I want to sabotage my husband’s “secret” job

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My husband is an epidemiologist who recently was scouted for a position under the US Secret Service.
He’s now under oath to not share any details about what he does or when he works or where he works, some days he is instructed to drive around for an extra hour or so after he gets off work before he goes home to keep his schedule liquid.
I absolutely hate this. I hate being in the dark. I think the whole “secrecy” is stupid and childish. He can’t tell me, HIS WIFE, about his work.

I know he worked his ass off to get as high as he has, but I want him out of this whole stupid career. It’s not family friendly.

I want to get him fired from his position, because I can’t stand this. Or, we are both still young in our early thirties, I want a divorce if he keeps this job.

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Tealights

5 years ago | pl

Just divorce the poor guy.

With jobs like his, he needs to be with someone in the same profession so he can see his wife at work or something, cause you're literally losing your shit at home to the point you sound like a 16 yo girl. "I'm going to get him fired so he got no job!!," like really, that's some high school nonsense.

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Boojum

5 years ago | pl

Do the guy a huge favour and dump him.

Your birth certificate may prove you were born more than thirty years ago, but your emotional age is about half that.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  So you would have absolutely no problem with your partner disappearing for hours everyday, at different times everyday, and not being able to tell you what he’s doing or where he’s at? Okay. Now think about the scheduling nightmare I have to deal with.
  He isn’t allowed to call in sick or take a day off because then it would be obvious he wasn’t at work that day. What about when we have a kid?
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    5 years ago
    
    What if he's really sick?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      I’m sure there’s situations they’ll let him off, but he made it very clear to me that showing up is incredibly important
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        So what is his schedule, or rather an example thereof?
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        5 years ago
        
        One of the more extreme cases was he was on call at 1:30 AM, but wasn’t actually allowed to come to the center until 7:20 AM. We live about 30 minutes from his base so he had to run the DC roads for 6 hours before hand. Not sure when “real work” ended, but he got home at 5:30 PM which isn’t abnormal.
        And as for your other comment, of course I’ve expressed how I feel, but he’s still in such a honeymoon stage with his new job he’s willing to lick the boots and do circus tricks until his boss pats him on the back.
        And for your comment on working on the National level or living in DC. Yeah. It’s rough. Eventually the protests sound like white noise and the corruption just gnats in your face. I always work privately, and my husband, being a Russian immigrant, commutes constant jests now that he works Nationally.
        
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SwickDinging

5 years ago

Tell him very honestly and clearly how you feel, even if he doesn't want to hear it. See if you can come to a compromise. If you can't then maybe you should have a chat about divorce. If you're both dead set on these different paths then there's no point making each other miserable.

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(s)aint

5 years ago

Alright so;
I´d not like that situation either (Because I'm a clingy and immature fuck) , but you are one childish fuck who wants to sabotage his Life like that. Shame on you.

I'd try to compromise, ask him to tell you when he's on and off work and when he's expected to be home.

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kelili

5 years ago

You should think about getting a divorce. You'll never be bothered by him not having a schedule ever again.

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- Skayaanshaik
  
  5 years ago
  
  Hiii
  
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Vvaas

5 years ago

the secret service is going to get you now

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paramore93

5 years ago

If he really worked for the secret service, they'd have your computer tapped and this post would have set off an alert. If there were any cyber spies hanging around here they could be a threat and the secret service won't like that. I'd pack a bag, just essentials, and leave town asap.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Good. I don’t care. He doesn’t do anything important enough to start any ruckus I’m sure. It’s just stupid confidentialities to protect lawsuits and money.
  
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  - paramore93
    
    5 years ago
    
    People don't have to drive around for hours after work unless they're doing some top level covert shit. Or do they? O.o
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      If you live and work in Wash. DC practically everyone has had to do stupid confidential shit. Even plumbers or people fixing the ac unit in a government building. It’s incredibly common for confidentiality oaths to be made but they’re often temporary.
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        No offense, but I would never want to live in Washington D.C. Those people in the government are probably all twisted.
        
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  - Ellenna
    
    5 years ago
    
    And just how do you know that if he's keeping it all a secret from you?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      Well that’s the thing, obviously I don’t know. But what else can I do but speculate?
      
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RoseIsabella

5 years ago

You sound like that stepmother troll.

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- [Old Memory]
  
  5 years ago
  
  Good ol pumpkin spice lady
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Id love it if I was trolling, make my life much easier
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    5 years ago
    
    Just let him do his job, and quit complaining. He probably makes more money now, right?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      He made a very healthy wage before this new position, it’s more now but isn’t worth all the trouble it causes. I’ll have to quit my job once we have a child because he cant be trusted an ounce to be around.
      His shit and random scheduling is going to turn me into a housewife
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        What kinda work do you do?
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        5 years ago
        
        I work in petrology and it’s a very passion-driven choice. A secure schedule would make raising a child possible for both of us to go after our sciences but be able to come home when we need.
        
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raisinbran

5 years ago

I would tweet his boss, tell him you want your husband back or you'll #MeToo his ass.

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- TheBlindInquisitor
  
  5 years ago
  
  Lol what?
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    5 years ago
    
    Basically, raisinbran is suggesting that this babywoman threaten to falsely accuse her husband's boss of rape.
    
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JD777

5 years ago

You need to look in the mirror to see which of you is the one acting “stupid and childish.” Maybe you should leave him. For his sake, not yours.

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- McBean
  
  5 years ago
  
  Hey JD, it's a relief to have you back. It's been a long hard three years, but your guiding intellect and good sense should get our site on track in short order. Please don't be worried. Everyone is on your side.
  
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  - JD777
    
    5 years ago
    
    Thanks. Wow, didn’t think anyone would remember me. I see some familiar “faces” still around here.
    
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    - McBean
      
      5 years ago
      
      Well yes. TheGypsySailor is now Jethro. He rarely participates. Haven't seen LGRAS for a couple of years. As for the high IQ crowd, TommyTheCat is long gone, FattyMcJiggles gave up, CountessDouche wandered off into the Australian outback and was never heard from again. We had a short performance by DublinGirl, but someone hurt her feelings in an argument over economics. Poor girl; I liked her. Green_Boogers, the math whiz, got banned and dropped. And finally, IQSteve took his arrogance elsewhere.
      
      Your old friend Asstastics has been silent for 10 months. If he ever shows up, you can block him with the new block feature. It works well. Many people had trouble with charli.m, but now that they blocked her, she can't see them to argue with them anymore.
      
      So life goes on. Welcome back.
      
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      - Ellenna
        
        5 years ago
        
        I'm not sure whether to be happy TheGypsySailor is back as Jethro or be cross that now I'll be looking for Jethro every time I'm on here
        
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      - raisinbran
        
        5 years ago
        
        What evidence do you have that Jethro is TheGypsySailor?
        
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        McBean
        
        5 years ago
        
        I can make no comments on the evidence or lack thereof.
        
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        Who is LGRAS?
        
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        raisinbran
        
        5 years ago
        
        Little Girl ... And ...
        
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Anonymous Post Author

5 years ago

Wow I’m a huge oitnb fan actually so the Lolly comment made me chuckle. It’s just that his confidentialities are probably so incredibly minute they don’t matter. And the ridiculous time stamps and schedule he has just messed with it all. He “goes into work” hours before work sometimes and just does nothing until real work hours start.

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McBean

5 years ago

Please, please stop your whining. You are in a new culture now. Your job is to make friends with other wives, and listen to their adventure stories so you learn how the world is run. Your starting point, should you decide to "woman up" for the challenge, is to read Foreign Operative Field Manuals. Here's a link to get you started

http://www.bits.de/NRANEU/others/amd-us-archive/fm2-0%2804%29.pdf

One other thing. ISBN 978-0-399-17567-1. Read it soon. You better know it before you need to use it.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  My “job” isn’t to be my husband’s sidekick where he can follow his passions and I can not.
  
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  - McBean
    
    5 years ago
    
    Of course not. You don't need him on a leash to execute your own plans either. The two of you have the opportunity here to embark upon a lifestyle of independence, self-expression, and a fairly affluent living standard. Your future is in your own hands. Dogs, kids, soccer, and SUVs are nothing more than sub-standard aspirations that are advertised on television.
    
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- RoseIsabella
  
  5 years ago
  
  I would be inclined to read this stuff myself if I wasn't so lazy.
  
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  - McBean
    
    5 years ago
    
    How's your blogging class going?
    
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    - RoseIsabella
      
      5 years ago
      
      It's been over for months.
      
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      - McBean
        
        5 years ago
        
        Sorry to digress, but here's the thing. Everybody is a little bit lazy. Laziness is healthy to a point. But when you are too lazy to read, that is getting serious. In that case laziness is a symptom not a problem. Your interests maybe dull from a bit of depression, or perhaps you quietly want isolation for your mind to heal. Whatever.
        
        I have never really gotten to that point, but when I get close to it I try to expand my horizons. Because basically I don't know if there is something I don't know that I would be excited to know if I knew it. So listen up Rose, in many ways you are a bit like me; kind of unsinkable. Get your butt in a car and visit DirtyBird in New Jersey. She doesn't know it yet, but she likes you. You don't know it yet, but you'll give her a happy day that will make her glad she met you in person. The prospect of this whole thing is cheering me up because I like both of you.
        
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        RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        Thanks, I do miss seeing The Great Bird here! Lately I have been addicted to watching videos on YouTube of scary stories.
        
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RoseIsabella

5 years ago

My ex couldn't be a stripper unless it was a comedy club.

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- [Old Memory]
  
  5 years ago
  
  😂 shots fired.
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    5 years ago
    
    Pew pew! 🤡💩🔫🤠
    
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Anonymous Post Author

5 years ago

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Iszzy123

5 years ago

I think he should return to his old position what’s the point of all the money if you can’t spend time with the people you love and at the end of the day if he get sick or worse it’s his it’s his family that’s going to take care of him not his job

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lordofopinions

5 years ago

He's probably fucking around.

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factcheck

5 years ago

Have you tried talking to your husband about this? This is a decision the two of you have to make, not us. And "getting him fired" isn't an option for you. He decides if he wants to keep his job, and if he does then you decide if you want a divorce.

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trexagireve

5 years ago

I think he is having an affair... Lock him in chastity this wouldn't affect his job if he has this kind of job but it will for sure affect the secret affair!!

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- Boojum
  
  5 years ago
  
  Hmmm...
  
  Cock cage + security-related job = highly embarrassing scenes at metal detector gates
  
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  - trexagireve
    
    5 years ago
    
    😁 😁 lol!!! Didn't thought about that!!!!
    
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- curious-bunny
  
  5 years ago
  
  Those don't actually wprk well. If you want out of them you can get out relatively easily
  
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- SwickDinging
  
  5 years ago
  
  Hahaha, the chastity belt gauntlet has been thrown down!
  
  I think he'd have to pretend it was a kinky sex fetish. That would be less embarassing than admitting to security that your wife won't let you out with out one... 😂
  
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jethro

5 years ago

You really believe that story? He is having an affair and that is his cover.

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  5 years ago
  
  No offense to my husband but sex is the absolute last thing he thinks about when germs and math exists
  
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  - jethro
    
    5 years ago
    
    Yea right. Did it look like you were in a spaceship when you woke up this morning?
    
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Anonymous Post Author

5 years ago

This would be a pretty damn boring lie considering he is probably just taking lab-rat shit samples while wearing oh-so-super-secret service dark sunglasses

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Anonymous Post Author

5 years ago

Could be. Again I think it’s all lawsuit and witness garbage. If you have no real schedule nobody knows when the hell anybody is present or together at any given time.

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donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

5 years ago

whata fuckin clown

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A-sharp

5 years ago

Hell yeah.. get him FIRED.

Make sure you are ready to kiss that house, the cars goodbye and enjoy your food stamps. I hope they last you the whole month.

And to be fair, after the divorce, don't even ask for child support since this is what you wanted, right ? .. so when you need something go ahead and sell your ass for 40 bucks when you can.. ok ? ( very proud of you... YOU GO GIRL !!! ) .

If a murder / suicide doesn't happened 1st before you know it.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  You think I don’t have my own career to support us? Obviously he would get a new job, or return to his old one.
  
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  - A-sharp
    
    5 years ago
    
    leave it alone, my love.... leave it alone.
    
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[Old Memory]

5 years ago

I hate it when petty bitches meddle with their man's work. Leave it alone! You remind me of Rita from Dexter.

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  she sounds more like tony sopranos sister
  
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    5 years ago
    
    She could very well. I don't watch a lot of TV shows or movies, so Rita was all I could think of.
    
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