I got dumped… for a cat

Find a new girlfriend.

She did you a favour.

This wasn't about the cat, it was about her not prioritising your needs. If it hadn't been the cat then something else would have come up eventually where she powered ahead with something she wanted in spite of it causing some kind of pain or difficulty to you. It me and that you aren't right for each other.

She has freed you. Now you can find someone who actually really cares about you.

Umm.. Okay. If it were a cat she's had already before she met you then I would say that's normal, honestly. Getting rid of a pet for a partner is like throwing your kid away for a partner albeit yeah, unfortunately some parents do that... But most wouldn't.
This is a differnt situation entirely though. You guys live together I assume? It's very bad to decide to adopt a pet you know your partner is severely allergic to. Maybe she wants a cat really badly, I dont know, but obviously she should've discussed it with you first. I know that there's allergy pills and even shots, and I know there's plenty of people with terrible cat allergies who was able to get a cat and never experience any issues after treating their allergy. I don't know if you've ever tried that? But if not that's kind of something you'd propose to the person you live with -before- just bringing the cat home. So maybe it's for the best then. Seems you guys had some communication issues.

I get wanting a cat buy I wouldn't throw my partner away for one. If the cat was there first than sorry man not happening. But to get a pet knowing full well they are allergic is fd up.

One guy I dated poisoned some food he made me once cause he didn't beilive I was allergic. Then got pissed at me when I couldn't even finish one serving of it because I was busy projectile vomiting in the toilet just trying to breath to stay alive.

People who can't be bothered to take your allergies seriously are not worth your tears.

If it's any consolation I once met a guy while I was working at Petsmart a long time ago who confided in me that he was thinking about dumping his girlfriend, because she wanted him to keep his dog outside in the backyard... and yes, I offered that guy moral support, because that woman may have been his girlfriend, but his Akita, she, was his baby. I didn't think it was a tragedy that he loved his dog more than some woman, because he shouldn't have to change for some woman, and the right woman for him will love his dog just as much as he does, and the right woman for you will not be a cat lady. I know you're going through a difficult time, but it's wouldn't be fair to either of you if ya'll stayed together, because you can't be yourselves, and someone would be forced to give up something they love deeply, or else someone else would be forced to give up their health. Staying together would be a lose/lose situation.

Unfortunately, this is all to common. It is the extremely rare woman who is willing to give up their cat for a man; and many are not understanding of severe allergies and minimize in their mind how significant the issue is for anyone who has more than a very minor allergy to cats.

I too am severely allergic to cats and understand exactly your situation. Sustained exposure to cats beyond a few minutes could kill me. Even a few minutes exposure often affects me badly for days. I often react to cat dander on clothing as well.

What most people do not understand is that there are no medications for severe allergies that are safe to take for more than a few days - and those medications have significant and dangerous side effects.

I'm going to warn you that you have an uphill battle as my personal (and very painful) experience is most women with cats do not understand how significant these kinds of allergies can be; and lie about having cats even if you ask them up front on the phone/Skype/etc.

I know this as I listed that I had extreme allergies to cats in all of my dating profiles on the many dating sites I used over about 15 years.

I also then asked during our initial conversation if they had cats as I was highly allergic to them. Yet about half of the people I met in person had cats - and I very often would start to react to the cat dander on their clothing... too which their common response was... I didn't know that you were that allergic cats, or my cat. Sometimes they would say that they had an "allergen free" cat - which is a reduced allergen cat and not allergen free cat in actuality; and they were totally stunned at my allergic reactions. I do tell them I asked if they had cats... not if they had an "allergen free" cat.

I even had an ER Nurse pull the "allergen free" cat trick on me by inviting me to her house for Thanksgiving with her family, hiding the cat, and I reacted so badly within a few minutes that I almost ended up in the emergency room (and it was days to recover).

I wish you well with this... and encourage you to be explicit and upfront. Dating you is contingent on cat free - and even potentially cleaning their apartment or house with "anti-allergen" cleaners if their was a cat in it in the last decade (it usually takes about 10 years for cat dander to fade away).

Drop anyone like a rock who lies to you...

You will find some ladies who understand allergies and are willing to do what it takes if you are a decent gentleman.

I note that it is possible to find a Lady who is willing to use "anti-allergen" laundry detergent on her cloths and ultimately give up her cat if you are the right guy... My wife did that (and we cleaned virtually all of her belongings with "anti-allergen" cleaners when she moved into my house.

I wish you well with this,

She is just selfish, caring about some cat than you.

You should break up with her and find someone else.

Shoulda ripped off its head and said u dont know what happened it was like this when you got home

dude she's not even worth it if she chooses a cat over you. You have an allergy. Thats like dating someone with a peanut allergy and constantly buying nut based foods and making them peanut butter sandwiches. its either cruelty or just dumbfuckery.

Not normal. I am shocked.

I'm not sure what it is, particularly, about cats that has an adverse effect on your health, is it the cat fur, the smell of cats, or their psychic powers?

Take control of the situation, let the cat go or just get rid of it and get your girl back

You’re right that relationships are about mutual care. Perhaps she subconsciously got the cat because she knew it would push you away and she wanted an excuse to end the relationship?

Whatever the reasoning I’m sorry you’re in this situation, if my suggestion is right then she should have just been honest with you and even if I’m wrong her dumping you for a cat she’s had for a few weeks shows how she wasn’t a quality partner to begin with.

Hopefully in time you will find a woman who you can raise some furless pets with.

You dodged a bullet.

Ah well that shows you what kind of character she really was. Meaning she would have fucked up the relationship either way at some point in the near future.

I'm sorry that you are experiencing the pain of a breakup. I don't know how old ya'll are, but there's probably a lesson to be learned somewhere in here.

I myself am a person who loves cats as well as an allergy sufferer. I take both Flonase, and Zyrtec for my allergies. To be completely honest I never date anyone who either doesn't like cats, or is allergic to cats, because I have a lovely 14 year old Siamese cat who is light of my life! When my cat passes away I fully intend to contact a reputable breeder, and get another Siamese kitten, or maybe two. For a long time I thought I had developed an immunity to my bestfriend, but I recently learned that Siamese cats are considered somewhat hypoallergenic. As far as dogs are concerned I can tell you off the top of my head that poodles are considered hypoallergenic.

I would highly advise you to tell the women you date up front that you are highly allergic to cats, but unwilling to take allergy medication. I also think you should probably try to establish whether, or not a woman is a cat person before you get serious with her. It's not unheard of for a person to absolutely love animals, but not be in a position to have one as a pet so it's important that you establish whether, or not someone your interested in wants a cat in the future. Just because someone doesn't have a certain type of pet doesn't mean that they might not want that pet in the future. I would highly advise you to establish whether, or not someone is a catlover before you start dating even if the person doesn't have any cats.

I know you feel bad that your girlfriend chose a kitten over you, but I'm sure she also feels bad that you were unwilling to take allergy medication. The way I see things is that this situation is a two way street.