I want to be friends with a man old enough to be my dad...

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...so that I can feel like they're like a dad for me.

I am a 25 year old female, and I have no father.

My father died a few months ago, and he also never really lived in the same homes where I lived with my mom. I did meet my father frequently, but I still feel like just meeting him frequently was not enough.
My father and I got very well along with each other though and we never really had any fights, so there were no social interaction problems with him.

And now because of this all, I feel like I really want to be friends with a man old enough to be my dad so that I can feel like they're my father.
Is this normal?

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  • raisinbran
    3 years ago

    Do what you want without worrying about other people judging you.

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    He will want to bang you but if you have daddy issues you probably want that. Go ahead

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  • Chap
    3 years ago

    I understand where you're coming from. As long as the person doesn't take advantage of you (since there will be a power imbalance due to age) and if he's fine with you seeing him in that way, I say go for it!

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  • dicksteele
    3 years ago

    You probably need a father figure. I would not advise you to find older men, as they'll just want to fuck you and nothing else. Finding older mentors/father figures is a rare sight, that's why it's so apparent in hollywood and media.

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    • Obblop
      3 years ago

      "nothing else."

      No possible exceptions, right?

      Perhaps your outlook and attitudes have prevented you from encountering the quality males within the human herd. A decent man will sense low-life riff-raff and shun them in totality. Thus, for you, it is possible that the finest males, the Alpha Males of the cohort, have ensured you could not encounter what a quality person with morals will engage with.

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    • SwickDinging
      3 years ago

      Not all of them would do that. Many, yes. But some will be more than capable of having an appropriate relationship.

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    • CDmale4fem
      3 years ago

      I disagree, there are many guys that never had kids that wish they did, myself included. I would welcome a 25 yr old female if I knew her enough to know her true intentions. I'm sick of people stealing shit from me that claim to be a friend. But yes, I could very well be friends with someone like her and I could even keep it totally plutonic. But then for others it depends on their morals and integrity. There doesnt seem to have either of those anymore.

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    • olderdude-xx
      3 years ago

      I also develop platonic friendships with younger ladies.

      I know a number of other men who do as well.

      Not all men are automatically looking for sex. Many of us are decent folk.

      Now, I will admit that sex could happen; but I am incredibly selective for that and have an actual record of meeting over 400 younger ladies to offer mentoring and possible friendship over many years - and only 1 of those seriously peaked my interest as a romantic partner (Hint: mental maturity, shared goals and interest, and multi-month long term interest in each other are far more important to me than availability and willingness).

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  • a-curious-bunny
    3 years ago

    Totally normal but be careful alot if older guys are into younger women and you fit the bill for those whod be interested back for adult engagements. I mean older guys are pretty fun to date not gonna lie. But if thats not your interest you need to be very clear on that. Or befriend a married dude. That should help to.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    Be careful, honey, there are a lot of disgusting, creepy, old dudes out there who are only interested in one thing.

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  • ellnell
    3 years ago

    I sort of understand you as my dad is very distant.
    I've never had the desire to befriend an older man though and I wouldn't bother because i'd have a hard time believeing they wouldn't start to push for more than friendship eventually.

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