I want to watch my partners have sex but i don't want to be a part of it

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I have two partners, I love them a lot and we've been together for a good few years. Our relationship is a little unbalanced in part due to my asexuality. It's something I've come to terms with and for the most part not a problem. They have sex with each other and I'm not really involved beyond teasing them.

The problem comes in that despite not wanting to participate, I have endless curiosity. I want to know what happens, to observe it, and to not have any pressure to join in. I have this dumb image in my head of reading a book or doing a crossword and just glancing over every now and then, but I also like the idea of quietly observing to catch every detail. Again, they would not be touching me at all.

TLDR, I'm asexual, my partners aren't. I want to watch my partners have sex but in like, the most passive way possible. Almost scientific study level of passive.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    1 year ago

    This is something you should suggest to your partners, us IINers can’t say whether they would be willing to try it or not.

    As to whether it’s “normal” I don’t think there’s a guide book for a “normal” relationship between two allosexuals and an ace so it’s a moot point really. Focus on what works for your relationship, not what’s typical.

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  • Tinybird
    1 year ago

    You're not asexual. Asexual people do not have more than platonic relationships or feelings.
    Might I ask WHY you want to watch??

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    • kikilizzo
      1 year ago

      Plenty of asexual people have romantic feelings. Wanting to touch their partners and getting butterflies when looking at them. Not all touch is sexual and if one thinks so one should probably seek help as that is creepy.

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      • Tinybird
        1 year ago

        That is still a sexual feeling. Romantic feelings are the same as sexual feelings what is the scientific purpose behind romantic feelings then??? If you get butterflies looking at someone or get a crush YOU'RE NOT FUCKING ASEXUAL. Asexuals do not experience feelings beyond platonic.
        Romantic and sexual acts can be different but it is the same FEELING. Like you can want to kiss and stuff; that does not make you asexual. You are confusing FEELINGS and ACTS. It is the same feeling that drives animals to fucking.

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  • ospry
    1 year ago

    If you don't engage in sexual activity with them, in what way do you consider them your partners?

    Also, this sounds like the plot of a Netflix movie nobody asked for

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    • Tinybird
      1 year ago

      Exactly

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