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I have a very rare last name. I'm female, and I have no male relatives (that may have children in the future) I know of with the same last name. Sometimes I feel like it's such a shame because I won't be able to pass on my name.
Yeah just pass it on, i wouldn’t have any problem taking a female partners last band if they were passionate about it.
Or just do the two name hyphen
Just pass it on... A real man won’t have an issue with that. My best friends husband took her last name when they got married.
Being a guy isn't all its cracked up to be. No-one's into you unless you've got a wallet full of cash, intelligence like Stephen Hawking and humour like Billy Connolly.
That's why you see so many guys in nightclubs blowing loads of money on some chick who's twerking in front of them in the hope she'll let them get into bed (and likely then proceed to inevitably discover that they work at the petrol station).
Passing on your surname isn't as easy as you make out.
You don't have to be married to have children. And you can always adopt.
Asking to be a single parent from an adoption agency isnt going to get you many options. Adoption agencies perfer married couples.
In most states, there’s no law saying you have to take your husband’s last name, you can keep yours and he’s also allowed to take yours.
You could make it their middle name, it'll at least be special for your family
Some dads may not care about the last name, I think your child could still legally have your name
She implied in her post she wants to conceive children heteronormatively so her last name would socionormatively be passed on
I suspect you may be genuine, since you posted that story about not hooking up with a shy girl, so let me say you're doing yourself a disservice by looking for things to be offended by
What I wrote was in a casual tone, and it's not exactly far fetched, if not counter intuitive, to assess that she wanted to be male to pass her last name down by current social standards, id est the child gets the father's last name
If she wanted kids with a woman, it would become an open ended discussion with that woman about how the both of them would name their child, which by the way they could have with each other genetically by using sperm cells found in bone marrow
Being a man would allow her to have natural conception with social standards allowing her last name automatically
Everything I said doesn't take a lot of effort to process, so I'm thinking you either have some serious mental hang ups or you're a troll
Many people keep their last name and take their partners when they get married. Double last name. Or just keep yours, people do that too.
Every woman has a fathers name, so its just a battle between your father’s and his father’s name
Get pregnant and have the kid without getting married. Most places it is automatic the kid gets the mothers last name. Even if you later get married the child's name will remain unless you do an adoption and/or name change
Why can't you pass your name on? Is there a law or something? I've lived in lots of countries around the world and I have never heard of a woman not being allowed to pass on her name if she wants to.
It's getting a man shes marrying that has the problem with it. Historically the males had the family power so transfering names was a way to transfer power. Now a days it's just tradition and straying from tradition especially something as ingrained as the family's name is hard to do. Especially if you are trying to gain the approval of your in laws now.
I get what you mean but I know loads of kids who have their mother's name. I have my mother's name. I really don't think it's assumed anymore that the kids will have their father's name.
I have one of those jobs where your last name is quite important and changing it can fuck things up for you professionally, and as such I don't know of any other women through my work place who changed their name when they got married, and it's therefore a pretty mixed back as to which name their kids end up with. The couple decides between them. My kids have their Dad's name but that's because I changed my name when I got married. When I changed it a lot of people were quite shocked because it's not really the done thing in my profession. A few colleagues bluntly told me that I was being stupid. I'm still happy with my decision because I think it's nice for my kids that we all the same name, like a proper family, but I do sometimes worry that I've made myself start again professionally, and all the published papers with my name on are now not really associated with my professional name unless I explain that I took my husband's name. It's a pain in the arse.
I understand where you're coming from, OP. I actually have a rather common Welsh surname, and although I've been married, and divorced twice I have never taken anyone else's last name. I love my last name, and have never had any desire to change it for anyone. I'm too old to have children now, but if my younger sister had a son, or two, gave them our Welsh surname, and raised them as Roman Catholics I'd probably be thrilled, and a part of me would even want to bust my ass to help raise them! I've never loved any last name more than my own!
My cousins have their mother's last name. I doubt she evwn asked their father.
Dont be a bitch about it like she was, but it is more common for women to keep their own name and share it with their children.
Have the kids have your last name. You went through the trouble of carrying them and pushing them out so, if your future bae doesn’t want them to have your last name then fuck him
In patrilineal kinship, the last name follows the Y-chromosome. You could always use your last name for your kid's middle name.
Yeah that does suck about being a woman alright. I've always thought a good deal in society would be if daughters took their mother's name and boys took their father's name, that'd be pretty fair and equal then. But it is the twenty first century now, I'd say most men would agree to give some of the children your name and some of them his.
My last name isn't very common but I might be able to pass it on for many generations.
Yeah, you're in a tough situation here. Only the most emasculated man in the world is going to take on your last name. You could probably double barrel with the kid though?
I also have a very rare last name. there less than 15 people with my last name.