I'm really attracted to my best friend! what should i do??!

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I've known my friend for years, we for the most part grew up together, lived in the same neighborhood and went to school together. I'm a guy and she's a girl and we never really made anything of it until i began thinking about it recently. We were the perfect team through elementary and high school best friends throughout, i can't imagine what my life would have been like without her, but now i'm beginning to become attracted to her. When we were in high school together, i did notice that she was getting prettier and prettier as she grew, but now a few months after graduation that i've realized she's stunning, i want her. It feels so wrong though because she's practically like a sister. But everything about her is just perfect i want her to be my first. She still comes over to my house every week to watch TV and talk and i don't want to make a fool of myself by throwing myself at her, i don't want to ruin a friendship that I've had all my life.

The other day she was wearing black casual pants that were really tight and i could almost see her camel toe. At the time we were watching a movie on Netflix and she was sitting right beside me, i wanted to ask her to sit on my lap so i could feel her vag on my balls but i stopped myself. Then later in the night she had to change and the bathroom was occupied so she told me to turn around and not look while she changed into jeans, and i could tell she wasn't wearing underwear, i wanted to turn around so bad to finally see her pussy, but i stopped myself because i knew she would freak out, scream and see me totally differently. I want to just outright ask her if she wants do it, there's so much tension now, and she's noticing that i'm beginning to act a little weird around her. I had a dream last night that she was totally naked ridding me rubbing her tight camel toe on my balls, i woke up with massive morning wood, then i cried for about 10 minutes because of my desperation.

I'm sorry if that was a bit graphic I'm just really attracted to her recently. The only problem is that she has never acted romantically towards me, sure sometimes she'll lay on my chest when we are watching a movie but i can tell she sees me like i'm her brother. what should i do, i'm so confused as to what to do. advice?

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  • here2help
    7 years ago

    just be casual and tell her that you have gained feelings for her over the years. this obviously wasnt an instantaneous thing, but if you have feelings for her. even though you may think you are like brother and sister, remember that you are not, so you shouldnt think that if you masturbate to her or fuck her its incest, because you arent related. i know how awkward it feels but you have to be rational, and being rational is looking at the facts. you think shes drop dead gorgeous and you have feelings for her. if you think she will be insulted by you wanting to go further or if you think youll lose this relationship by being honest youre being irrational. listen, woert case is that you know she doesnt want to date or fuck or whatever and you guys remain good friends. but now you both understand theres an attraction and you can restrain youreslf. the fact that you already have shown restrain is a good trait of your character.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    7 years ago

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  • rayb12
    7 years ago

    amazing yeah if she is your friend you need to be honest with her

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  • coltspm
    7 years ago

    wait for a while to say anything. what my father always told me is "the best relationship starts with a good friendship." dont rush in and tell your friend. ive done that too many times and lost their friendship due to it.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Get over it! The explicit language about your friend tells me that you waste a lot of time fantasizing about your so called best friend. I firmly believe that if you're fantasizing about her that you're torturing and bringing this on yourself by entertaining these ideas. If your friend doesn't see you as anything more than a brother then you're disrespecting her if you entertain sexual fantasies about her. I'm sorry I just can't feel sorry for you or anyone like you.

    I dumped my best guy friend from high school for telling me what he wanted to do to me. Not only was I never attracted to by ex best friend, but I was also married at the time. My friend cried, but I have never felt and will never feel bad about dumping my friend, because I saw his behavior as a blatant disrespect for me and my then husband. I cut ties with my friend in 2000, and have no regrets. I don't want to waste time being close to someone who is actively disrespectful of me.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Well you were married. My situation is different, we are both single and in the perfect position to... get in position. Imagine you're a guy whos stayed single for most of his life and you begin to realize that the girl of you dreams is right before your eyes. She's beautiful, single and has spent years snuggling up to you watching tv. in a non romantic way. Then finally you get to see her as the woman she truly is, in her bare form, as she sits on you with totally naked just as nervous as you are as you both stare at each others most sensitive parts, sharing passion that has been building for years. that's all i want.

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      • RoseIsabella
        7 years ago

        Yes, but how does she feel about you?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          I think she likes me in that sort of wear or at least would be comfortable with it. She touches me alot, and i can get away with hugging her for more than 15 seconds. Its just that recently i want to sleep with her. As in like really. Perhaps she's just at her most beautiful point every, she looks like a model and the best thing is, she acts like she doesn't know it. I'll turn her into a woman, I think I'd be her first too.

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          • RoseIsabella
            7 years ago

            Yeah, you almost had me there, brah, until the whole, "I'll turn her into a woman, I think I'd be her first too", comment. Would she be your first too, huh?

            I've never been so happy that I saved myself for my first love and that we both happened to be virgins. I don't know about this chick or how young ladies are today, but I wouldn't have been too keen on anyone saying that "I'll turn her into a woman" bullshit.

            Now onto a less personally biased from my point of view issue. I think if you respect and care for this girl you ought to concentrate more on whether or not she might actually be interested in dating and less on whether or not you'll ever have sex with her, and by concentrate less I mean stop wasting time fantasizing about her. Look at it this way, you will be much less miserable if it turns out she has no interest in anything more than platonic friendship with you.

            In closing I just want to say that I half ass wish I could have been a mind reader regarding my ex best guy friend, because that whole ugly scene probably never would have gone down as I probably would have cut ties with him the first time I knew he was having sexual thoughts about me. I really truly loved my ex friend like a brother, God knows I would have taken a bullet for that guy, but I'd rather drop dead than sleep with him. I gave him my friendship for many years and he repaid me with disrespect.

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  • llamalover
    7 years ago

    Normal, I feel you, You wouldn't want to end a good friend ship, but you don't want to miss an opportunity. Try waiting for a while, and don't act on your urges, you might get over it. If not, still don't just act on it. As awkward as it may be, try talking to her about it.

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