I lie to avoid bullying from customers

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I am very slow and stupid, always have been. I struggled tremendously in school and took special ed classes; I can't think fast; I have a very difficult time paying attention and focusing (though I'm medicated so it's not so bad anymore); and I am horribly forgetful.

The problem is that I don't have a socially acceptable excuse for my stupidity. I was never diagnosed with any disability, because my parents didn't believe in learning disabilities, and by the time I got myself to a psychiatrist in college, we decided that a diagnosis would now be pointless, because I had solved the problems myself for the most part, and a diagnosis would only hurt my ability to get a job.

I work in customer service, and every once in a while, I get a nasty customer who is angry or amused by how stupid I am, and tries to bully me for it. They play mind games with me, wasting my time and humiliating me. I can't fight back obviously, because I NEED this job. I need to pay my bills.

BUT, I've discovered that if I lie and tell them, "I have a disability," or, "I was in a car crash and got brain damage," they instantly stop and are much nicer to me. They usually leave quickly and often don't return. I've used these excuses to save myself multiple times.

I'm sure real disabled people and car crash victims don't appreciate this; but I don't think it's much different than when I tell a perverted creeper that I can't ever date him because "I'm gay."

Is it normal for a stupid person to lie about brain damage to cover for their stupidity? It seems in this day in age, society demands a doctor's note for stupidity; otherwise you're game for bullying from grown adults.

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Based on 35 votes (27 yes)

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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

It does sound like you have a mild learning disorder even if you were never diagnosed. Also iI think it would help to be diagnosed. If the doctor thinks it wouldn't be helpful, get another doctor. Some docs are just against testing because they think it wastes insurance money.
I have a learning disability too and it has signifantly effected my life. I was in highschool until I was 22 and have not been able to hold a job or college. Social relationships are a challenge and I have not been able to maintain living outside my moms house and always end up moving back. If it wasnt for my mom I would probably be homeless. I wreak all my cars and cannot figure out bills or paperwork. I havent been able to maintain a girlfriend or get along with roommates. I see others grow as I am where I was when others were teenagers even though I am 30.
If I was never diagnosed I wouldnt even know why I have these problems which would only make things worse. Knowing I have a neurological disability allows me to work on it. Without knowing I could not work on anything any I did not know until I was in my early 20s which I think has negatively impacted me and made me a very dysfunctional adult.
I dont think lying about a car wreak is a good idea because dishonesty always comes back to cause problems for you. I would just keep with saying you have a disability, because you likely do. Meanwhile try to get diagnosed and learn what symptoms you can improve. I dont usually tell anybody in real life unless they ask. If they act rude about it I will usually just get angry at them for being rude. I realize that may not be to respond professionally but I have taken so much shit in my life that I have no tolerance for intolerance.

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- NobodyKnows
  
  9 years ago
  
  I think my life would be better if I had a diagnosis, but I'm afraid to ask for one. Where I live EVERYONE claims to have a disability, so no one takes me seriously when I tell them I might have one. Every time I tried to bring it up to a professional I was shamed away from seeking a diagnosis or help. One shrink convinced me for a while that it was all in my head. Of course I believe her because, you know, I'm stupid.
  
  But, since I am taking medicine now, I guess I might be able to convince a shrink that something is wrong with me, and get a diagnosis.
  
  BUT, you have to understand that even if I do have a diagnosis, that will only help marginally. Many people where I live don't believe that things like ADD or Anxiety exist, and despise people who say they have it.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    That is just ridiculous and I am glad I do not live there. I cannot diagnose you but it sounds like you make have actual ADD or a learning disorder. Obviously peoples brains do not all work the same. It may benefit you to move if you are in such an intolerant society. I also do not know why they would give you meds with no diagnosis. I have never heard of a doctor doing that. Are you sure you were not diagnosed and they did not tell you? I recommend requesting your medical records.
    
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RoseIsabella

9 years ago

I'm not mad at you.

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Terence_the_viking

9 years ago

Make a shit and post it to them.

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- NobodyKnows
  
  9 years ago
  
  I like that idea.
  
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reminiscent

9 years ago

I think its absolutely horrable that they are bullying you! What discusting people... (｡+･`ω･´)
If a little white lie helps you not get bullied I think that its ok. It seems you did have difficulty growing up...and you dont deserve to be bullied in your work environment ♡

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- NobodyKnows
  
  9 years ago
  
  I may have to keep lying even if I DO get a diagnosis. Where I live, many people do not believe in disorders like ADD, Asperger's, or Anxiety.
  
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  - reminiscent
    
    9 years ago
    
    Thats is sad...im sorry you have to go threw that
    
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cockcabinet

9 years ago

you need to just bend the bully over and fuck his ass

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- NobodyKnows
  
  9 years ago
  
  I would have to buy a strap on first.
  
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  - cockcabinet
    
    9 years ago
    
    whatever it takes i have faith in you
    
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Shrunk

9 years ago

First off you seem pretty well spoken, going off this post. If you are physically slow i would suspect its more of a neurological condition... Secondly, I don't get the point of avoiding a diagnosis... You don't have to tell employers there's any disability, but if you're telling customers anyway then why not get the correct answer as to what your disability is... Thirdly, why work in a position where you will be bullied for not doing an adequate job? If you can get hired to customer service despite your disability, I'm sure you can get hired to a more behind-the-scenes type job... But I guess that's down to personal preference. Seems to me like you're doing pretty well for yourself...some People can just be fucking assholes to mess with you! Hopefully they get what's coming to them... :/

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- NobodyKnows
  
  9 years ago
  
  Sadly most behind-the-scenes-jobs are white-collar office jobs, which I could probably do, but could never get hired for due to competition. Like most college graduates, I can't get a job for what I went to school for; but unlike most college graduates, I refuse to continue living with my parents. So I've taken shit jobs in order to live on my own.
  
  Maybe the shit is just a price I pay for the freedom of living on my own, that most people my age seem to lack.
  
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handsignals

9 years ago

Get this printed on a T Shirt and wear it to work.
http://i.imgur.com/jBfTssn.jpg?fb

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- NobodyKnows
  
  9 years ago
  
  Best movie ever.
  
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