I give up finding a date is it normal i'm 26 and never had a relationship?

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Literally tried everything for 2 years coming up! Heading to age 30 and no sexual experience, no date or relationship. I cant belive I came out and went through all that sexuality anxiety all fir absolutely nothing but a blank screen. Women in dating sites and apps dont even make effort? Why even be on them? Yet I see lesbians whom are not even mentally healthy find a relationship that lasts. I met a coupe of women whom aren't even that attractive yet their partners are stunning so I had hope someone would more so like me for my personality not that I'm unattractive. Every day for 2 years almost, I go on an anoymous site asking why or wake up with anxiety over this. I put myself into uncomfortable situations went to LGBT events and clubs etc. No one even tries to ask me out or anythign and yes I am friendly, chatty and make effort to those who look okay. I honestly feel like I am the only ome who's still a virgin at my age it's so depressing.
I wanted someone to love me as much as I with them as I am capable of a lot and am very genuine loyal person. I'd do anythign for someone I cared for! No one gives me the time of day. I miss hugs ffs and cuddles and a simple hand hold ! I crave affection ever since losing my ex best friend. I dont understand...no one either cares about a genuine connection or I'm just not a catch like I had thought

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  • have_a_good_day
    3 years ago

    You are romanticizing sex. Nigga, don't confuse sex with love.
    If it bothers you that much then go get yoself a street hoe.
    If you was in da hood right now we'd tell you to learn to love yoself first because you don't know what's up yet. That's what's up

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Lol my nigga I know sex and love are 2 different tings! I wanted a connection b4 having sexy time u hooker fall

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    • Somenormie
      3 years ago

      I agree with you for once.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    3 years ago

    You'll get there. Its hard to give a good answer without having talked to you or seeing you.

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  • einexile
    3 years ago

    Don't use "dating sites and apps," use HER and Just She. eHarmony has also rolled its same-sex dating into the main site. I can't tell you much about that, but since eHarmony was always about a deadly serious scientific search for a lifelong partner, it might be worth a look.

    Don't go to "LGBT events," go to a lesbian bar. When you don't feel like dealing with the anxiety that causes, go to a gay bar. Not a highfalutin club or nightlife hookup site, just your neighborhood gay bar.

    This is from a male perspective, but no one wants a partner who NEEDS a partner. You may be doing something to signal that you need to be part of a couple. Some of what you've said here would be a red flag to me if you were looking for a male partner: "I'd do anything..." "I crave affection..." It's a sad fact, but while these things are true of almost everyone, people who reveal it too hard - rather than appearing to be self-realized and a net gain waiting to happen - scare away potential partners by suggesting that you need a great deal from others while being unsure of how much you can give.

    Above all else, don't stay home and wait for the Internet to fix your troubles. Spend most of your time out of the house, surrounded by a variety of people. Hang out at bars and cafes, go to shows - go to a LOT of shows - get involved in community stuff. Easier said than done in our current situation, so go easy on yourself for now, but once this mess is over (knock on wood) put yourself out there and stay out there.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Thanks for the elaborate reply but I don't go around portraying how I "need a partner", I just internally wish and constantly wonder why I cant find one. More so in particular I'm looking for a female relationship as I'm more attracted to them. I have been to LGBT events, tried all dating sites for 2 yrs! I been to gay clubs and the odd gay bar.

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  • Kool_owl
    3 years ago

    Aren't there gay groups you can join in person like a hiking or some kind of gatherings around you're town .

    On line dating is a waste find people face to face .

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      I have lol! I bee in a lesbian meet up for over 1.5 yrs! I don't really like anyone and they all suck

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