I'm tired of existing and have no motivation

I don't have the urges to suicide - but I do welcome death from others. I have no religion of my own and really am stunned as to how people can believe their faith is 'the one true one' or whatever.

I recently relocated for depressing reasons, and have been demoralized beyond belief. I'm young - 21 - but I have no idea what I want to do with my life, hate myself, and dislike women. [ I'm a male ]. I'm not gay, I just detest women.

Anyway, its strange because most of my friends are girls, and I come off as the nicest friend they have [so they tell me] I'm not looking to escape friend zones, or even move in on them, I'm simply at a loss for existence.

I have no purpose, no beliefs, no feelings. I just am. I have a 20,000 credit card limit and just use it freely on anything, whatever. I could care less anymore. I took a homeless man for lunch at burger king, and he told me that I looked sadder then him, to which I had nothing to respond.

I'm not overweight or socially inept, I'm actually pretty well established and what not, I just simply no longer have a drive or reason to want to push forward. I find this 'endless circle' of an existence to be futile, repetitive, and a grind.

My friends drive me somewhere and occasionally I'll joke, saying I wouldn't mind if we get hit by a car. They think I joke all the time, but honestly I welcome death. I say Ill never kill myself, and I won't - I'm just a scared little boy who is too much of a coward to do it myself, for the fear that maybe the closed minded religious theorists are accurate with their afterlife assessments.

Please don't jump the gun one way or another, I'm simply voicing my deep dark secrets here because, well I have no one to talk to. My parents are very religious and I must live the facade that I'm on their side, otherwise theyll be very hurt in my falling away from christianity.

I feel like a few different people. I don't want to hurt people or myself, I just wish things were different. I don't know why life has to be the way it is - I would simply enjoy living in a forest sustaining myself with the food nature provides reading books and writing in my free time.

I don't think I'm insane, I again apologize if I offend anyone. I really don't know what to feel these days in terms of where I'm going or what I want - I'd love to find a girl who understands me, but no one wants to be with someone who doesn't even understand themselves. I've turned away numerous invites [i'm not bragging] for dates and things on both spectrums, simply because I didn't feel I was a good influence on that person - let alone anyone.

Being around people, i make them weak - I drain them. My feelings and emotions are parasitic, and no one wants to hear that. The majority of my friends all have their head on tight, good jobs, success-bound, some even done with college.

I don't want to end up homeless or destitute - but at the same time I just lack the will to push forward when existing itself is simply a chore to me.

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    I was going to say you sound a lot like me until I read the, "I detest women" part. A bit rude and i was never one for generalizations.

    Anyways, I can relate to a lot of this. Do you think what you're thinking and feeling is akin to an existential crisis?

    While I feel pretty much the exact same way and it might be hypocritical for me giving advice, you really do sound depressed. You also said that you have no one to talk to, which is just awful and I am so sorry. Have you considered writing in a journal, or checking out the website www.blahtherapiy.com?

    Blahtherapy is like omegle, only...well, for venting and mental health. You can vent and talk to random strangers who VOLUNTEER to listen, so I say go at it.

    You could try going to your doctor and tlaking about it, maybe getting meds...then again, these aren't for everyone, y'know? They weren't for me, unfortunately.

    I don't want to write one boring-ass comment about what /I/ think you should be doing, because that's stupid. Are you like me in that you overthink things too much? Think too much in general? Try distracting yourself.

    I completely know what yuo mean when you say you feel you have no meaning. I feel that way all the time, but just...compare yourself to others. Look at others down the street and try to find a "meaning" or "purpose" for all of them. Chances are, you won't have none.

    We are not as important to the world as many people think we are. However, we ARE important to the small circle of people who know us, who love us, and have us in our memories somewhere. Somehow whether you know it or not, you've left an impression on somebody.

    My advice? Just find things you're passionate about. Go for walks, read up on others who think like you do and see what they've done. Find something to do, do the things you love and make you happy. Know the phrase, "Ignorance is bliss"? Well, in my personal opinion, I'm happiest when I "think" the less. Given that I think too much, question too much, worry too much - being simple and around loved ones makes me the happiest I can be.

    It sucks, and yes, you're right. Many of us just "exist" without a purpose. It's dark to think about, I know. I agree. Still why spend your time thinking about that (once in a while is fine, but it can get to a certain point..) when maybe you could be doing something that makes you happy? :)

    Sorry for the stupid, unnecessarily long message. Basically what I tried to say was, sure none of us are really important or have meaning, but who cares? Let's just do what we want with our lives and consistently challenge ourselves.

    And I apologize if I misinterpreted eeeeeverything you said, haha.

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    • Riddler

      How are you invisible?

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    • KingSwiss

      youre actually exactly right.
      its weird, I started smiling while reading this because its so accurate haha. I think I do think too much. My best friend often scratches his head when I bring up issues like these (when I used to) simply because he either didn't think about it that way, or just didn't think about it at all.

      I was probably a bit vague with the women statement - I do generalize and I believe its an issue I have, most every women I've ever had a close relationship to has burned me pretty badly (sister, cousin, all except my mother really). So I'm very leary of getting close to them, simply because I don't understand how they think.

      It probably sounds terrible or confusing, but I really understand how a lot of my friends, heck even most guys I meet think. they're intentions are very easy to read and their motives. because I have no basis to go off of for women, I just cant read anything and feel uncomfortable.

      I'm not shy or scared, its just I'm not a trusting person. even though I understand guys, it doesn't matter - I still don't trust people very much. But I will do it.

      Oh, and on the passionate thing - everything I did find I was passionate about, people told me I could never do. I didn't give up on them - its just pretty much every major goal I have has so many naysayers. There's rarely one person in my corner cheering me on or giving me support with the things I'd like to do.

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  • Anon120859

    i know this was 8 years ago, but i hope you're feeling better now.

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  • cherryz1

    Really enjoyed reading this:)

    Thank you for sharing this. There are many things people don't find acceptable to talk about and this is one .

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  • noid

    I am sad for you and hope life gets better for you soon.

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    • thank you. I'm sure it will. I'm just trying to find something. I'm just at a low in my life right now.

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      • noid

        Yeah, those are hard.

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  • What job do you have? I know my job sucks my soul and makes me feel this way sometimes. I went with normal because I think nearly all of us have lukewarm phases in life where we are feeling "meeeeehblurg" about everything. You should find something to light your flame, like a goal or passion.

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    • I am a manager at a restaurant.

      I'm tired of interacting with people. most of my passions or goals fizzled out when I realized its really all up to you (me)- people are unreliable and cannot be counted on for anything, unless it benefits them.

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      • noid

        Yes, I agree. People can't really be counted on for much of anything, even small things.

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  • anti-hero

    Get over yourself. People out there have real problems. You aren't starving. You're not a child sex slave and I bet anyone with a terminal disease would love your life. You ungrateful prick.

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    • Aytona

      You shut the fuck up asshole. Sorry that your real life problem isn't feeling useless all day and still waking up to everyday to experience a repeated cycle... Shallow cunt

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    • KingSwiss

      Youre right.

      That can be said about a lot of things though.

      people asking for a raise, people complaining about their rent being too high,

      how much the gas has raised over the years, and how low minimum wage is.

      Everyone has a low point in their life. Look into the mirror and think, im sure you've had some moments as well.

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      • anti-hero

        Everyone does but we don't all complain and feel sorry for ourselves.

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        • KingSwiss

          so if you had a son in my situation - or sibling, whatever - you'd give them a slap and say suck it up, 'be a man'!

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          • anti-hero

            I don't love you, I don't even know you. I am giving you the advice I would give myself or a friend.

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  • anti-hero

    Truth too real for you eh? Candy ass.

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    • I didn't remove your post.
      I was going to reply, but it wasnt there when I refreshed page.

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      • anti-hero

        Hmmm

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        • noid

          I was going to reply to it too, and then I saw it was gone.

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          • anti-hero

            Ok

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  • Diver2

    Have you tried sucking cocks? That should give you a sense of power.

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    • thanks for your input.

      i'm a straight guy unfortunately.

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      • WishIWasHere

        Pull some money out of the bank. Call a friend and go to the strip club.. Works for me every time.

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