I hated working in groups?

Ever since middle/high school I haven't liked it. Nearly all my classes were taught with the tables pushed together and I always preferred working on my own, I always got my best results when I worked on my own, but when I was in a group I was talked down or shut out when trying to contribute because of my lack of popularity with the kids. I understand doing it occasionally for projects and presentations, but they had us doing it for practice exam questions and things like that. I wasn't a confident kid and couldn't speak up at all aside from not being very much liked. None of the work was ever mine, and if I did contribute a good idea, they would take it and push me out again. Group work only ever made me feel undervalued and weak and I despised it as well as feared it. I asked my teacher to help me, and I tried to suggest maybe having people work on their own more, but she told me she was preparing me for the real world and the sooner I accepted that the better. I do work like that at my job but it's always at the end of the week on a friday to share ideas, not make them. Was this normal?

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    Normal. I hated it with a passion.

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  • gummy_jr

    I feel you on this one /: I hated when my groups would consist of: a dumb whore, a bitchy cheerleader, a douchebag guy and one sex obsessed person that the entire group seems to like.

    I just wanted to throw them and the teacher (for punishing me by putting me with such a group) on top of a land mine and watch them get obliterated.

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    • PattyTheSailor

      My groups usually consists of two people who don't like me (I have a lot of enemies), a lazy person and a retard. I end up doing all the work mainly because the two people who don't like me would usually refuse to work with my ideas, the lazy person would be playing on his phone under the desk and the retard would put in some wrong answers and I always had to correct him/her(oddly enough, it was the retard who contributed the most besides me.)

      I feel you on this one. I would rather watch them get stuffed into a cannon and be used for firework material, though. Maybe with the exception of the idiot, at least he/she would TRY to contribute.

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    • RoseIsabella

      KABOOM!!!

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  • RoseIsabella

    I'm the same way! When I'm working in a group I get very bored and annoyed and lose interest I'm whatever we're doing especially if the leader is big alpha dog of a person and everyone is supporting and following them. I feel this way even if I end up being the leader. All I want to do is goof off and I have no desire to be productive or contribute. If I just sit and do nothing it's still a struggle not to get up and leave.

    I'm much better off working by myself or with just one other person preferably a friend of equal or higher intelligence than myself.

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  • oj101

    Absolutely agree. There always seems to be at least one of each;
    1) The overbearing control freak who only wants to "supervise"
    2) The slacker who contributes nothing, expecting everyone else to do the work
    3) The dumb kid who throws the project off course, and you spend a lot of time explaining stuff to them
    4) The one that ends up doing everything themselves (usually me)

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  • St.Clair59

    I never cared to work in groups either, mostly because a) the other members dominated and I was shut down or ignored, or b)I didn't associate well with the people in my group. I was always the quiet one, therefore, I liked working by myself a WHOLE LOT better.

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  • Shroot

    I loved it

    I'm 6"4 so everyone did as i said

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  • sweetwisteria

    Does anyone actually like working in groups? I always get so.much more done on my own.

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  • KeddersPrincess

    I still hate working in groups.

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  • college

    Every time the teacher would tell us to get into groups, I would just sit and wait in my chair until everyone had a group and then the teacher would ask "does anyone not have a group?" I'd then proceed to raise my hand, and then I'd be put into a group. It was awful.

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  • lolol555

    It was a complete waste of time. At the end of the day, you're going to be doing the exam and you're going to be getting the grade. Exams are done alone and not in a group.

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  • dirtybirdy

    I never like it either. Not one bit. I was always too shy and just felt awkward in groups that forced participation with people I never spoke to otherwise.

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  • Dywiann

    Same here.

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  • The only class I enjoyed working in a group was Spanish, and I would try to wrangle in at least one Hispanic kid!

    Other than that, and labs, I prefer working by myself. In groups I tend to be overbearing and controlling.

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  • Jimbobasaur

    I never liked it since about my second year of high school (UK). I think I hadn't made many good friends in high school and my confidence started to slip.

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  • kelili

    I don't know how to work in groups. When I have too I feel that the others are not as smart as I and that they are slowing me down and I get frustrated. I prefer to be all by myself.

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  • dom180

    I liked it, although most of my friends didn't and I can completely understand why you wouldn't.

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  • handsignals

    WORKING IN GROUPS

    DOING THE JOB YOU TEACHER IS GETTING PAID FOR

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  • thegypsysailor

    It's interesting that you should bring this up now. I just read an article about "bridge management teams", being taught in the Maritime Colleges these days. Basically, this means operating a vessel by consensus, rather than by an individual, the captain. Since whatever happens is still, by law, the captain's responsibility, no matter what "the consensus", this is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.
    It removes the captain's authority and immediate obedience from the crew in a catastrophic, life threatening situation, leaving no one to make command decisions. I certainly would not want to be a passenger on a cruise ship run by a BMT of mostly inexperienced officers in training, rather than by the most experienced officer aboard.
    I can't even imagine a "BMT" of flight crew and cabin staff having a successful conclusion to an emergency at 25,000 feet!

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