I love it when my girlfriend calls me a "nigger," is that normal?

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My girlfriend and I have been together for a while now, and in recent months she's become pretty comfortable calling me certain things in private.

I myself have an extremely diverse ethnic background, though I most notably have negro heritage, as well as caucasian heritage. Looking at me on the street though, you'd think I was biracial, as my negro and caucasian heritage is prominent. My girlfriend, however, is as caucasian as can be, with pale skin, bright blue eyes, and long brown hair.

All of that aside, when my girlfriend and I are alone or around the house, she enjoys calling me things like "half-breed," "mutt," "halfrican," and of course, "nigger."

I really enjoy it, but I don't know why, and I'm not sure anyone else in my situation would, which is why I'm typing this up.

When we make love, she gets even worse and says things like, "...you don't deserve this white pussy..." and "...you better not nut inside me, nigger; I'm not trying to have any jigaboo babies." From what I can tell, she enjoys it as much as I do, especially when I call her a "race traitor" or a "chocolate-dipper."

We love each other, but I'm just not sure I should be enjoying this as much as I am. I really enjoy the fact that she puts me down the way she does, but I feel like the only reason I enjoy it so much is because a small part of me genuinely believes every word she says.

When I look at my girlfriend, I feel like I did very well for myself, not just because she's gorgeous and this and that... but because she's "white."

I've always been more attracted to "white" women, but when I say that aloud, I feel ashamed. I'm a pretty attractive guy, and I've never really had any self-esteem issues, but this is one topic that really embarrasses me. I feel like I have some sort of complex.

Is my situation normal? Am I normal, or am I some kind of self-hating racist?

I don't doubt that this post might provoke some interesting comments, so I'll be sure to reply to intelligent and thoughtful ones.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    I'm laughing hysterically!

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  • Thexoutcast
    11 years ago

    Being a black female it kinda pained me to read that. Setting aside personal feelings I believe you are just a verbal masochist.

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  • help_is_here
    13 years ago

    I think you're putting to much emphasis on race. Although the word "nigger" has an interesting background, I don't think there's anything wrong with her calling you it if it doesn't bother you.

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  • crazogirl
    11 years ago

    You sound submissive.

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  • NickyDTX
    6 years ago

    I have a Mexican girlfriend and I call her a beamer and wetback... not during sex but just to fuck with her. But I could see how this would be a turn on.. I'm white by the way.

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  • missysplantation
    8 years ago

    It's just another subcategory of BDSM, just like the Nazi fetish or any other type of domme/sub roleplaying. Anyways, just google the word raceplay or google my name & you'll find my blog & other fun information! Enjoy!

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  • missysplantation
    8 years ago

    It's definately very hot. The fetish that you're talking about (and you may not know the term for yet) is called RACEPLAY. I do this a LOT in my personal life & I enjoy owning black slaves.

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  • 53739
    8 years ago

    this is so hot!

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  • Vital_Information
    8 years ago

    Hot as fuck. I'm a black guy, too, racist dirty talk like this during sex is a massive turn-on. My wife is white, she's done it for me a couple of times, it was amazing.

    The perfect scenario would be a slightly thick white woman with wide hips and a Southern accent, in the doggy position, just repeatedly slinging the N-word at me over and over while I plow into her from behind. She'd be so damn pregnant by the end.

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  • regisphilbin
    9 years ago

    i think it's normal, you have a racial fetish and it turns you on emotionally to hear your girlfriend say those things, but you both love and respect each other and that's what counts

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  • anonymouslyours
    9 years ago

    I wouldn't stress over it. Just enjoy the relationship. I'm Mexican American and I'm married to a white girl. We'll say stuff like that too sometimes but we both know we are being sarcastic or joking.

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  • swaggs
    9 years ago

    I think I know what ya mean brother. I am Hispanic. Both of my parents born in Mexico. I am pale skinned but you can see I am not totally white. I am dating this perfect blonde blue eye dancer and she calls me her mexican etc. Makes me proud to be dating her. I mean my last 5 girlfriends have all been white. I guess I like how they look over all other ethnicity. I think I am a bit prejudice about the girls I date. But I'm not self hating or racist though some hispanics do tend to do this depending on wealth and or skin tone.

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    • swaggs
      9 years ago

      Also you should enjoy it because at a biological stand point you are suppose to choose the best mate to have a baby with and in the world that obviously is controlled by white men. It is favorable that your offspring looks more white than anything else. So enjoy the fact that you don't put your kids at a lesser chance of success because you wanted to have sex with a black girl.

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  • Teddyjackson
    9 years ago

    During slavery , the black man watched the white man rape the black woman. To get back at the white man the black man goes after there women. Now the white man called the black man nigger and all other names to belittle them.

    Since The white man basically called the black man a piece of shit. They're fucking white women to get back at the white man. Basically stating I'm a piece of shit but your woman would rather suck and fuck me than you. Whose the piece of shit now???

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  • truthbetold2014
    9 years ago

    Dude. A lot of guys love being dominated by females in the bedroom just like a lot of girls love being dominated by males in the bedroom, but one huge problem that you have is thinking you've done good by having a white girl. What in the fuck does that have to do with anything? A lot of white girls are ugly as shit and are poor white trailer food stamped trash, so I don't know why you think that is so awesome. You seem to have head issues and need to see a shrink. And for you to say you have always been more attracted to white women is racist. I mean hey, I think Latin girls are the most beautiful girls on earth, and I am black, but I still love all girls, no matter what race. There could be an ugly Latin girl and a very beautiful African girl, and I will go for the African girl. There is nothing great about someones skin color. My girl of 15 years is white, but I don't think she is no better than a black girl. Also by letting her put you down like that is not just putting you down, but it's putting your ancestors down as well. What is wrong with you? You are really messed up in the head dude and I think you need some help, and your girl needs some help as well. Even if I told my girl to call me the N word she would not. She would probably leave me. Please don't have kids, they will be all fucked up in the head just like both of you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Me too!^

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