I have this rule to never date any of my friends?

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My number one rule is to never date a friend. Once you date you can never ever go back to being just friends. There will always be complications, and tension that will make the friendship awkward.

I’ve had people say that they think I’m crazy, which might honestly be true. I just hate the idea of ruining a friendship. I feel you should date someone you’re not very close with. The heartbreak wouldn’t be as painful. I couldn’t imagine losing a best friend as well as a lover.

I have never dated a friend and will continue not to. They are too much like my family for me to ever develop romantic feelings for. Is this normal? Anyone else have this kind of thinking?

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  • BleedingPain
    2 years ago

    Same thing with co-workers. It’s just asking for trouble.

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  • PurpleHoneycomb
    2 years ago

    I couldn't reasonably date someone I haven't known for a decent length of time. The whole spontaneous dating of random people seems like it blows up more often than not.

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    • hauntedbysandwiches
      2 years ago

      Exactly

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    I guess it doesnt work much but it worked for me. Been together 15+ years now.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches
    2 years ago

    Weird I'm close friends with 2 exes lol. One was my best friend before we dated but it didn't work out now we're best friends and the other same thing but not best just close friends

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    Of course you can go back to being a friend. Lots of people have done so (and my 40+ year lifelong best friend started as a dating relationship, and we dated again about 18 years ago after her divorce. While neither times worked out for marriage; we do make great friends... and its possible to stay friends; if you both are mature enough.

    While we live about 6 hours apart now I'm planning to spend 3 days with her in about a week (and my wife is just fine with that).

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    I have a girlfriend who swears that one can be friends with exes, but she seems to pretty much sleep with all of her male friends. I dunno if this makes a difference, but she says she's polyamorous, and hangs out with a lot of artists, actors, creative types, etcetera. ... but she also has a lot of drama with guys getting obsessed with her, and practically stalking her.

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  • Curiouskitten444
    2 years ago

    Sounds a bit like youre trying to protect yourself from getting hurt. Thats fair enough, and probably pretty common. Might want to ask yourself why you would rather date someone youre not really close to rather than not date at all.

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