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I just dont like fat people. I know I shouldnt be this judgementsl but its just gross to me. It shows someone has poor self control that they continue to eat food all the time knowing that they are fat. I dont like to associate with people like this.

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  • ibrokemyds

    Fat person checking in here - honestly as long as you don’t say it straight to my face I can accept that.

    I’m aware my weight makes me unattractive to most people, it makes me unattractive to myself. And I myself judge people who are a lot fatter than me, I won’t lie. Obviously I’ve tried to lose weight but I’m someone who, as you said, doesn’t have that much self control, and lack of self control in itself is an unattractive trait. I’m just not a fan of being reminded of that fact I’m ugly lol.

    You don’t have to find fat people attractive. You’re allowed to silently judge us in your head. As long as you don’t go out of your way to ridicule in public most of us are fine with you thinking we’re ugly lol.

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    • Grunewald

      I love the graciousness and self-knowledge about this comment. Take care.

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    • Herktime

      Very gracefully answered. Well said, though I’d say it’s helpful to keep in mind we’re all just the same amount of beautiful and ugly, rich or poor, and submissive or dominant, to the degrees those things are spread across a million different circumstances and factors, relationships and over the course of a lifetime, and that if we look back - assuming that gift of life extends long enough to find these extremes became equally apportioned and in totality balance evenly from one person to the next - a great wisdom and harmony will be the relief from the burdens of comparison in one domain, here poorly characterized as fat vs. non fat.
      Secondly, if question was made by someone who understands they are actually asking if a reflexive dislike of people who don’t display the kinds of risk factors for obesity - current level of discipline vs. competing uses of one’s disciplinary self regulatory energies; lack of apparent familial random luck in that often children are not aware of the consequences of behaviors “fed” to them within a family similarly Ill suited to become educated and at least restrict their children from early obesity but even so it isn’t easy to resist falling into the habits and pathways laid as your earliest models of how to deal with life and prioritize health (and opposite that is the relatively easier time about it that someone from a family that raises them on a well educated, health conscious lifestyle - they needn’t expel energy resisting any allure or natural resort to poor health habits like poor diet because it wasn’t available to learn and doesn’t reflect their discipline at all, really - it’s easy to resist what you already don’t want and never have.); lack of self respect and the apparent inability to offer the same basic treatment to others, a generally appropriate concept but not individualized in any way - here, each fat person might respect much of themselves and while they have destructive health habits and might not be the supportive friend in that capacity in respecting others enough to encourage their health dietary habits, either, they may well have capacity in most of the ways that they owe this respect and responsibility to treat others as we should treat ourselves to a high level that is not evident when Poster here interacts with fat people because Poster isn’t able to respect them as entire beings and can’t distinguish sufficiently that one should go out of their way to demonstrate otherwise to them; that people who have a health status indicating lack of self control have evidently less self control than Poster is nonsensical- indeed, Poster hasn’t the self control to post this in a more meaningful and helpful way, not because of lack of capacity but, I suspect, lack of control in looking to better and improve themselves to rise to be a good person to others and again this reveals how self serving we can all be when appraising strangers as essentially “not helping us out or advantaging us and merely bothering us on sight as their appearance reminds us we are dependent on others for our own successes and advantages in our personal lives we wish so badly to be credited to our own heroic deeds and capacities, if that makes sense. So, Poster isn't wrong about their reflex to be disgusted or have visceral objection to people who aren’t worthwhile or living up to their potential for the good of their and all our sakes. Poster is wrong that being fat is a demonstrable piece of evidence that fat people embody such persons, individually or as a group of people. Truthfully, it’s very hard to live up to one’s potential and may occur over a lifetime of experience doing so with varying degrees of success, when popular we will find we become quite instantly, in fact, but it’s a complex culture and there’s so much to grasp that most of us can only live up to our potential in several domains or for a few others and then try not to harm the rest of humanity as we go. Poster offers no reason why anybody owes them anything, and a truly self aware and disciplined mind would observe that reactive disgust, note the deeply rooted psychosocial needs and the illusory nature of their attributions here, and likely wind up with some degree of gratitude and compassion at the sight of all people less individually realized at their stage of life in the community they live and give themselves to, and turn to take in times of unexpected need that for all can be expected to surface in our own lives and throw our sense of predictability and self order out the window. If it’s today you are in balance that isn’t likely to persist, especially if you’re carrying weight of the suffering and lifting them up as best as you’re able as that weight unravels your balance, willingly, and the life lessons and affirmation that you can act selflessly and with real effectiveness invite better outcomes and quality of life in some small way in your own path as well as in those who weren’t situated to be so fortunate…that is likely to leave you prey to surprise and periods of need when you encounter difficulties and your hands are full, some stop gap is overflowed and you break down in your manifest potential with no choice but to stay low and dependent or rise in humility and detachment from your assumptions that you’re owed any guarantee of security and happiness from anyone, if at all.
      That’s my 2 cents. But what do I know? …

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  • Grunewald

    I feel oddly, wordlessly encouraged by other overweight women. Like, 'we're in this together'. I do admit my unkind tendency to judge extremely obese people without knowing their story.

    I'm fat by this country's standards - I'm usually the heaviest woman in a room. I'm the normal degree of 'medically overweight' by UK standards.

    I feel judged here and I can't deal with it. I have been overweight most of my adult life and when the weight comes off, it's usually in one isolated event like getting heartbroken or sick or having my meds changed and losing all appetite for a month or so.

    I put on extra weight on purpose last year because I was stuck living in the eaves of a big house last winter and couldn't cope with the cold. Taking that weight off again is so hard it's making me wish I'd just fought my flatmate over the heating a little more.

    I'm limiting portion sizes and steadily losing lbs and I am appreciating the extra mobility and sartorial freedom immensely. I am not appreciating constantly feeling tired.

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  • Scouselad

    Karma trust me comes round

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  • RoseIsabella

    Karma just might bite you in the ass with a low thyroid soon.

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    • Its funny you mention it because I actually have it and have managed to keep the weight off.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Oh shit, G, that's news to me! Sorry, I wasn't trying to be a douche.

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  • amanddaaa

    Most people can lose weight yes. Some people honestly cant. Having the resources to lose weight and be healthy is a privilege unfortunately. And most thin people are thin cause of genetics.

    The hardest part of losing weight isnt losing it. Its keeping the weight off that’s hard.

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    • No one at auschwitz had problems losing weight. It didnt matter on genetics because the way it works is if you eat less calories than you burn you will lose fat. Its physically impossible not to.

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  • profanity

    Harpoon time, baby.

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