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For the last year i have thought constently of my cousin (my dads sisters daughter) and i would love nothing more than to give her a kiss. I am 21 and she is 20 and i just want to hold her in my arms. I am terrified of telling her how i feel as im worried she will think im sick because im her cousin. We get on very well. What can i do?
Dude, I've always said to people, you never know until you try... I had a crush on my cousin for YEARS before i told her... We dated for a few months but it didn't work out... If you really like her... GO FOR IT!!! (Tough I warn you it MAY BE illegal in some places...)
I did, and lost my virginity to my cousin 2 years ago.. since childhood I found her quite attractive. We did it a few consecutive times during a vacation out of state. When we both parted our ways and returned to our homes, things were never the same... it was as if we had our own little "trip to vegas".
Things got a little normal (or at least it seemed to me); I wanted to return to what great relationship we had before the kinks... but not long later, I got the message she wanted more - regardless of her having a boyfriend ~7 years older than me. I try to stay away from her and sort of keep the skeleton hidden.
Take from what you will from my story!
AnonB here adding:
I have had sex with maybe 3 different girls after her, yet none seemed to have that exciting peak of satisfaction... quite possibly due to:
a) she's my cousin and it's taboo in our family - making it an extremely guilty pleasure
b) she was my first
c) bodyframe and ...tightness
Dont go there bro as it'll end really badly. theres plenty of fish in the sea
Thats actually legal mate and if you are serious and dont just want a shag then why not make a move could be the best risk you ever took :)
Try to introduce the subject of people going out with their cousins (in a jokey way) into the conversation and see how she reacts. If its very negatively, dont sya anything else. Tread very carefully, as messing this up could damage the closeness of your family.
ignore it, as unromantic as that may seem. think about it. if you were meant to be together in that way, then she wouldnt be your cousin.
There are too many women in the world for you to fall into that perversion.
Honestly I have the same problem like its the same thing lik even with dads sisters child but I'm a girl and he's a guy......i like him so much I write a fanfic ugh idek what to do
Cousins getting together is not so uncommon. It's legal for cousins to marry in many countries as well as some states in the USA. Birth defects rise from about 3% in non related couples to roughly 6% for first cousins.
sorry to say this but some comments are not worth reading.
To some cousin who fall in love it is a far stronger love they feel than any other love they may have had.
It is a stronger pull on there hearts than you can imagine
We are only on this planet for a short time , love who you love and make the most of the time you have together....
Not exactly deemed "normal" in modern day society, however it's natural in its own way, you naturally see her as a good match for you and you can't help it, shit happens bro, I'd not tell her though if I were you, just for the sake of preserving the relationship between her, you and your family.
You can tell her how you feel but dont be too surprised if you land up ruining your friendship/relationship with her. Morally its wrong I think so you should probably just forget about it and look for love elsewhere. You are still very young and theres a whole world right in front of you. I had an experience once when my male cousin tried to kiss me when I was about 14 yrs old and my whole being said it would be wrong so I pushed him away. Somehow deep down inside we already have the answers to our questions or we wouldnt find the need to ask others. Just my opinion though but Good Luck in your pursuit of Love & Happyness. :)
Are you 1st or 2nd cousins. My grandmothers parents were cousins and she inherited a very devastating neuromuscular wasting disease. You won't have a deformed child but both of you might carry a recessive gene that express
Itself in a child. We all carry recessive
Genes that will expressed with 2 carriers.
this attraction is not that strange, its not exactly condoned by society though. the general familiarity that I assume you two have might lead you to become attracted to your cousin. so my suggestion would be for you to become familiar with other girls, or say hell with it and do whatever you want, or perhaps, you might want to become a buddhist monk
don't tell her... you could ruin your relationship with her forever if you freak her out, which you most likely will. its just not acceptable in our society so you just have to forget about it.
^ ya dude what he said and not worth the heaps of shit that will happen if you tell her or even do anything( deformed baby ) man all i can say is
shit happens, and there are more bitches to see