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My husband is catholic and wants a big family so I pretended the same because I wanted to get married. I went to church and said I wanted lot's of kids.
Thing is I am not even catholic and I really don't plan to have any children and I am getting my tubes tied. I don't plan on telling him either. I figure it's my body to do as I please.
Is it ok?
Most doctors in the US refuse to preform that procedure on a healthy childless woman.
So when you have been “trying for kids” for 2 years to no avail and he suggests adoption what will you say?
Um I asked for help not some person to make nasty comments all over. You are rude.
I'm honest is what I am!
What makes you think you deserve to have things your way more than he deserves to have them his way?
Whatever. So if your husband wants a kid you just pop one out for him? How many kids do you have? Why does his way deserve it more? I don't mean to be rude but you seem like you have been tilting your elbow tonight with all the comments. Maybe wait till tomorrow and answer when your head is a little more clear. Maybe you mean ok. But um oop you call me a bitch etc. And spam me.
For fuck sake be honest. You sound like some other women on here about their husband when they say "it's my body I can do what I want so I dont feel bad about affairs"
Tell him the truth. Marriage is suppose to be honest true and trustworthy..
It's not like I'm gonna say anything to him about not wanting them. I will just postpone till his older and by then he will think he shoots blanks. Till then I can always take that next day pill if I need too.
Beside he ain't a saint. We had sex before marriage which he shouldn't have done.
And I haven't had any affairs yet so I dont understand about that.
He had sex with you before marriage and he shouldn't have? Weren't you there at the time?
I hope you don't reproduce because you are dishonest and idiotic. Oh, and ignorant: it's women who have trouble conceiving as they age, men can father children into old age.
You're going to be disappointed; male fertility isn't tied to a strict biological clock like female fertility is.
If he can get it up he can still bump out kids, lol.
You must not love him very much if you can just flippantly lie about yourself to him. I bet you're just marrying him so you won't be alone, and for financial support, huh? You sound like a truly awful person! It's not cool to live a lie, and possibly ruin another person's life in pursuit of that lie. I hope he finds out the truth about you! You sound like the kind of person who should be alone.
I should be alone cause I don't wanna spit kids out like a pez dispenser. Sure that makes a bunch of sense, not.
We are in love and yes he should take care of me.
You should be alone, because you are actively lying to him, and you don't care for his needs, and wants. You are selfish, and it's disgusting. You should be honest with this guy. I hope he figures you out, and leaves you. Men are not walking piggy banks!
If you really love this guy then just tell him the truth!
Leave this guy who wants all the kids, and find someone else who doesn't want children!
OP is speaking very clinically/philosophically about all of this, when it's supposedly about life and marriage and emotionally intense subjects...
My guess is that this post isn't authentic.
if you didn't want kids you should've told him not being a liar also not working youre the worst type
Make sure to squeeze his tip so he doesn't finish early when you two are getting frisky.