I have a crush on my step sister

my step sis and I have been spending a lot of time together lately and I find myself thinking about her as a girlfriend. She hates when I go out with my friends and plays love songs whenever I'm around. Maybe I am getting mixed signals. I am tempted to tell her how I feel, but I don't want things to be awkward between us. I take her to the bus stop every morning and walk her home every afternoon. It is obviously not exactly "normal", but I would like to know what I should do. Please help.

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  • SeparateGravity

    Well, I've never personally known anyone in this situation. But you guys obviously aren't related by blood, which means that she isn't literally your family and it wouldn't even be incest.

    The only thing is the social awkwardness of the situation, from others' points of view. People may see her as your "sister" when really she is just not. Your guys' parents may also find it odd.

    And I can't blame them. It is a sort of rare situation. All I'm saying is that is comes down to this: you guys AREN'T RELATED. You wouldn't have deformed children, you have no blood ties... So if you both are into each other, then why not?

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  • Moonlit_Heart

    You say you take her to the bus stop. How old are you and how old is she?

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    • DJCosta

      thanks for the advice.

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  • Solimorphic

    I wouldn't talk about feelings.

    Observe her body language. Are her eyes perky and bright when she talks to you? Does she face you directly and without crossing her arms? Does she ever touch you? The MORE positive body language the better.

    When you two are together talking, invade her space. Lean toward her momentarily and see what she does. If she backs off she MIGHT not be interested, but a steady gaze back is positive. If she moves closer...Yeah! (then let it happen!) etc etc...

    I've been doing this sh t for years and can tell quickly of a woman is interested without talking about feelings which in your case can cause embarrassment, as you two live together.

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  • nobodyspecial

    if shes not blood related, go for it! if you love someone who the hell cares what other ppl think, and you could even move to a town where no one knew you. and i think if you two are close, then telling her how you feel shouldnt offend her.

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  • bluezebra

    Yeah, how old are you guys exactly, i mean, if you walk her to the bus stop, obviously i am not trying to say that she is like in elemantary or anything..

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  • SupNucka

    lol you guys are f-cking dumb, he says right on there "I have a crush on my step sister".
    OF COURSE HE'S NOT BLOOD RELATED.
    DUH.
    THATS WHY SHES HIS STEP SISTER

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  • lisaj5

    There is nothing wrong feeling the way you do. I have researched this myself. I am in the same situation...I was bothered by it at first but God puts people together for a reason. I have been with my fiance for 2 years nowand its the best relationship I have ever had. I actually talked with a preacher about the way I felt and as long as its not blood its not a sin. If you care deeply about her and she feels the same way then follow your heart. Our family accepts our relationship because it is NOT a sin. And my family is very Christian..I would not change my relationship at all, and we plan to be married next year.

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  • gummybearbandit73

    well aslong as shes not blood and you like her, then i'd say its pretty normal

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  • inlovewithlove1991

    BTW I play love songs constantly, it doesn't matter who's around, so maybe she's the same way.

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  • leakepeter

    DUDE it may not be your blood sister but think maybe your just feeling this because your not getting out much, see other girls dont put yourself through the trouble, it will be a very awkward situation for you guys your parents and the people you know stop this mentality now sister love is not sex love i know your sister is just being caring and nice sisters are like that when they are not being annoying.

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    • Aghh15

      My step brother has a crush on me too so I think is normal because since they spend so much time with you they get to know you and they start developing feelings for you since you don't hav that brother and sister love is more like a friend love

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      • Babasheep

        I make out with my step bro he calls me babe we r keeping this low key tho so none of that in public and I sneak into his room at night this is normal even tho it might sound weird afffffff

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  • tsospsr

    send indirect signals as well, tell her how pretty she is or tell her that you love spending time with her and eventually something will happen, dont wait too long though....

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  • lwinnchick

    stay away from her as much as you can. even if your not blood related you will see her for the REST OF YOUR LIFE!! imagine how awkaward family gatherings will be in 10 years if you go out and it doesn't work and you have a terrible break up?

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  • coconbus

    if you got the same blood, DON'T DO IT!.

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  • TheMessiah

    I shall not see you promote interfamily marriage.

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  • She is your step sister! You are absolutely right not act as if she is a girlfriend, or say anything to your sis that might confuse things more.

    You and her are not in the same relationship as your parents. Talk to your mom or dad - whichever you are closest to.

    Tell them you and sis have confused feelings. It is understandable since this is a new situation for you both as step-sibs.

    Also you need to be on your own with your friends and to be spending less time looking after her. She needs her own friends and to be less dependent on you. And your parents need to be involved here.

    Please talk to them, and don't do anything that would create hurt and more confusion later.

    In particular don't listen to the foolish advice here saying that if you are not blood related, its OK. You don't have to be blood related to have a family bond & relationship.

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  • mrsmithgoestowashington

    That is some fucked up shit.

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    • illForsakenLand

      He didnt tell u the worst part yet there probbably bonning in mom and dads bed LOL

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  • ZAKAttack2012

    Well I'm in this sort of situation I have a massive crush on her we are not blood related all my friends say it's ok but some people say it's incest I don't know what to do I love her so much

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  • LAgirl427

    Yes it's somewhat normal. My older sister just turned 19 a few weeks ago and im 17. She visited our hometown for the summer before starting her 2nd year in college. Well last summer, she was overweight for her height 5'5, 190 lbs and she was kinda mean because she just turned 18.
    She returned on July 4 and omg she looked so fucking gorgeous! She's busty, curvy and her hair is long she looks like a model. I started to blush when I first saw her for the first time in a year. Now everytime i see her, i fantasize about her and last night i had a dream that i was finger fucking her and she was screaming "oh god! Fuck me!" I woke up feeling wet. She goes back to college on August 20 and before she leaves i wanna fuck her senseless. I hope she returns next summer and btw were only 1 year apart. I turn 18 in september

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  • TwilightPsycho

    There should be no problem with this regardless. If she is your step sister, then you are not even blood related (not that I'd have a problem with it either way). She is no different to you, relation-wise, than any other girl. If she is your type, it would be abnormal if you weren't attracted to her.

    If you think she likes you too, go for it.

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  • Rafael

    It's totally normal...Look,we r human being...It's quite natural to have a crush on any girls or boys...It could be ur step-sister or step-mother even ur own relatives...So,go n tell ur feelings *honestly*(not try to seduce her or apply any kinda trick).But telling her before try to know her feelings about u.If u get something weird she feels for u then go n tell....Otherwise,u had better not tell her about it ..Best of luck...

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  • MzBeck123

    What ever happened with your stepsister??

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  • druid386

    Ok,look i have the same problem ,i have crush in daughter of aunt and i do not think of her sexual,but that I thought,I think she is sexy,she looks good,I can not stop thinking about her.
    Fuck, i was dreaming her, even in some dreams
    I had sex with her,I think WTF.But this means that we are the same blood,

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  • druid386

    Ok,look i have the same problem ,i have crush in daughter of aunt and i do not think of her sexual,but that I thought,I think she is sexy,she looks good,I can not stop thinking about her.
    Fuck, i was dreaming her, even in some dreams
    I had sex with her,I think WTF.But this means that we are the same blood.What do I do now.....

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  • nathan212

    I am in the very same situation I have a crush on my step sister and I reckon she likes me too. Look things like this just happen I mean I certainly didn't feel this way about her when I met her due to other circumstances because she was dating some guy and was living with him she then dumpted him, moved in with us and only because we've been hanging out for like 3 or 4 months I've started having feelings for her, I never planned this it just happend.

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  • one_guy

    I suggest you leave it Alone. For one if things go wrong. You're stuck living with her. And yeah how old are u guys?

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  • I play love songs around my brother. Not because I like him but because I LIKE THE MUSIC!!!!!

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  • Hahaha she plays love songs when you're around. Have heard plenty of suggestions about seduction but that has got to be the best. hahha playing love songs, I'm gonna try it on my step-brother. I like him.

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  • Judas_misunderstood

    Not incest.

    Still not a good idea. Shit gets awkward when there's a breakup. You don't date chicks you work with; this is the same principle x 1,000,000.

    There are a lot of posts above by fuckwits who can't spell. Ignore them.

    Feelings pass. Stay away, I think you will look back in years to come and be glad of it. However, if she does have feelings for you, you have an awkward time already on your hands in letting her down gently.

    As others have asked, how old are each of you?

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  • ruralfrights

    I don't usually like to say this concerning relationships, but let the chips fall! Bad advice huh? It's not incest, your not cheating.

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  • I'm in love with my brother in law! Lol I say go for it! :)

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  • Malfoy

    Step sister or real sister, I'd take advantage... not everyone has that opportunity, and you'd be an idiot to pass.

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  • DiscoDuck

    Only "Step" so its ok....what makes it even better is that its Taboo.

    Do it!

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  • aspgirl

    I would think it's normal. As long as you're not blood-related, it's nothing to worry about. You wouldn't be breaking any laws. Although your parents may not share the same point of view, it's for you and your step-sister to decide. But also remember, feelings aren't easy to hide and they can't be hidden forever. One way or another, the truth always comes out.

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  • IveGotBallsOfSteal

    unless you guys are planning on getting married, dodge this one. You may have to see her for the rest of your life. think about it man.

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  • alexisfreak

    That is 100%% Grade A perverted. Dude, really? There are probably millions of hot, untaken girls out there. Take your pick, and don't let that pick be your step sis.

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  • charlielou

    yer but you have to think of your perants and come on its just a crush there are plenty more girls out there and at least that way you wouldnt be hurtin ur perants or makin anything wired.

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  • PtownTrailBlazersLuver

    k. meet someone new.
    bc this shit is fucking weird dude

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  • shawnb912

    M8 she is not your real sis is she so just tell her that you fancy her if she thinks your wired just explain
    shawn

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  • SXRXE

    Your human lol
    Your related in law, but thats only cuz your bro or sis beat you to it.
    If eventually, you and her get married, that means your bro/sis is now also in the same position lol

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  • redcomb

    A step sister is not related to you genetically. You are under NO OBLIGATION to not become romantically or sexually involved with her. However, you might want to keep it a secret anyway, in case your mother and your step father think there's something wrong with it. There isn't but they can make your life HELL so just be an adult and don't blurt things out about yourself. You're NOT going to change them so why screw up your life trying to make them understand?

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  • wannarocktheworld

    if she touches you a lot,like on ur arms or hands etc while laughing out lout on jokes or when going places together,then its what U THINK

    if not,then maybe she's trying to be a good step sister,something she'dve thought would be awful since ur step siblings

    and we guys....dunno why we pick up on such things as always romantic or lustful attraction...damn it ,it hampers our life all the time

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  • Isolated

    Get a girlfriend and see how that turns out. If she doesn't like it, your suspicions are right; she may be into you. I agree with everyone else here and make sure you aren't doing incest with blood-relations.

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  • Powerfrog

    hmmmm, i had a thing for my dad's girlfreinds kid, which is like a step sister to be... There are a few times i could have made a move but didn't, thinking back now, i'm so glad i didn't.

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  • MzBeck123

    I see everyone keeps asking, but how old are you two? How long have you been step siblings? That also plays a big role in it.
    If you are attracted to her, you can't help that. There is a chance she likes you to. It really happens. You could ask her if there are any guys she is interested in.....maybe lure it out of her. Most girls are eager to use codes to tell you how they feel if they like you. That way she might get the feeling that you like her as well and she won't be so nervous about saying anything.

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  • housecat

    It's a huge risk and it may not be popular with others, but if you think you can handle it go for it.

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  • melvino

    you should express your feelings to her your not blood witch is good.unless u find ur self with somone else.

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  • fashionstar11

    Guy...........................................
    Ask her what´s the matter with her!!!If she´s your step sister marry her or whatever . But if she´s your blood sister maybe she do that cause she would like you stay with her and not with your friends .

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  • TylerTellsTehTruth

    If she is not you're blood sister, it's okay. You can marry her or whatever you want to. Chances are her parent and your parent will eventually get a divorce.. So you should tell her, and see what she says. :P Hope this helps. (:

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  • its normal my best friend's grandparents were both blood couzins and believe it or not stuff like dis happens alot now adays

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  • LadyofLove

    WELL hey if you giuys do end up dating you guys have no blood connection.
    And its not incest.

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  • inlovewithlove1991

    How old are you & her? That sounds really odd, no offence. I'm 18 & my step-brother is 16 & if he ever though about me that way, I'd be grossed out. I mean, he's a cute kid, but no way. Definitely do not tell her how you feel.

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  • thats creepy >:-(())

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  • TheSociopath102

    honestly man , if its not blood and if shes hot or your type its normal . As of telling her idk , make sure shes not just a realy freindly sibling or anything , even then i would advise you to just be comfortable freinds .

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  • XoXoGossipGuy

    There is like 100000000000 Girls out there. Live your sister alone.

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    • twilightaddict23

      dude if he haz a crush on her so what he can have a crush on anybody he wants to its his LIFE.

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  • mynameisjoey

    just tell her how you feel while i go throw up over there.you are weird and i feel bad for your step sister.

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    • MzBeck123

      He isn't weird. That's not right. They aren't blood siblings. We don't even know the whole story.

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      • druid386

        ok maybe we do not know the whole story but this is enough. he said what he wanted and got answers

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    • RollTide#3

      he's not weird I like mine too she's freakin beautiful and awsome.

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