I wish i were cis

Imagine having to justify yourself to nearly everyone you meet. Imagine having to put in extensive effort, time and money in order to feel comfortable in your own skin.
I just wish I wasn't like this. I don't care which sex I'd be, just that the brain aligned with the body.
Not gonna kill myself, I've got shit I care about. It just sucks

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Comments ( 31 )
  • Grunewald

    You guys, OP probably didn't want an essay on the ethics of whatever.

    I feel for you in your pain, OP. I'm sorry.

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  • Ligeia

    Stop believing in gender ideology, problem solved
    No such thing as "male" or "female" brain just human brains. You do fit the body you were born with cuz it's yours.

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    • Vvaas

      physically there isn't much difference to a male brain and a female brain (the only one really being a woman's brain is typically around 11% smaller than the average man's brain) however there are trait differences like the number of neurons in BSTc and INAH3

      (https://academic.oup.com/brain/article/131/12/3132/295849) (https://academic.oup.com/jcem/article/85/5/2034/2660626?login=false) (https://sci-hubtw.hkvisa.net/10.1038/378068a0)

      while the sample sizes are small the study has been repeated numerous times with the exact same results. another example is gene disruptions that control brain masculinization

      (https://www.eurekalert.org/news-releases/626484)
      full study - (https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-019-53500-y)

      here's also an interesting read about body ownership and gender dysphoria

      (https://www.eneuro.org/content/6/6/ENEURO.0183-19.2019)

      there's still a lot we don't know about the brain and how it works, currently no one has managed to fully research and study the human brain in it's entirety so there are still a lot of unknown factors

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      • Ligeia

        I don't really care. A female with a typically "male" brain is just that, a female with a typically male brain, not a male, and vice versa. My point was your brain doesn't dictate what sex you are

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        • S0UNDS_WEIRD

          It dictates what gender you are.

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    • No

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      • Ligeia

        Jfc you sound insufferable. Idk what you expect. No one thinks your gender identity is "uwu vAlid" probably not even your own family. Acknowledging you're delusional is the first step and no one can help you if you refuse to do that. This isn't a hugbox, go back.

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        • Go back where

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          • Ligeia

            To whatever trans affirming hellhole you came from. Twitter, Discord, 4Chan wherever.

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            • S0UNDS_WEIRD

              Isn't 4Chan where ignorant/unintelligent people like you come from?

              Edit: Just wanted to reiterate how stupid you are.

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            • No

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  • hauntedbysandwiches

    Stop saying cis it's really awful and insulting to people. I'd genuinely smack someone if they called me cis. I'm a human female that's it no need for childish labels

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    • S0UNDS_WEIRD

      Cis.

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    • raisinbran

      In their world, labels are everything.

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      • What

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  • raisinbran

    In what way is your brain not aligning with your body? You only have your own body experience as reference.

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    • Don’t wanna get into it here, it just sucks ass

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  • Comments like these are not helping lol

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    • 1234tellmethatyoulovememore

      This isn't really the best site to express issues with your dysphoria. I wish I could recommend some, but I'm not trans so I'm not really familiar with any.

      If you want, I could try and help you find resources. It's just very early right now. I can also be a friend, if you would like a link to another social media of mine, but I am not a professional. All I can be is a friend.

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      • Thanks a lot for this comment. I only intended to vent here and keep myself anonymous, so I’ll have to decline your offer. You seem like a really nice person though and I’m glad you exist

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        • 1234tellmethatyoulovememore

          I'm glad you exist too.

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    • Anonnet

      What kind of comments were you hoping for?

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      • Idk, maybe “that sounds rough good luck” not telling me that I’ll never be what I am and what I intend to do it ‘’mutilation”. I forget that this site isn’t very friendly to ppl like me

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  • So what conclusion did you come to

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  • I don’t really interact with the trans community outside of liking TikToks by other trans ppl. Too much of it is taken by xenogenders and neopronoun users and I don’t believe in that stuff. I also only really have one irl friend, which I’m out to

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  • I’ve done that for years, only letting myself fully realize who I am has brought me any semblance of joy. Just having to go through with all this extra shit is annoying

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  • kikilizzo

    Just go to therapy. Mutilating your body and shit only to still never pass other than in carefully posed photos won't fix your self esteem. It's therapy you need, and to go outside and interact with real human beings instead of cult-like echo chambers on the internet which in no way resembles real life.

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    • Not helping

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  • I'm 20

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  • So whaddya want me to do?

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  • Wow3986

    You need to accept yourself you transphobic bigot.

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