Is it normal attractive women make me feel negative about myself

I've had similar feelings myself before. Their incredible beauty has made me feel unworthy. I'm reminded though of a story my dad told me from when he was in his youth. He told me that he was out on the town one night and there was an incredibly beautiful young woman on the dancefloor. He summed up the dutch courage to go talk to her, thinking "what do I have to lose." He was expecting that she must of been there with someone, only momentarily left alone in the crowd. Still, he approached her.

He took her home that night. She told him how hard it was for her to get guys, because many did not have the courage to talk to her, or just assumed she'd already be taken. She explained beauty as somewhat of a curse, her more average looking friends being more regularly picked up by men. She said normally the only men that could approach her were arrogant assholes as they were typically the only one's with the self confidence to talk to her.

Moral of the story, confidence is everything. Your mind has funny ways of discouraging you, but try and push through that. Things aren't always what they seem.

Average looking girls do the same when they see a beautiful guy. Instead of looking where the grass is greener, don't be so shallow by ignoring the average looking girls out there who probably find you plenty attractive. This is the thing I don't get about guys, I mean you all wonder why we have self esteem issues and spend hundreds of dollars on our looks???
"Oh but we prefer natural beauty", "Personality is what's important"... BullShit.

Maybe your attitude has alot to do with why you can't attract a woman .. one of the biggest turn offs in a guy in my opinion .. is no self confidence ! Even if your not so self assured .. Walk it like you own it , you'll find thats half the reason you see hot chicks with the ugliest guys !

Strive to be the best version of yourself that you can be instead of dwelling on the whole, "I can't meet girls" trip. If you're working on yourself then you can start to attract and be attracted to women who are doing the same for themselves. I know it sounds corny but like attracts like.

Dude honestly, he comes some genuine bro advice right now. Every guy has probably been where you are now, so listen up.

You don't have to look like Brad Pitt to get hot girls. It's all about personality and confidence. Seriously. Women don't view men the way we view them. They want a more personal connection with men, rather than a purely physical one. If you just work on being a confident motherfucker, or as we bros should be known, "sickkunt", you can get any girl you want.

If you feel like shit about your body, do something. Go to the gym, workout, get shredded, get a tan. All these things build your own confidence and therefore get you better at approaching women.

When I first got shredded, I started approaching the hottest girls in clubs. And the funny truth about it? I thought I wouldn't stand a chance with all the other guys crawling all over them. Turns out, I'm the only one approaching them because all the other sadkunts are too afraid. Just like you now. If you've got the confidence and the ability to make them laugh, dude, you're in. And you'll be the only guy doing it.

It's normal but you should snap out of it. Do what Holzman67 says. It's all truth. I have been working out lately and regardless of results, I just FEEL like bad ass doing it. Just the idea and act of doing stuff to better yourself gives you unimaginable confidence. I was like you man. I've been there. All you can do is beat yourself up when you see someone you're interested in. But I made some changes to myself and now I have the confidence and the "not give a fuck" attitude. Still don't have the girl but that's a work in progress haha.

Here are some things that I did to not necessarily "better" myself, but just change it up a little bit and it made me feel really good about myself.

- Working out
- Bought some new jeans
- Got a haircut

just some simple stuff that made me feel better in my own skin. If you already have swag and sexy hair then just get swole haha. you can also try fragrance but don't get ridiculous with it. Maybe style your facial hair. Just put on something you have been wanting to try out and really break it in. the confidence will just come naturally.

Remember though. A new style is just to change it up and get you interested in yourself which will emit confidence. In the end though be yourself, talk about what you wanna talk about, laugh about what you think is funny, and have fun meeting people.

When us guys that are above average see a beautiful gal with a average joe she becomes our target. You can have all the personality and confidence in the world. It means nothing when it comes to us. We draw her away and she willingly upgrades to a better model. Same thing when roles are reversed. Of course if they're married or have kids its hands off. We respect that and have morals

We tend to rescue the damsel in distress.

Whenever you see an attractive woman, just remind yourself that all attractive women are bitches. Stay away.

I know that feel bro. Me too. The more attractive the girl is, the more I feel bad at myself.

Don't get down on yourself when you see a beautiful girl. Because guess what? Those beautiful girls you speak of aren't perfect.

When I see a hot chick I usually remind myself that those hot chicks take smelly shits,have hairy bugers,barf,burp,and fart like everyone else. They don't deserve to be respected any better than the average gal. Its a shame that most of guys us put them on a pedestal as if they were perfect. Besides most of them try to act all innocent like they have the golden vagina in front of the guy they just met when in reality they go out acting like dirty flakes every week at bars. Warty babes

Yeah dude it's totally normal. You would be surprised how approachable most women actually are. I'm a hot 24 yr old red head and a lot of people prejudge me that that I would only go for the hottest guy, or the guy with the most money. But that shit doesnt actually matter to me. Most women want to feel a connection with a man more than any other bullshit rumors there are out there. I can tell you're obviously intelligent because it seems like your over thinking it, which is something I do ALL THE TIME. Really.. you just gotta walk up to her with absolutely no expectations of anything and just talk to her like she's just a person, not hot chick. Just have a conversation as if youre totally not interested in anything but what you are discussing. Hope this helps.. Hot chicks are people too!!!! lol

It isn't because you aren't cool, it's because you don't have any confidence. Women see that cowardliness and it is a turn off.

you verbally put yourself down or mentally? i do both... the verbal is to get recognition / recieve correction meaning i want her to say 'no you dont' or 'thats not true' or to see how they aggree/dissagree. im building a mental database of how the world views me and thats just one small step in the process. next step is analyzing feed back and filtering out the bullshit, which is about 90% of all responses. believe nothing that you hear and only half of what you see

Uhhhh

theres always going to be someon who likes you, i feel thst way to ,but dont put urself down noones ever as unatractive or atractive as they think, heck i know people wh are atractive that fel the same way, some of which are girls who could be models, this is just a self esteem issue , go out have fun talk to girls u like see where it goes, it is imposible that noonw in the world is atracted to u

no i have postive thoughts.

Why am I thinking of magnets?