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I think this is very weird. Other things they said were that it's normal for a guy to ignore his girlfriend all the time over video games and people should just be accepted for who they are and not judged even if they're selfish and are hurting other people bc of it
Since they are only interested in a relationship with themselves... They are indeed correct. You do not have to compromise with yourself.
It sounds like you are nothing more than perhaps an pleasurable accessory.
I suggest that you find someone who understands that real relationships require not just acceptance of minor things in the other person, but compromise and making deals on other things; as well as finding and working on common goals.
I wish you a bright future,
Sounds to me like you have managed to meet two different losers who are addicted to video games. Yes, you can accept them as they are in that you can accept that until they want to change they are, and will continue to be the losers that they are. However, you certainly need not accept either of those two as friends, nor anyone like them. If you meet someone like these guys in the future you can accept that this is how they are, and who they are as people, but you also understand that they are emotionally unavailable, and exactly the kind of people you need to completely disqualify as potential romantic partners, because they are selfish, lazy, narcissistic, self-obsessed losers whose names aren't even worth knowing.
NEVER EVER DATE ANYONE LIKE THESE GROSS GUYS!!!
It's true that you should accept people as they are, but only in the sense that you understand it's unlikely their fundamental character traits will ever change. If someone shows you that they're an immature, self-centred dickhead who's unwilling to compromise in order for you both to be reasonably happy, then you should accept that's who they are, but you definitely don't need to accept that you're the one who will have to constantly give up things you need.
In a relationship, "Don't judge me!" often means "I'm going to crap on you, but I don't want to hear your objections, don't you dare try to stop me and you're not allowed to think less of me for it". We all have the right to judge how the behaviour of others affects us. If we conclude that we're in a relationship with someone who is unable or unwilling to be a positive part of our life, we have the right to move on in search of something better.
People who say this usually require their partner to make huge and unreasonable compromises for them on a regular basis.
Yes that's normal because there are a lot of selfish people in the world who believes they are allowed to act however they please but they still expect their partner to be a certain way.