Is it normal all moms ever talk about are their kids and boyfriends/husbands

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At work all the women with kids talk about nothing but their kids and a little about their boyfriends or husbands.
I literally never hear them talk about anything else.
It really makes me feel like if I ever become a mom I will no longer have a personality. I feel resentful towards the kids when these moms do that and they're not even my bastards.
I used to as a kid always assume i'd have kids one day but as an adult im not sure. All i've ever pictured myself with are animals while I hear women who dont yet have kids talk about baby fever and crying over how cute babies are... Iv never felt this, is that normal? Im in my mid 20s btw.

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  • bbrown95
    2 years ago

    It's normal to not be sure if you want kids, or to not want them. I'm the same way, I love having pets, but cannot imagine having a child, at least at this point in my life (and I'm 26). I don't dislike babies or kids, but don't have "baby fever", either.

    I do think some parents kind of lose their identity outside of being a parent, if that makes sense. I get that it's a huge part of their lives and naturally, it's something they're going to enjoy talking about (which is great), but it's good for people to still have interests and things they enjoy outside of just one thing. I think it's great that they're so devoted to parenthood, however, as there's also the flip side of parents who don't care about their kids at all, which is much worse IMO.

    I definitely understand that as someone without kids, it can be very hard to relate to and have very lengthy conversations with people like that, too. Really, it applies to anyone who only talks about just one thing, especially if they always change the subject right back to that as soon as someone brings up something new.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    Yes its a primal instinct in women its no secret. They like having babies. Every now and then you'll get an angry woman who gets enraged at the thought of kids.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    2 years ago

    I know exactly the kind of people you’re talking about, the ones who live and breathe their kids and lose any semblance of personality. I find them insufferable too, the only time I’m interested to hear about someone’s child is when they are neuroatypical and my psych major brain switches on.

    If it’s any consolation I don’t find babies or small children cute either, I just pretend so as to not offend their parents and I’ve managed to get a few others to confess they do the same.

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  • Sanara
    2 years ago

    If that's all they ever care about I can see why that's a bit unsettling. I know parents that still have other interests in their life. But when its still a baby its gonna take up a bunch of time and energy, so its understandable to "obsess" over the kids in that period, its just not much room for anything else. Its up to you if you want kids, and it isn't for everyone. I dont want kids either. But I dont think you should reject it because you dont want to turn into "those parents", (if you know you dont want kids, that's still fine) its still a choice how you want to be, at least most of the years you are potentially raising those kids

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