I think i'm being groomed

I think someone I met online is grooming me. I met an older guy on the internet and we've had amazing conversations. He's kind, sympathetic and understanding (even more so than people I talk to in real life) and knows things I haven't even told my family.
But, yesterday, he asked me to meet him at a local park and I've began criticising the guys intentions. He's amazingly sweet and I DO want to meet him but how did he know I was so close to this park...?
I'm thinking of going still because he's really great and even if he's out to hurt me it's better than being alone...right?

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Based on 39 votes (12 yes)
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  • I took everyone's answers into consideration and decided to find the guy before he found me by going 15 minutes early. He pulled up in a van with three other guys soo...nope. I left and reported him to the police. Thanks.
    Also I'm a guy

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    • imcoolwitdat

      You did the right thing, smart of you. My advice to you and to whomever else is reading this with similar interests. Next time bring a friend.Never go alone. Meet and greets are best doing in a public place like a coffee shop or in a shopping mall public bench. Also, for any and all "meet and greet" if you do not like the other person's appearance and looks, In a polite way just say "sorry, not a match" Shake hands and walk away.

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    • noid

      Glad you are safe and I hope you get away from your dad and find a true friend soon.

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      • I haven't went home yet.

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    • Nickvey

      we knew you were a guy. you are welcome. as for the police if you trust them you are stupid.

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  • He sounds like a creepy pervert and by meeting him you put yourself in danger. You should tell him you are worried about meeting him and to leave you alone. Tell him you don't want to hear from him again and if you do you will report him to the police.

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    • I did, thank you.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Don't go to meet this old dude if you know what's good for you, and especially if you are still a minor. I will assume that this guy knows if you are underaged so the fact that he wants to meet you in person at a local park near your house is NOT good, not good at all, girl!

    I of course think you shouldn't meet this dude, but perhaps you could tell him something? Tell him maybe you can meet him at a local fast food restaurant, but your dad will be driving you there, and waiting for you in the parking lot so he can drive you home afterward. See how he responds. Or you could say, do you mind if I bring a friend with me"? See how he responds to your question.

    Don't go to this park to meet some old el creepo who just might be a psycho-rapist/killer.

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    • He's said he has no money for food. So it makes sense for him to want to meet at a park.

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      • nikkiclaire

        Oh hell no. If he can't scrounge up $2 for a couple of burgers there is something seriously wrong. Forget this fool.

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        • RoseIsabella

          Um hmm, that's right!😎

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      • RoseIsabella

        A park isn't a safe venue for meeting a random creep from online who is too old to be trying to mess with you. None of it makes sense.

        Ask him if you can bring a friend along, or better yet ask if your dad can come along just to see what he says.

        Seriously though, it's best that you NEVER meet this old bum.

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        • xfg75

          Should be okay in a public park.

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          • It wasn't

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          • Ellenna

            Not if she's outnumbered, as it turns out she would have been

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  • I said it's normal, because this kind of thing is not uncommon. However, I would strongly caution you against going.

    This guy sounds like a predator. I get that you're lonely, but you shouldn't let yourself get used and abused. At the end of it, you probably won't feel loved.

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  • Nickvey

    you are so stupid

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    • Hey! I've got no one! As in literally no one! How would you feel if everyone you've had been unkind to you, bullied you and pushed you into thinking suicidally.

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      • Nickvey

        doesn't make you any less stupid now does it?

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        • No....

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    • Ellenna

      And you are so unempathetic: obviously OP is at a very vulnerable and unsupported time in life and therefore easy prey for a predator. And not stupid either, because h/she checked him out and stayed safe.

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  • Tealights

    So the possibility of getting kidnapped/raped, or raped/murdered is better than being alone?! On top of that, you didn't even tell him where you live, yet he's asking to meet up as if he knew already? Whoa there girl... or boy.

    I get it, he's your only friend in the world at the moment, and he's probably a nice person, but don't meet at a park. Parks are too wide open, and not everyone is going to be looking at you, or notice when you're in danger if things get bad; plus, it's hard to run and quickly find help in a park.

    Ask him if you two can meet at a popular restaurant in your area during the day, so you guys can talk over food (you get there on your own of course). This is not a difficult request, and it's more safe. If he declines, and insist you two meet at the park, then something isn't right. If he does agree, and insist that he drives you home even though you can get home just fine on your own, then something isn't right.

    To put this in perspective, I use to have a 24 yo friend when I was 12. Met him during the early days of GaiaOnline. He wanted to know my full name, where I lived, and my phone number so he can "hear my voice," but all this information he asked for can be used to easily find me with. Thankfully I was taught about internet safety and feared my mom more than anything, so I never gave him any info, but it didn't stop him from being the sweetest guy ever and asking to meet up, etc.

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    • To be honest, yes. My mom just killed herself, my father's abusive (I've tried contacting social services but they won't do anything because he hides the evidence), other family members have cut themselves off from me and I don't go to school anymore because I've had my hair burnt, bones fractured, black eyes and cut by bullies.
      This guy is literally THE only person to ever show me love.

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      • Ellenna

        Sorry to say it honey, but this has nothing to do with love. Is there no-one at your school who could have helped you with the bulllying? I wouldn't call that bullying, by the way, it's assault and if you had visible injuries you could've gone to the police if the school authorities didn't help you.

        I'm sorry you're in this awful situation: please reach out to someone trustworthy, even if it's only a teen crisis line.

        Your online "friend" is a predator and I'm glad you had the sense to take precautions which prevented something terrible happening.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Damn, I'm sorry to hear all of that! I really and truly am!

        So just out of curiosity, how old are you, and how old is your so called friend?

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        • I'm 16, he said he was 20 but looked older.

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  • lordofopinions

    You did the right thing. Smart move.

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  • MangoTango

    Launch your own private investigation. It's epic easy to do a basic background check on him with very little information.

    Meet him, leave your info with a friend, and let this guy know you have to contact your friend by a set time, or else they launch the search party, the police, the mafia, and Liam Neeson to find you.

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  • If you wanna be raped and murdered go ahead

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  • Iszzy123

    Idk your in a bad suation idk bring some protection with you if you do meat him like mace or a chasty belt is if he's some kinda rappiest lest he won't get ur women hood

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    • Ellenna

      "Chasty" belt? (that's chastity by the way and I don't think they've around for many centuries except in kinky shops) Mace?

      Anyone who feels the need to take mace shouldn't be going there in the first place ans as it turned out, she would've been outnumbered and overpowered.

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  • curious-bunny

    Well that depends on what personal information you gave him and the app. Personal info can be tracked down on the internet very easily to see were itss owner is at. Alot off apps and websight have a locator on them. Personally I would give it a shot

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    • I really want to but a lot of people are warning me against it. I'm supposed to meet him in two hours but I don't know...

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      • RoseIsabella

        Don't do it! Do you want to add rape victim/survivor to your resume of bad life experiences?

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        • xfg75

          Why prevent two lonely people from meeting? He sounds like a decent guy.

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          • RoseIsabella

            So you're like a troll to the bone there, huh?

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