I wish my dad would die

Stop being their go-between. Save yourself a lot of anxiety and drama. If either one asks how the other one is, just say, "Okay". Tell the person if thry really wanna know, get in contact with the party!

It there's someone in your life who's irrational, a financial drain and generally a huge pain in the ass, then it's perfectly normal to wish that they would fuck off forever.

I don't think it's normal to wish that they would actually die, but since the problematic person in this case is a relative and it sounds like your lives are somehow entangled legally and financially, then it's more complicated than just unfriending them or even moving to the other side of the country. Him dropping dead would (apparently) solve the problems instantly, so it's not an irrational thought.

I think it's stupid for people to believe that sharing a few genes with someone else means that you have to always bend over backwards for them and smilingly accept whatever shit they dump on you. You didn't ask for this guy to be your father, it sounds like his behaviour is such that he doesn't deserve to be respected, and you're not responsible for the legal and financial mess your mother's decisions have put her in. But from what you say, it sounds like you have no choice but to accept that you'll need to continue in the role as go-between for your mother's sake.

I guess the best you can do is to try to cultivate an attitude of indifference to what he says about your mother. It never wise to give the words of a deranged person power over us. Let him rant, and just focus on the business at hand whenever you have to talk to him.

Wishing someone dead makes you a psychopath

kill him

I don't think it's right, but I will admit that I've done it myself.

I dont think its "normal" to wish death on your own father.

It's normal to wish it. I wouldn't find it normal if you actually enjoyed it. That's just me. I'm very emotional.

You first...

You should be ashamed