I hate being touched and i don't know why?

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I hate being touched unless I'm the one who touches first. I like hugging, but that's about it. When my Mom kisses me my automatic response is to shove her off which obviously sounds disrespectful but I feel immensely freaked out.
An example like this is when I had a boy who was pursuing me for a relationship. I declined because he was full of RED FLAGS. Since he was my friend for some time before he decided to hug me. I flipped out of course, but then he decided to kiss my neck. I. FREAKED. OUT. I swore at him, told him to "F" off and would have knocked him out if there wasn't teachers around to stop me.
I can't be the receiver of any physical affection, I have to be the giver.
I don't know if this is normal, I don't want to make my Mom feel bad but when I try to explain to her that I don't like it she always gets mad at me and tells me it's because I watch too many scary movies. That doesn't contribute to this at all.
I've been getting violent lately when people try to touch me. When my Mom tries to spank me for absolutely no reason (she's done this since I was little, not hard or anything but still annoying) I've been hitting her in response.
I don't want to be like this! What should I do? Whatever your opinion is it will help greatly. Thank you!

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Comments ( 15 )
  • Caps90
    7 years ago

    It's about control

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  • Ass_gas
    7 years ago

    Don't ever try to have a boyfriend. You will make him totally miserable. There is nothing you can do to change this condition. You will be happiest living in isolation.

    If you want friends, just log into IIN. We are the friendliest weirdos, creeps, perverts, and assholes that you will find on the Internet.

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  • Fezziklovespeanuts
    7 years ago

    It's not normal. However that doesn't mean you should let people touch you when you not comfortable with it. You should talk to a counselor or therapist so they can help you figure out why you feel this way. In the mean time stay strong and never be afraid to tell people to back off.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    I don't like being touched either, but I don't like touching others. Anyway, your behavior seems too extreme to fall all the normal side.

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  • taylorw
    7 years ago

    I also don't like others touch me.I like my dear friends and family hug.
    It's personal security and safety alarm system,I lack of security and feel afraid with stranger.

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    Its kinda not normal but you should let them know you dont like being touched

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    Thats a shame touching is still one of the best ways to communicate.

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  • Ms.Dempsy
    7 years ago

    Tell these assholes fuck off.

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  • miskris
    7 years ago

    Everyone has different levels of sensitivity to touch. It's possible that you are hypersensitive to it. It's true that people on the autism spectrum typically have sensitivity to certain senses, but hypersensitivity to touch does not mean you're autistic.

    Maybe start small with your mom, like a light touch on the arm for a few weeks and move into more a hug when you're comfortable.

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  • Silvergemrock
    7 years ago

    I don't blame you for your reaction for when a guy kissed you (anywhere,anytime) without your consent. Also, my Mom hss always said i hate being touched. Kick whoever's butt if they be moving on you and you don't want them to.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    The fact that your mother spanks you for no reason and has done so since you were small is almost certainly the cause of your negative reactions to being touched physically.

    Refuse to let her spank you ever again and find yourself some good counselling therapy to deal with the abuse she's dished out to you all your life.

    It's very unfair that you have to deal with this and your mother should never have treated you like this.

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  • Silvergemrock
    7 years ago

    Why is your Mom randomly spanking you? This sounds worrying.

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    • Silvergemrock
      7 years ago

      This behavior in anyone other than your partner(husband/wife) is not appropriate.

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  • Silvergemrock
    7 years ago

    It is rude to bump into other people. It is also rude to touch others, this is my believe. Also considering that the general population has a lot of facts wrong and the fact that I am in the top 2% of the smartest people in America, I'd say this is a case of the general population not understanding/accepting something.(sorta like how some people thought witches were real). Your behavior MAY not be COMMON but it is definitely NORMAL.

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  • Silvergemrock
    7 years ago

    If you don't want to be touched and you have made that clear. If someone gets hurt when they touch you, it's their fault. Us martial artists and military personnel are prime examples of people who have automatic defense responses to being touched by unwelcomed people.

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