I'm scared to be in a relationship

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I'm 22 and have never been in a serious relationship before. I do want a relationship as I feel really lonely, but when people start becoming interested in me I become terrified and either reject them or tell them I'm not interested, or simply not talk to them that much anymore so they'll lose interest.

I use to get bullied a lot at school and socially rejected by my peers, which I think might have messed me up because I feel like I'm a horrible person and that I'm not worth anyone's time. When people do show romantic interest in me it's actually really hard for me to believe they're being genuine, and even after a while if I do realise their intentions as genuine I become terrified and feel like they're wasting their time and that there's so many people out there better than me that they could be going for. I'm not worth it, I think I'm a horrible person and it genuinely scares me that people like me and want to love me.

I don't know how to get over this or stop these feelings, I get so scared and terrified when people show romantic interest in me or want to date me. To me I can't or shouldn't be loved, no one should love me

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  • Mauifun808808
    2 years ago

    I understood what your saying. I'm 48 and my Girlfriend died 2 yrs ago and I have no motivation to date or even try and go out and meet new people. I have been asked out like you,but I feel WORTHLESS, and I can't Love someone else if I don't love myself because it's not fair to them. When I was in High School I was very Shy and full of self Hate and girls noticed that and stayed away. After my girlfriend died I truly gave up and I'm content with being Alone the rest of my Life. I hope you find HAPPINESS.😄😄

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