I panic about people being in my house....iin?

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The mere thought of someone coming over to my house sends me into a panic attack. A knock at my door is the one of the worst things I can imagine!! My stomach drops into my feet, my pulse races and I'm flooded with anxiety.

It's not at all that I'm afraid of anyone or anything, I just don't want people in my house, looking at my things. I feel so invaded, as if they're eye-raping my possessions and noticing any speck of dust or misplaced item.

I am a very secretive person, so I feel like if people see my decor and other possessions, that they will be able to "know" me. I don't want anyone to truly know me, not a soul.

I never invite anyone over, I haven't for a good decade now at least. If there's a knock at my door, it's always a complete surprise and no doubt it's someone I definitely don't want to see or have over.

I DO enjoy my home, and I love decorating and making it "MY" home, but I do it solely for me, I don't want anyone to see it.

I used to think this was somewhat irrational until a few incidents with family members that came over. I could see their eyes moving about on my things as if they were studying my stuff, wanting to look at it, touch it and understand it. They would either ask about it, judge me in some way, or make fun of me....and worst of all they "knew" something about me. My paranoia was warranted!!

Anywhoo....is it normal to not want people in your home?? I doubt it is because everyone I know seems to like having people over, but maybe there's more people like me out there somewhere who can relate!! Please comment!!

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    That's a bit drastic. People tend to look around at stuff in peoples houses. It doesn't mean much. I don't have people over either, but for different reasons, but when someone does come in I like that they look at my stuff. It does say a lot about me and its all good.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Maybe consider seeing a behavioural therapist? Fears and phobias are really, really treatable - and geez - you shouldn't have to live with that. Then you'll be in a better position to decide how much is just a matter of privacy
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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    Yes, I'm the same way. I hate when people come over whether they be family, friends or neighbours. I even hate when repairmen come. Then I sometimes resort to hiding my things in fear that someone will steal them. (Under the damn covers you go!) When they come over I feel like I'm being invaded and it ruins the usual "vibe" of the house. It becomes awkward and uncomfortable. What if the house is a total mess? What if I haven't had time to shower? What if I was about to eat? The list goes on... Which is why I especially hate when people who come over out of the fucking great blue. Heck! I get uncomfortable just going out of my home or going over other peoples abodes:/

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  • emi.l.y
    11 years ago

    I think yoo maybe need a councillor? It's not normal too feel that anxious when yoor in yoor own home :/ good luck! X

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  • GuessWho
    11 years ago

    I can sort of understand how you feel.
    When I get my own place, I'll probably decorate it in a way many of my family members and friends will disapprove of and I'd rather they not see that.

    You could try to keep all your private things and unusual decorations limited to one or two rooms, but it wouldn't truly feel like your own place then if the main areas are set up in a neutral guest-friendly way.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Are you a hoarder?

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    • GuessWho
      11 years ago

      Maybe he just has too much porn for it to be worth the effort of hiding it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      No!! Not a hoarder and no porn!!

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      • Mando
        11 years ago

        Maybe consider seeing a behavioural therapist? Fears and phobias are really, really treatable - and geez - you shouldn't have to live with that. Then you'll be in a better position to decide how much is just a matter of privacy

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  • yesnomaybeso
    11 years ago

    I do know some people who dont really like having people over, because of privacity reasons.
    I cant really help though cause I love having people over, rather than being alone...

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