I hate my grand mother

OMG finally someone who feels the same! My paternal grandmother's been living with us for about half a year now, and she drive me NUTS! Yeah it's the high-pitched voice, everything she says has double meanings (and no not in a good way!), and the way she treats my mother - like some kind of enemy she must constantly go to war with!!!! WOW I have never in my entire life met someone so horrible as she is. It just blows my mind.

Sometimes I do feel pity for the old lady and somewhat guilty, not because I treat her badly. In fact I give her all the respect in the world, because after all she is my grandmother, but sometimes I seriously wonder "how in the world do I have such an understanding, amazing father, but such a monstrous grandmother"????????

Thanks you for being so honest and submitting that entry, for a while I felt so terrible and thought I was the only one in the whole world who felt like this!!

This is very normal. I grew up adoring my grandmother. As I got older (grew out of my teens) I find out some horrible truths (from family members and myself alike) what a manipulative, bitchy, uncompassionate, abusive, insane, control-freak she really was. I was also surprised to find out many other people felt the same way about their own grandmothers.

As for Joey-Anne's comment, ignore it. It's not just because you are a teenager. My aunt, my mother (in their late 30s/40s), and myself often feel hatred toward her. She wasn't a good lady. Then again, nobody truly is, because all people are capable of all kinds of evil.

it's normal, but not a good thing
i feel the same way about my grandmother
i hate her at times when she tries to nag on me about something small
she has treated me wrong since ive been a child
even now after 23 years she still cusses at me or calls me out when all i do is sit in my room and mind my own business
she sometimes mess with my stuff
sometimes i like her or i have no feelings for her as long as she does not bother with me
i sometimes respect her, but all these feelings go away into anger when she opens her mouth to me again, its best when you live seperate and have a good long break away from her, my grandma believes everything she does is right, she's RARELY ever been told she's wrong

this is totally normal

Its TOTALLY normal. I don't like my paternal grandmother simply because she is narrow minded, and doesn't respect anyone else's opinion. Oh, and the fact that she despises my mother. But, killing her seems a little extreme, because she is related to you...

Completely normal. You don't have to like some one just because you are related.
My grandmother is the fucking devil. I stopped talking to her a year ago - I will never ever speak to her ever again.
It's not a matter of maturity either. Think is she makes you feel so negative and you were nit related you would have stopped the contact a long time ago. It only makes sense to evict the people that have such an effect on you.

how is ti not normal? some people are jsut annoying. They don't ahve to do anyting direct to you. He didn't pick his grand mother, sort of grin and bare it. I do the smae thing. Not necessarily about grand parents, but certain people. Fantacising about murder can be a stress relief. And I know exaclty what you mean about everything about some one getting under you skin. Some people suck so fucking bad.

normal

I have the exact same thing with my grandmother. Like, exactly. I stay at hers rarely, but when I do, I end up crying every single time. She winds me up in ways nobody else can. She talks to her cat like it understands her, and continues to do it even though it winds me up. I know that sounds pathetic but she knows how much it angers me and continues to do it. She gets angry about absolutely everything I do. If I breathe too loudly, it's an issue, if I breathe too quietly, I'm being a weirdo. Sometimes I just want to smash her head in? I love her so, so much, and she hates me and then I feel pure anger towards her. I know she hates me - she treats me like a I'm an inconvenience she can't stand. When I say 'love you' when we're parting, she just nods. If I hug her, she throws me off. So I stop trying, and then I'm hateful and spiteful, but I can't look at her without wanting to slice my wrists open. She constantly comments on my appearance - I'm not ugly. I feel like I am all the time, but when it comes down to it, I'm average looking. But she insults me constantly with back-handed comments and sometimes she can even say 'you've done your hair differently today' but the look on her face when she says it just makes me feel completely worthless. I love her so much, and she hates me so much, and it hurts to badly to know I must be so unlovable even my own grandmother hates me. I don't hate my grandmother, but I used to. Now it's simmered down to a painful dislike, but I love her and I need for this to stop. I love her so much. Why does she hate me? I sound like a whiny little twat but fucking hell, what the fuck.

Oh. My. God!! I cannot stand my grandmother either. She has a voice like a tarradactel, and she has the 3 stupid wiener dogs who she treats better than her own kids/grand kids. She can dish out the rudeness, but can't handle it if someone is rude to her. She gave me(her granddaughter) a half used bottle of acne cream for my birthday- what 'sweet grandma' does that?? And she treats her husband likes doormat... Sometimes I can't wait for her to just croak...I know, it sounds awful,but it's true!!

My grandmothers are both so loving, and sweet, I can't imagine not getting along with them. But I do know people that are hard to be around. The easiest way to deal with them is to avoid them as much as possible. But if you have to be near them, be polite. It makes you the better person.

I’ve been living with my the devil aka my grandmother for like forever (she literally raised me cause my dad was always working and my mother didn’t really give a shit) and when I was a kid, I literally used to worship her. Like I loved her so much and I would cry if she got mad at me (which was insane. What normal grandmother doesn’t talk to her 5 year old grand child for three days just cause she didn’t massage her feet, like jeez) through the years I’ve become more and more hostile towards her just cause she’s a crazy ass bitch, like duh. She ruined my parent’s marriage and always has always told shit about my dad and my other grandparents, now she also hates my mom (who now lives in another country with her current boyfriend, leaving me here alone with the old cow) and she just drives me insane. I have to go to school and study and take out the dog and cook, give her her pills, put up with all her shit despite always having fantasies about murdering her, like literally. Like I never thought I could hate a person as much as I hate her. She’s so dependent on me, calls for me every 5 minutes with some annoying ass request like bringing her ice cream, chips, putting face cream on her face etc) but whenever she talks to people about me she calls me ungrateful and lazy. According to her, all I do is lay on my bed with my phone all day and do nothing. I’ve come to a point where I just wish she was dead. But I have a feeling she has a long way ahead of her cause in my country we have this saying “a bad dog cannot die” so I put all my hopes in finishing school and moving out on my own. Cause if this continues, you guys might see this on the news : “grandchild stabs grandma 100 times with a unicorn butterfly knife” (cause you know, if you’re going to do it, at least do it with style. PEACE!

completely normal. My Grandma has come to live with us for the Christmas season and I am counting down the days until she goes home. She always wants to go everywhere with you and doesn't understand that she can't. Whenever I need to go do Christmas shopping she will insist on coming and slow me down so I only get to one shop. Not only that she will never mind her own business, Whenever I'm trying to have a conversation she will always listen in and she always wants to talk to me. I don't mind talking to her its just whenever I have people over and do stuff she always is there.

UGHH!! I feel you! my grandmother tries to turn my mother against me and she always thinks she's right. 2+2=4? wrong.

yeah man ik how you feel

same

I have been living with my grandma for 4 years, I hate her! She is selfish and nosey and thinks it's her house. She lives one of our spare rooms. When me and my parents were on holiday she invited my cousin and her friend who I have never met before to my house and they stayed the night in my room! I mean what the hell! I didn't even know about it! A total stranger slept in my bed. She hates me so much and she loves my cousin who is a fat lump.

when my grandmother dies i really hate her and she also hate me

Excuse the last sentence, my temper won out.

I believe everyone has a place in their lives, and whenever my grandmother comes over, it feels like she's overstepped that boundary. She's single-handedly breaking up my family with the control she has on my father, and the worst thing is that she's old (and sick)so you can't be real with her. You just have to suck it up, but honestly, I just can't wait to have her out of our lives, for good (no matter how much of a psycho that makes me sound like).

Amen

Not everyone gets on, it's as simple as that, don't think you're a bad person because you're related, there's a two generation gap there for starters.

I feel the same way about my paternal grandmother. Shes a homophobe, which is a problem because im lesbian. My maternal grandmother is always disrespecting the memory of my dead grandfather and shes also homophobic and obnoxious and loud.

I fell the same about my grandmother's sister! she turns me into a whole different person! but never act on it just keep smiling and keep your killing fantaisies to yourself

ummm... i guess on that last comment i kinda told my story rather than replied to yours, but...heheheheheheh