I need a place to stay for a bit please help

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I just need a place to stay I'm in Australia and I'm not working just studying.
I lost it today pushed my mum away and cussed out my sister. She spoilt a fuck and laughs at me when I meantly struggle with my depression and anxiety. And today complained and told me to get over it. Because I told her if she could please make me another drink, which I made that drink in the first place to take my "natural meds" that don't do shit.
I have enough of my whole family abusing me and the whole world as well.
My Christian mum forced me to go off my meds and now my mentality is worse.
And dad is manipulative and tries to touch me inappropriately. I don't want to tell on anyone because my whole family will just turn it agaisnt me.
Mum is a dumbass bitch who won't divorce our abusive dad he's even beaten up and continue to abuse my brother!

I really need a place to stay, where can I go a women's shelter?

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Probably best not tell people you are off the meds and are having mental issues before you ask for a place to stay.

    Maybe go to a caravan park until you find somewhere better. Although being a student you probably have no income. But I think centrelink will give you some cash to live off if you stay in school and can prove you are a student. Think the payment is called abstudy or some shit like that.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Yeah they're not really helping me, they care more about physical violence and if I have kids.
      We have caravans parks in Australia?
      I was on new start but they cut it off, because I'm studying. I asked about new start but different people keep telling me different things. Like how old I need to be to get it. I'm 23 turning 24.

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        Weird that they cut your pay. Would have thought they would rather you studying. I know when I was doing a certificate 4 non apprentice (was all just done at tafe) They gave me a payment. That was over 5 years ago so shit could have changed since then.

        Yea dude we have caravan parks all over the place. Usually you can find a cheep caravan or cabin in the more of the shady run down parks, but there usually full of x jail birds and people with issues.

        Ya can put ya name down at human services for government housing. I did this when I was Doing my cert 4, the rent was cheep, about $40 a week (I think). Long waiting periods and if ya like me they put you next door to meth addicts.

        There is other places like "haven" and others that help with housing but I have never used them.

        Get back on a pay for studying and find a share rental. Just go to all the real estates and ask... I think this would be best for you.

        Yes you can't have newstart. Thats for people looking for work. You need to apply for the payment for studying! There pricks, they dont tell you anything, and you have to apply for everything. Nothing is auto. I don't miss dealing with cerntrelink!

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Oh and the reason they cut my payment off was because they told me I should go on Astudy. But they should have warned me after they cut it, and I'm struggling to get on Astudy because when I try make a claim they tell me I'm not old enough...

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          • [Old Memory]
            5 years ago

            Just googled searched... You need to be 25 to apply for austudy.

            It was a while back so I cant remember. But what I think they did with me was give me youth allowance plus a $20 study supplement. Now that I think about it, I think I had issues getting a pay as well.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              5 years ago

              Ah fair enough, yeah and the other person said I should be close enough to get it. But doesn't seem like it.

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          • [Old Memory]
            5 years ago

            That's funny I was a lot younger then you when I was on it.

            Actually come to think about it I don't think I was on astudy. Think it was called something else but they gave me an extra $20 on top of this pay cause I was studying.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              5 years ago

              Yeah it's weird! Because one worker said I could get it and another said I can't.
              It's so confusing...
              Maybe I'll try again but with another person over the phone.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Oh well I learned something new, yay!
          Yeah Centrelink is a pain to deal with! I remember once I waited an 2hour+ in Centrelink to fix a payment issue. And I even came in and checked my name with the admin on the waiting list. And soon just 5 minutes before closing time, they said the list has ended and everyone else had left, I was so upset and told them that I was still on the list and seen no one, the lady just coldly said "come back tomorrow and your name is not on the list". And it's the same admin lady! Guess they wanted to close 5 minutes early...

          Thanks for the advice, think I'll do that, but do you think I should I pick up a job while studying. I have done this before while studying, just partime or casual, worth it maybe? Since that's what I'm scared of as well, being dumbed next to meth heads and worse with no further support... Since I have huge trust issues with people Hense from my family abuse.

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          • [Old Memory]
            5 years ago

            Yea get part time. You can do a certain amount of hours before it effects ya pay, and then when it does it only effects 50 cent to every dollar you make until you earn to much to get any money. But don't quote me on that.

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  • leggs91200
    5 years ago

    The only thing I can advise is this. In your next living arrangement, try not to make a scene as to not get kicked out of there also. Another big thing is this, and this is huge - do NOT bring additional people with you to live wherever it is that lets you in. People are often kind enough to allow ONE person to come stay but sometimes that person starts bringing their own friends and then the host kicks everyone out.
    I have seen that happen and had to do it myself once.

    Just when you find a place, go in alone, clean up after yourself, , make SURE you know the house rules, and also ask how you can contribute to the house, even if you do not have cash to help. Cleaning, doing other chores, whatever.

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    • Bad101
      5 years ago

      Dude what are you doing?!
      She's a victim of abuse living with a shitty family, looking for help. She want's suggestion for places that offer help, not advice that should be given to shitty house mates. haha
      Did you read another post and accidental post here?! lol
      Give gotta agree with her tho. you coming off a bit you know too much lol.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        5 years ago

        Thank you that's my reason for the post.
        Even if you have no suggestions you still understand me, so thanks.

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        • Bad101
          5 years ago

          Np ;)

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            5 years ago

            :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I don't understand? When did I say I got kicked out??? "Next time" when?? I'm still living with my family.
      I'm looking for a place stay away from my family abuse. Not a shared living arrangement. Looking for shelter a women's one for temp support, and I got savings for nessecities not rent.
      And any common person knows how to clean up after themselves...why would I bring additional people??
      You sound like you were living with children? Or adults who act like them.

      Sorry but you seem to be coming off a bit condescending, I have no idea what I wrote that gave you this image from my post...
      I'm just suffering family abuse and still going through it. And I want to know about support to get me out of it. Not "how to be a good house mate", when i've never been one and I don't want to be one ever, I'd never share a place with another unless they were my boyfriend or family.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Yeah women’s shelter

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Can I bring my stuff and continue to study there as well?
      Actually I just realised you can get in only for demostic abuse? Mine mental abuse and some sexual but that's all... Haven't fought a family member for ages.

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        Depends on the shelter tbh, the one in my town will take in women who have been molested by family members

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Okay thank you for the tip.
          I'm gonna call lifeline and some other numbers to see what I can do.

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          • [Old Memory]
            5 years ago

            Good idea

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              5 years ago

              Already 8 minutes on hold on lifeline. No wonder people give up and commit suicide...
              Damn I want to leave as soon as possible.

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