I'm 18 and i've never had a boyfriend or been kissed

I'm 18 and I've never been kissed either...I know exactly how you feel. And it's not like I'm repulsive..I know I'm attractive (not being conceited) but I'm painfully shy and I can't seem to relax around the guys I'm attracted to! I can be myself around people I'm not attracted to and then they end up liking me b/c I was nice to them! Ugh it's so frustrating! Nice to know I'm not alone...

I'm glad to know I'm not alone =)
I jus 18 n have never been with a guy let alone kiss one lool... and it does get me down sometimes since most of every1 i know has had a bf. I'm not ugly or anythin (I don't mean to brag, i'm jus being honest) so y?? And I don't mean to be rude or mean or anythin, i really don't, but I know a few ugly girls n they have boyfriends. So I really dont get it... =s

Although I'm a guy, I match everything in your summary. i dunno if it's less acceptable to be aguy in this situation than a girl, but nevertheless, it bothers me from time to time. I'm quite reserved most of the time, but I endevour to be friendly, generous and tolerant of those around me. I find most girls quite intimidating, usually because they're always in a group!! When I do meet and get chatting with a particularly nice girl, I usually hit bad luck and later find out she's already in a relationship. I get v nervous about actually getting with a girl these days, because I feel the pressure and I've built it up in my head to be a bigger issue than it actually is. I try not to make it a priority, but I do worry it won't happen. I turn 20 in a few months and I think the pressure will only get worse. However, I do thank myself that I haven't had a terrible experience (although i do worry about that in the future!) and have a healthy expectation of women and am not thinking about sex all the time. I just carry on and hope I'll meet the right girl one day :)

Hopefully we'll both find a way!

Good luck

I also recently turned 18 and am in the same boat. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one.

You are definitely NOT alone! I too am almost 19 and a sophomore in college. I don't like drinking and partying like a lot of other college students. I have never been on a date and have never been kissed. It's extremely hard to see so many of my friends with numerous guys who want them... you can't help but wonder if there's something wrong with you! It's just become pretty normal to me though and I've come to terms with it for now. Truth is, we are still pretty young and this is a new beginning in our lives. You are starting out college so go out and have fun being single! A lot of guys at this age are only out for sex and they don't want the challenge of going after an intelligent girl who wants a real relationship. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and as you said, the right guy will eventually come along! Just live your life for you and it will happen when you least expect it! Best of luck! :)

I almost wonder if you're LDS, lol. Because I am, and find that perfectly normal. I don't drink, smoke, party, and my group of friends is kinda small for that reason. I didn't have my first kiss until I was like 17. Oh, and I'm a guy. Don't let things like this get to you. The right guy will come along someday. Not all of us are jerks. ;) The ones that are just give guys a bad name. College is a bigger place than high school, so you are bound to meet someone there. Just stick with your studies, and keep some time open for socializing. Guys, at least ones like me, don't like shallow, dumb girls. Besides, the fact that you've never been kissed is kinda cute. Just sayin...

You should be happy! You haven't been used by some jerk off for his own sexual pleasure and you haven't been emotionally abused so that he could get there! Even if you go through college without a boyfriend (which I doubt) you will be better off than the 99%% of young women who lose their virginity to jerk offs!

I've just read your story and I can relate completely. I also turned 18 in May this year and I've never been kissed nor have I had a boyfriend. It never bothered me in high school because I attended an all-girls high school but now that I'm in university, I feel pressured to be in a relationship all the time. I have many friends and I believe that I'm fun to be around but I'm overweight and not as attractive as other girls so that hinders my self-esteem to an extent.
Two of my close friends both have guys that they are in a relationship with and they keep asking me who I'm interested in or who is interested in me. I don't want to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship but I also feel like I'm at that point in my life where I'm ready for one. I'm just not ready to approach guy in that sort of way.
I guess that everyone moves at their own pace and we'll find someone when the time is right. I know that this sounds corny and I hate corny stuff (except for jokes and, of course, corn) but I think that it's true. Although, I must admit, it's easy for me to type it, but not so easy for me to believe it and implement it in my own life.
But every day is a chance for me to try.
I hope that you find success, love, and above all, contentment.

I think you just haven't met the right guy for you, I'm very close to 18 and I haven't had a girlfriend. This is because I haven't met the right girl for me too. This may not seem as bad as "Divx99"'s case but we all know how fustrating this can be.

Oh my gosh, reading your post was like reading someone describe my life right now. I was so worried that there was something wrong with me or that maybe people saw something weird that I kept missing in myself. I've never questioned my self-worth and I'm comfortable in myself but just today after spending hours on end with my friends and their boyfriends/girlfriends really got to me a little.
The comments on here are so sweet, and 88% normal sounds good to me :)

Thank you for asking this question or I probably wouldn't have gotten any peace of mind tonight.

You seem lovely, good luck with love.

I didn't have a real boyfriend until I went to college and now we have been dating for 3 years and are deeply in love. I definitely believe it will happen for you, too.

I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 18; and now that I look back upon it, he wasn't so great of a person. It's good that you haven't been boy-chasing like so many young women these days. Just keep your standards high, and enjoy the time you have to improve yourself and grow. Someone will come along eventually.

wow that's great to hear i am 25 yrs old man , but i had never kissed or had a girlfriend till now.

it is normal my friend you will get your MR. Right soon..

but just wait for the right moment

hmmm i am also searching for a good girl to be my girlfriend forever.

If you have that problem when you are 81 - start worrying. Otherwise, you are still pretty young and have a lot to look forward to.

18? Really? Well I was 29 before I had a girlfriend. I've had two girlfriends now, but nothing no girlfriend or even a kiss for two years and I have very few friends. Still I'm not worried or anxious. My main problem isn't looks as many have said I look good, it is lack of money, women don't want a guy who can't afford to take them out for dinner, no matter how honest, loving and supportive he is.

I would love to be 18 and never been kissed again.

Don't be hurry about that. The first time I kissed I have 19 years old (It was 1 month before I turned to 20), and he is being my boyfriend since that. And I'm 23. And I went to college... and I don't like to party too much or drink. You will find the mister right for you.

omg! i have hat same prob. i too kinda lost my friends i had had for like 8 yrs, because of getting older, and they wanted to do things that regular teens do, such as drink, smoke, sex...etc. but i was like thats not me, and im not interested in any of that stuff, so we kinda lost contact. and for some reason i cant find any guys that are interested in a girl like me, i guess what you would consider a "goody 2 shoes", but i just see it as i respect my body, and dont feel as tho i need to do those things to have fun! idk, maybe one day someone will appreciate girls like us. and boys too. hope you find that rite person for you tho. as for now, i've actually become content being without a bf. its never really been a priority to me tho, but maybe one day i'll find someone too.

being a girl, you have nothing to worry about, trust me. Guys are fucking desperate creatures you can get one easy.

You're normal. I was a virgin until I was 18, and I had my first adult relationship when I was 27.

Same here. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one.

Strange creature...I know, right?! I see it in a similar way to you: before, it used to make me feel so depressed when I thought about it, but now, it's still something that I feel like I've missed out on, but it's not such a big deal anymore.

if you want to find someone the easiest way is to either get involved in a few clubs or go to some of your friends parties you dont have to party all the time but you should get out sometimes this way you could meet your mr right

Wow ... I totally see myself in you O:
... wait seriously did i write this lol??
Yeah ive never kissed anyone though ive been asked out many times by guys i know... and said no because i was scared :(
Now ive kind of built a reputation for rejection and guys have stopped asking D:
I feel bad but i just didnt click with any of the guys... they were just mates! Sometimes i get so depressed i go out and get completely drunk and attack the "wrong" kind of guys... i really dont recommend that! I think the best thing to do is to look fun, available and approachable! :D

ill fuck u lets meet up lass

Hi there!

I just turned 18 and will be starting college in september. I have never been kissed, neither had a boyfriend. I usually think it is overwhelming seeing couples everywhere I go. I want to have a boyfriend but I'm not desperate ; I won't jump on any guy :P Sometimes it just gets too much to take. I want a serious relationship with someone who has the same interests as me. I'll hope I'll find it someday. Or no, I WILL find it someday. A first kiss should never be pressed.