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I have issues I dont understand the feelings that I have I dont have a hatred for them I love them. the way they look. the ones ive been with I have treated nicely but in the back of my mind I want to really hurt them. I dont know what to do to stop these feelings I dont think I will ever hurt one but I am horrified at these urges.
Sounds like a sexual sadist. It’s totally fine, you’re ok. It’s diagnosed through it either jumping to non consensually harming someone, or it causing distress to the individual who has it. You thankfully appear to be the latter.
It’s fine, and plenty of people like that find a legal outlet for it. Just beware escalation, and DO NOT maim or kill people mr guy.
Yeah bro I feel ya there. Who doesnt wanna put handcuffs on her behind her back really tight then lay her on her back with her legs up while shes on the cuffs while you skeet skeet on her assshole
Hurt them how?
You should probably talk to a therapist about this one, mate.
It's never ok to hurt someone, unless it's in a very controlled environment with someone who wants to be hurt. You should have a code word if it goes to far. And you should always, ALWAYS respect that code word and stop immediately.
sometimes we have intrusive thoughts, and people with OCD tendencies can be more bothered by these thoughts. i'm not saying you have OCD (maybe you do, maybe not) but it sounds like you're really bothered by these thoughts. we all have intrusive thoughts of violence and sex, but some people are just less bothered by them than others. if you are really bothered by them it sounds like you might wanna talk about them with a therapist or even just a person in your life. but you are not a bad person and as you said, you are morally against hurting people and you know it's wrong. it doesn't mean you're going to do it, it just means you might need help being less bothered by these intrusive thoughts.
Asian women as viewed through Western eyes are often seen as more traditional and more feminine, and with that comes the appearance of vulnerability; and there is also a maternal aspect to this. It really depends on whether you have a genuine urge to harm such women or are just experiencing an obsession over the possibility of it. It may be that you are grappling with the natural power and responsibility of masculinity, which in modern Western societies is so neutered that when a man finds himself in a position of true power over a woman, this can make him feel very uncomfortable.
Add to this (or multiply it by) any uneasiness you may have about your relationship with your mother and how it compares to the common role of mothers in present day society, and you might be a powerkeg, or you might just be working through the fact that today's society has an incredibly fucked up and unproductive approach to sex and parenting - an arrangement that devalues the specialization of the sexes and sneers at the natural interplay between men and women, while dressing itself up as liberating and uniquely just. There are probably countless ways this circus has harmed your quality of life, and you might not be aware of a single one of them.
So maybe you are pissed off at your mom. Maybe these women's existence mocks what you grew up valuing in the women around you. Or were taught to value. It could also be that you are just a psycho and you need professional help. That's nothing to be ashamed of, so long as you face it and seek the help. It all boils down to one question. Do you genuinely and truly want to hurt women - even if this contradicts other feelings - or is it just something you can't stop thinking about?
I don't think this post is racist, because the hurting seems to be based on sadism, racial preferences being racist or not is quite a difficult topic but I don't think it's rooted in racism against other races, but things like how you grew up, like if you grew up in a predominantly Asian community you might feel more comfortable around them.