I have no friends

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All my life, I have had to deal with people. I'm used to it, and don't think about it. Ten years ago, I moved into an empty house and quit my job. The quieter it got, the more I liked it. I discontinued being friends with people because it took too much energy. I now live in isolation with my two goldfish, and feel blissfully content for the first time in my life.

I know everyone will encourage me to continue this, but I have read that very few people can handle extreme introversion like this. My question is am I a freak, or am I normal?

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  • cripplingdepressionman
    4 years ago

    Yea just recently shut everyone out of my life, felt like a giant heavy door that took like 4 months to close. Sept my brother that ive been very close to all my life

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I found it useful to google the effects of extreme introversion. It will help you recognize some of the subtle tricks your brain plays on you in prolonged isolation.

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  • The_Judge
    4 years ago

    Although complete isolation is not recomendable, some people may prefere to be alone from time to time or even the full extent of their free time. Whichever decicion you take, i would recommend you take a broad look at the possibilities and their implicities. If you think you could be happy without a significan other, no friends nor contacts whatsoever then go for it. Nevertheless if you feel you want to socialice at any point remember that this takes some amount of practice. You are no freak

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  • Phoebe2005
    4 years ago

    Tbh at least it’s goldfish which are sweet and not something like a turtle since they can’t be trusted and I don’t know I think maybe u should try talking to a girl and get a gf maybe there is a girl that likes u and u don’t even know it cos ur only looking at ur goldfish.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      There are no girls that like me. I know this from watching YouTube videos about how to tell if a girl likes you. I have used this knowledge in conjunction with YouTube videos about how to flirt and how to be attractive. Women say they want confidence, but secretly, attractiveness is all they care about.

      So it is important that I not think about women, because they will never accept me. Better to focus on my own freedom.

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  • controversy
    4 years ago

    Normal.

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  • VintageVelvet
    4 years ago

    You're absolutely normal and living the best life right now! I'm like this too and I wish I could live like the way you're living now. I don't like company of other people. I love being lonely so much that I have distanced myself from people deliberately and I almost have no friends now. In the near future, I hope to live alone. Cheers.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Thank you for understanding. People have a way of destroying your peacefulness and tranquility. Solitude is a heavenly thing.

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  • 666XxFURRYBEASTxX666
    4 years ago

    Your not a freak, try to get happier, I liked having no friends actually, I see it as a good thing, but it aint good isolate ypurself

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  • Sleepykitten
    4 years ago

    If you're sure you're happy and you can sustain this lifestyle then I don't see a problem. I would worry that you're depressed or at risk of becoming depressed since most people need at least some human interaction and deep relationships to be mentally healthy and happy. Also how are you funding your life if you don't leave the house?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Thanks for responding. I do leave the house, go shopping, go to the gym, and frequent restaurants. I am funding this with early withdrawal of retirement savings. I present myself as assertive and pleasant, but shy away from personal relationships, other than brief discussion of sporting or news events.

      Everyone thinks depression must be unavoidable for me. This is confusing. I am not depressed; I feel upbeat to have nobody in my face. I have read about the consequences of extreme introversion, and have cognitive ways to put emotional distortions and other side effects into proper perspective. I have an abundant sense freedom knowing my parents and grandparents are dead. And, that people with personality disorders as well as exes can no longer target me.

      I say, "What's not to like?" Others say, "You're unaware that something is wrong." What do you say?

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        Wow!

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          Wow normal, or wow freakish?

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          • RoseIsabella
            4 years ago

            Neither, just different.

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      • Sleepykitten
        4 years ago

        People are confused because it's very unusual for someone to live this way and maintain good mental health. Most people who live like this are just unaware of how depressed they are. I say this as someone who has lived similarly and doesn't really like people either. I'm not saying it's impossible, people are all different. There have been pregnant five year olds and adults that range from 1ft to 11ft in height so someone who's truly happy in that level of isolation doesn't sound impossible to me, just very rare.

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  • McBean
    4 years ago

    Congratulations. This is not a problem, this is a solution; one that few people have the ability to endure. Most people say, "fuck the world", but can't stay away and go back to let the world fuck them again, repeatedly. I would at least recommend you pursue some kind of online social interaction to keep your ability to talk and write at a good level.

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