I haven’t told my mom that my brother is suffering from depression

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Okay. So my brother just told me that he was diagnosed of depression by his doctor. He would sometimes cry with no apparent reason (I rarely see him cry, btw) and he told me that he had suicidal thoughts and he even googled “how to kill myself without anyone knowing...making it look like an accident.”
When he told me about this, i felt like my heart suddenly dropped and Id worry about him and couldnt sleep for a few days. I told him to tell Mom, but he said that he doesn’t want to stress her out even more since she already worries about his illness and she might not be able to sleep comfortably esp that she works 15 hrs a day and might affect her health. I wanted to tell Mom but then I know that if I was in his situation, i wouldn’t want her to know either. But I know I should tell her about it, because she’s our Mom and she deserves to know. I don’t know what to do:(

I’m guessing most of you would probably try to convince me to tell her but, my mom is quite old already and she works most of the day, everyday, barely getting 6 hrs of sleep and she’s been experiencing some health concerns. Mom is very very protective of us esp to my brother who has a chronic illness and everytime something bad happens to us, she’d feel like fainting. Her health is already bad enough and I’m worried that if she finds out that my brother is suicidal...then who knows what will happen to her. And I feel like shit considering not telling her. He told me that he has no reason of killing himself, he wants to live and that’s why he tries his best to take care of his health. It’s just that “depression” is really hard to control and he couldn’t even remember when he googled something like “how to kill myself” and only found it on his browser history (Thank God that he hasnt actually tried to do it). That is some scary shit. And I’m TERRIFIED for him. I have no fucking idea what to do:(( Please tell what you’re thoughts about this so that I can make up mind. I’m this close of ripping my hair out lol. Thanks in advance.

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    I don't think it's worth it. She won't magically improve how he feels. It will only cause more stress. If your brother wishes to tell her, he will.

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    You give a lot of excellent reasons not to burden your mother with your brother's diagnosis. What you don't do is explain why she _should_ be told, apart from some vague concept that a parent has the right to know this sort of thing.

    Are you sure you don't want to tell her just because you feel it would lighten your burden? Just how, exactly, is her knowing the nature of your brother's problems going to help either her or him?

    It is your brother's right to decide who knows that he's clinically depressed. You have no right to share this information with your mother or anyone else.

    Focus on helping your brother deal with this issue, and respect his request that you do not tell your mother.

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  • itachi_uchiha
    6 years ago

    May be you shouldn't tell your mom try whatever you can so that your brother won't feel depressed

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Your mom likely already suspects. She should be told by your brother, but he should include he is getting help to keep the conversation positive.

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