what not to do. My parents were spanked with switches and belts, but they used a wooden paint stirring stick or just a hand on me and my sibs. Every parent has their form of punishment for the crime.
To each his own. Spanking doesn't work with everyone. And neither do time outs or anything else. Sometimes after a spanking or a time out u talk to ur children and let them know why they got the punishment.
i wouldnt get in trouble, thats sad about being whipped with a belt. how do you teach kids to trust you when you are inflicting pain for whatever it is you did wrong. being grounded is way better to deal with consequences. i used time outs at the table with my teenager when she was a child and she isnt a trouble maker. i use it with my smaller children as well. besides, i have to much anger to be hitting someone. it could really kill a person especially using a belt with a buckle. dont get in trouble and ask your parents for a different punishment. otherwise you will repeat the pattern when your a parent. it hurts to get hurt. does it really fix the problem?
I whip my children, there is such thing as a health fear. My daughter who is now in middle school has told me she thinks we did the right thing as kids now in school are out of control and shee sees it everyday.
It's pretty antiquated and I think generally frowned upon these days. I'd never whip my children because I don't believe that making a child fear me is an effective form of punishment. Tell your parents if it makes you uncomfortable and ask that they choose another form of punishment.
Im sorry Ollieo you are just down right retarted...Yea kids who got beat as children most of them did end up in jail, but were were talkin about apples and oranges here! this is discipline what your talking about is abuse! Yea so instead of disciplining them you want to "talk to them" that just makes a bunch of kids to grow up and think that they can get what they want! and most of them end up in jail to! I am a 16 year old kid and i am defending Physical punishment because it has straightened me out! and i do see the kids in my school who try to walk all over my teachers and their parents! It drives me nuts! So a good ass whoopin always does the trick! and who the hell said tell "tell your dad that you would like a different form of punishment"? The whole point is to do something they dont WANT that way they learn from their mistakes they think..."hey if i do this again my ass is gonna sting pretty bad...nahh im not gonna do it" and there you go problem solved. Im a 16 year old defending whoopins...that must mean something!
I don't know what "retarted" is? But what you are talking about is assault, not discipline. Discipline is teaching and correcting. Assault is hitting other people. And what it (assault) teaches are the wrong lessons.
Children need discipline. Period. That is not hitting. Period.
I doubt hitting straitened you out at all. Why? Because you think it is OK to start with. It is not OK to hit people.
That you have learned it is not OK to walk all over other people is good, but it is not because of your "whoopin." It is because you had limits set on you, and learned something of respecting other people. That's discipline. "Whoopins" are just violence.
You are a child (16). I hope when you grow up & if you have children you will re-think the difference between discipline & physical punishment - which, (hitting) incidentally, only children are exposed to, not prisoners, or anyone else.
Its a bad legacy from our past. And it is time to get rid of it.
Yeah the parents who get carried away with it are the ones making It look bad. Most of u don't have children or were beaten as a child so u think to ur self "I will never hurt my child." but a whack or two helps. It doesn't even have to be hard. When I was in the military we used to beat the crap out of guys who would mess up. We had to treat them like children. And they would stop messing up. First out of fear. Oh and they hated me. But when they got there junior enlisted men straight from boot camp, they understood and thanked me for being hard and strict on them. I didn't hate them either. It was just how we did things
I was spanked. I hated it but i never did whatever got me introuble in the first place because I didn't want another spanking. I sometimes got the belt. But only if I was extra bad. They stopped when I got to middle school. Then it was getting grounded. I feel it was a good thing. Kids nowadays r little shits. Their parents shoulda spanked em
I wasn't whipped, I was hit with golf clubs. did I grow up better than most? Yeah. Would I do that to my kids? Hell no. Is it normal? Yeah.