I have fight anxiety!!! what do you think?

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I'm a 20 yr old guy. I'm well built and average height. But there's something I can't understand. I've got into a couple of situations before where I had to get physical. I was the victor each and every time, but every time I was scared too. Like I never was the kind of raging demon they show in tv. Every time I fought, it was always about blocking the other guys' blows, more than hitting him. Is it normal to be a little scared ,and try to avoid fights? I've read that being a little nervous helps you keep focus and keeps you grounded, instead of being an arrogant pig.... And I also know that the best of people cannot handle some situations sometimes. I keep having nightmares that my girlfriend is getting abused by a couple of thugs and I run away from her. That will never happen, yet I can't stop doubting myself. And another twist to the story is my parents' very unhappy marriage. My mum calls my dad a coward so many times!!! They are just living together, but are not together, get it? I just want to make sure that I can be a good guy, good boyfriend, good husband..... HELP ME....

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  • Koda
    12 years ago

    OK. Just want to say that you should never feel you "have to get physical". It might sound cheesy, but violence is never the answer. You can almost always avoid a fight, though you may be left with hurt pride. I never equated being a man with being tough or aggressive. I think that's a negative stereotype.

    I've never been in a fight myself, even when I'm provoked I just ignore the person/people, walk away, or try to talk myself out of it. Regarding what you said about fight anxiety though.. I think you're very right about being a better fighter when nervous rather than when acting cocky. When you're anxious, you're adrenaline flows which makes your focus better and your reflexes much quicker.

    I think you're focusing way too much of your energy worrying about machismo and "being a man". Just focus on love in all your relations, and if problems come up, handle it like a mature adult and stay cool. Don't ever let yourself take the bate from some macho guy, if you're meant to be a hero, the time will come when you'll have a real decision to make.

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  • Santoslobo
    12 years ago

    It's called the "Fight-or-flight response". It's perfectly normal.

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  • CoolJoe
    12 years ago

    You should learn some sort of Martial Art as soon as possible, or go to a gym and start training some Boxing.
    Not to be MORE agressive, but to learn and gain more self-confidence, and obviously learn what to do when push comes to shove. Aikido and Jiu-Jitsu are very nice, Karate and Tae-Kwon-Do are faster styles. You got what it takes. It's all in the MIND. And SELF-DEFENSE can get you out of a LOT of tricky situatons for the rest of your life, your REAL life ;) Good Luck !

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