I'm 20 years old and i am already bored with life.

I am 20 years old and I just don't have anything to look forward to. Most of my friends are the same age as me and they all just want to drink, party, and sleep with random people. I'm not really interested in that. In fact, I feel pretty apathetic to almost everything in life.

I'm about to graduate college and I am not in the least looking forward to my future. I have no idea what job or career I will have and I will probably end up doing something I hate for the next 44 years until I can finally retire. Ten more years and then death.

Is it normal to feel like this at 20 years old?

All comments are greatly appreciated.

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  • GlassDarkly31

    If you are bored, then there must be a feeling of want. Rid yourself of the want and you'll be free. Think about it. The moments you are bored, there is something you want that you believe will alleviate your boredom. Find and eliminate your wants.

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  • AbyssPrussia

    Do something different. Do something you never thought you would do. I remember when I realized my hunger for life was dwindling, I dropped out of University (MN) and went to a beauty school (I had no idea about anything having to do with looks/beauty), my parents were pissed but I graduated from there anyways. I am now makeup artist.
    I get good pay,I'm living on my own.
    I have fun and I can already see my future.
    If you feel like you have nothing to do with life already, you need to do something to change that! It doesn't have to be drastic, but you need to find your appetite for living again.

    Or be bored the rest of your life.

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  • Painfulnote

    Not normal.So you need some kind of obsession?
    if the simple things in life can't excite you ,only a plague can.

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  • cookiesaregreat

    Sounds a lot like me. I agree with Marisol that you have to try to find something you like doing, but I already know that that won't be easy. I for instance don't have anything I love, but I hope thats not the same for you.

    Just try and make it as enjoyable as you can make it.

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  • lastwolf

    omg this is so me -.-

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    • MarkGibbons

      ..It's most of us.

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    • HayManXR7

      <<Joined Party

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  • drogofwar

    Dude, you should get a cat!

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  • Aleks85

    That's cause life fuckin sucks dude, get used to it.

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    • Someone once told me that, they finished it with "and then you die"

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  • MiaScarlette.

    That sucks.

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  • Chefeetaboopers

    It's normal in my opinion. I felt the same way and still kinda do.

    When I was in high school, I hung with the "weirdos" but they mainly did drugs, partied, and had lots of sex so I never really fit in with them or anyone for that matter. When I got with my now fiancee of 5 years in my senior year of high school, a lot of my friends were single so they started disliking me.

    I then get accepted to go to culinary school- in which most of my friends were just gonna take a year or two off- and so then a lot of friends quit liking me. Once I started college, I barely had free time- the time I did have I wanted to hang with friends but most of my friends didn't wanna hang out. I haven't hung out with people in years.

    Now, I've graduated college, had surgery, and got a job. I get more free time but the only friend I have is my fiancee.
    and my family.

    I sometimes get in that mood of how I am bored and life sucks. But then I think- I may not have friends BUT I have a full time job, a degree, experience from college, a fiancee, and a great family. And then that gives me a reason to look forward to the future. :)

    Think of the good things in life. Maybe that'll help you feel better. :)

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  • HayManXR7

    And that's the story of life

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  • DollyBoots

    Sleeping around n drinking doesn't sound like your type of life :/ I dnt know you but you should live for a cause n invest your heart into something you love(: you need to break the everyday mold n meet new people, have adventures, visit places. Life is beautiful n it has many turns, enjoy your youth cuz YOLO!!!!!(:< hahaha but srsly live for something or someone(: have fun n enjoy<3

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  • Usuallynormal

    lol that's me

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  • sperry80

    I am so jealous of you. Honestly. To be 20 again and get to do an entirely different major, get involved rather than sitting around depressed (like I did), move to a better city, make better choices. Please take my advice and don't let this negativity bring you down to this degree. You have your whole life ahead of you to make better choices than some of us did. Maybe you could also try finding friends who don't waste their lives away drinking and sleeping round. Not that I'm judging them. I did the same thing and regret it terribly. Believe me, the worst feeling in the world is being 32 and having so many regrets about wasting your 20s...

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  • D-Fib

    Maybe because your brain is lazy. It's normal at a later age, but you still have so many new things to experience.

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  • lolargh

    Oh my goodness this is exactly how i feel right now. i've got a year left of uni and then yeah...i have nothing to look forward to.

    i say, take a couple of years out to go crazy! go off to another country by yourself and try to do something different, that's what i'm going to do. if your friends don't interest you go and find new ones. the great thing about having this apathetic attitude is the complete lack of care towards anything - so you can do something else without worrying about it too much.

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  • JackBrown

    If you're bored change something! Don't adapt to a pattern/routine, but keep trying different things until you find something that you enjoy.

    Travel, meet new (different) people, get out of your comfort zone; that's when real life begins.

    If you're bored, move! I assure you you'll find something of your (total, excessive, obsessive) interest soon.

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  • thrasher777

    Well do something about it. I started going to a lot of concerts a few years back. I also took up guitar, and enjoy fishing and hiking. I guess what i'm trying to say is just take up a new hobby, or go out and enjoy something.

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  • Wh0Ar3YoU

    Doode!! THats awesome.

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    • daydreamer394

      I think you mean Rudeda Stormsand.

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  • All I can say is that if you dont have any idea of what career you would want then you most likely will end up in some job that you definitely dont like and probably dont care much about either. Your story reads as if life already kicked your ass a little (no offense) which seems a little premature given your age. It also sounds as if you either have depression or the beginning stages of it. Good luck, I mean it, at 20 you shouldnt have these melancholy feelings already. Maybe at 70-80, but not at 20.

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  • Partying and drinking isn't the end all and be all of life, let alone teenage life.
    It's normal for people to think like this, but you are only twenty, you are yet to actually experience half the things in life.

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  • And since when does a twenty year old even know anything about life to begin with lol.

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    • xjrx

      I know this is old but I hope you see this you stupid ignorant Fuck I own two vehicles new and about to get a house I'm 21 so I'd say a 20 yr old can know a lot about life I feel. the same way bored and I have bought a challenger only to enlighten it didn't help much life Is about people not objects that's what makes life feel full

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  • NerdyChickFTW

    Pfft, I'm eighteen and bored with life.

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  • Dreamboat

    Sort of sounds like early stages of depression but then again IDK..you are the only one that knows how you feel among the billions of people on this earth,no one else knows.

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  • Why don't you kill yourself you fucking piece of shit! I fucking hate you and hope you die.

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  • Eternal_Wisdom

    do something about it then. you're in control of your life. you're not a passenger.

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  • Captain_Kegstand

    You haven't even gotten to the funnest years of your life yet! Between 21 and 24 I had so much fun it was absolutely stupid! I didn't figure out a career until I was 24 either!

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  • Marisol

    It is when you don't have any plans. I suggest you start thinking soon about your career. And one really good piece of advice is to make sure that what you choose to be your job, is something you love to do.

    If you do the oppsosite of this, you will end up feeling worse than you are feeling now. If you have a chance to do what you love, do it. Don't end up with something you will hate.

    You think so low of yourself that you say that you "will probably end up doing something I hate for the next 44 years until I can finally retire". Seriously man. You have to stop thinking this way. Be positive.

    You can make your life much more interesting by doing something you love. Don't waste the life which you have. You are only twenty years old. Make sure that by the time you need to retire, you can look back and say "Hey, I did alright"

    I must say though, you pretty much described me up there. Except, I know what I want to do, it is just a bumpy road towards achieving my goal. The thing that keeps me going is positive attitude.

    :)

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