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Is it normal all my exgirlfriends would make unnecessarilly mean, intentionally hurtful verbal low blows during arguments that I now shy away from dating? Like I'd rather be alone than deal with someone's cheap shots.
I destroyed a bitch recently. She was using the low blow that i take antidepressants called me mental and shit.
I then started using the low blow about if she knew who was the real father of her daughter. How much did she charge for one night. She left with tears in her eyes.
Damn! Nice form.
It's a funny thing, but despite the fact that sometimes haters will think I'm some femi-nazi based off of some random rant I still think it's hilarious when some chick doesn't know who's her baby daddy. I think I will get some hate for that comment, but oh well.
I think when people take cheap shots at those if us who have to live with depression, and anxiety they are kinda asking it. It's not like mentally ill people choose to be as they are, and the number of ignorant-ass armchair psychologists who want to tell us it's all in our heads or minimize our never seems to shrink.
A chick who doesn't know who the father of her baby is on the other had has no one else to blame for her position. I'm not trying to hate on her, because she's probably a sex addict, and most likely has some sort of undiagnosed mental illness of her own. However, it's not like she's a helpless little woodland creature, it's her best thinking that got her in that position.
"A chick who doesn't know who the father of her baby is on the other had has no one else to blame for her position."
Cos rape isn't a thing...
Not to mention, there's no given that this insult was based on anything but anger...
Yes, she shouldn't have said what she said to him. That doesn't make what he said ok, either. It makes both of them shitty people.
Edit: oh wow. Now I've read further, and he's an abusive piece of shit. That just gives even less credibility to his insult.
You bring up some excellent points, when I first responded I didn't know he was shoving her. I changed my tone when he said it was okay to shove her, which it isn't. He said later on that they're siblings which doesn't make any of it okay, but probably means they do this to each other all the time. He erased the comment where he said she's his sister. I don't know why though.
I initially thought they were in the U.S., because stories like this are all over talk shows like Maury Povich where the girl doesn't know who the father is so if she can narrow it down to a few they will do a DNA test. Rape is horrible, and disgusting, but we don't know if rape is part of this story, cause he never mentioned it. Then again, rape is quite common in India. I certainly hope that's not the case here.
Yeah, I saw you changed your attitude to him later. From what I've seen of that user, he's a misogynistic piece of shit all round. Some of that is probably down to culture, for sure, but most of it is down to the individual.
I still think my point stands about a woman who doesn't know who the father of her child is, though. It's not fair to automatically label her a whore. We certainly don't know if that's the story here, I just meant generally. I mean, it's probably not the case in the majority, but fuck...it definitely happens.
Maury is seedy and gross.
I rather suspect that a good part of the attitude could be cultural unfortunately. I asked him if he was getting any talk therapy to compliment the antidepressants he's already taken, but he told me it's extremely expensive in India, but I imagine there surely must be some more reasonable alternatives, or places where therapy might be offered on a sliding scale, of course I could very well be wrong. Some of the best help I've ever gotten has been from therapists who charge on a sliding scale that I was referred to by Catholic priests. Of course I think that in India many people have a different attitude towards poorer people than the attitudes of people in predominantly Judeo-Christian, or Abrahamic countries, but I digress.
I rather suspect that since he said at one point that this physical altercation, and name calling was between he, and his his sister that it is probably a constant back, and forth. He probably makes comments about her sex life, and she probably talks about his mental health. This is all just speculation on my part of course, but that what I suspect.
Wow! So because she doesn't know who is her father's baby she's probably a sex addict?
She might be. It's not normal to have so many partners that you don't know who is the baby daddy.
Maybe it was only two or maybe three or maybe many more partners. Maybe she got pregnant during a period where she was not well, where she was feeling down and tried to compensate with sex. Or maybe she just likes sex. I like sex too, a lot to be honest. We don't know. What I mean is that there is not sufficient material here to enable us to draw conclusions.
It was a very heated verbal battle which became physical in the end. She threatened to call the cops on me and i retaliated by throwing her to the ground. After that other people intervened and broke up the fight.
Did you hit her? If you hit her then she would have had every right to call the police. I called the cops on my ex, because when I attempted to walk away from his screaming, and yelling he came after me. He grabbed me my by the back strap of my sports bra, and dragged me down the street, up the driveway, and front yard back to the house. As soon as he let go, I ran with my cellphone locked myself in a vehicle, and called the cops. He was arrested, and now he has a criminal record thanks to his own stupidity of putting his hands on me. I don't regret any of this shit the least little bit! No one has the right to put his, or her hands on me... no one!
It's still assault! I'm sorry, but I'm not going to lie you, or humor you on this shit, dude. I took so much verbal, and emotional abuse from my ex, and NEVER once hit him. I used to be in marital arts in my late teens so maybe I have more self control than other people, but I'm not interested in physically assaulting anyone unless it's out of self defense. The only reason I didn't defend myself when I was attacked is because the stupid person who attacked me grabbed me in a way that I couldn't retaliate. To be honest I'm actually thinking about taking some self defense courses when I get my money.
I hate to break it to you but unless she was coming at you with a weapon you would be completely out of line to put her hands on her, just because she said some mean things that hurt your feelings. People can say a lot of mean things that are extremely emotionally triggering, believe me I get it, but it's still not an excuse to get physical.
Sometimes we do have a relationship that is bad enough that once it is over we decide we would rather not deal with dating for a while.
The last person I dated - It was about four years ago but to this day I have had no desire to date. It wasn't abusive or anything it was just, it sucked
This is a really funny post cause I just saw a comedian do a bit about the way that girls argue. When they know that they are losing an argument they will retort with something you are super insecure about.
My ex did this too, totally understand.
No that isn't normal. Mature adults don't act that way. Even many teens don't act that way. It's abusive behavior.
Maybe you have a quality about you that attracts that type of person? Manipulative people are attracted to people they view as trusting and nice because they are easier to control with cruelty and guilt.
No, they all seemed warmer and nicer than most in the beginning. That's probably what attracted me in the first place.
Listen up brah! Ever since I got out of that relationship I had with a guy who started out as verbally, and emotionally abusive then attemped to graduate to being physically abusive I have been trying to learn as much about this bullshit as I can. People who are narcissistic abusers regardless of whether they are male, or female always start off as these sugary sweet, too good to be true types. Narcissistic abusers will make you feel like you are living in a fairy tale in the beginning, because that's how they get you. If someone seems too good to be true you gotta slow your roll. Abusive people are all about manipulation, and control.
You know when I first got with my now ex-boyfriend people on this very website were referring to him as my "long, tall Texan". People weren't saying that to make fun of it, or to make fun of me, but the thing is that in the beginning he appeared like a prince charming. If you meet a nice gal who looks like an angel, or a princess please be careful!
Also I read a good book on the topic called "Psychopath free" by Jackson Mackenzie. It's worth reading.
I know the world is agains men right now, but women have issues to. What they lack in physical strength they make up for it in mental power. Which is good but also missed used. While men can beat the shit out of most women, women can ruin a mans life just as easily.....with words.
Women can be serious bitches. They can say some mean things then if it bothers you they'll call you a pussy on top of it all. I never hit a woman but can understand why some guys reach a braking point.
... but what's wrong with just kicking a verbal abuser to the curb? Fa real, yo! What's wrong with just dumping people who treat you badly?
Some people say horrible things when they are angry, it's almost like they cant help it. I could be wrong here but I don't think gender is relevant, I've seen this in both sexes.
I take it as a sign of low intelligence and lack of self control, like a small child or a mentally disabled person. I expect normal adults to have self control. I've been married for years and my husband and I have never said horrible insults like that to each other. Sure we've shouted, sworn, gotten very heated, but there's never been name calling or nasty below the belt digs. Our lives are better for it.
Yup. That's their thing. You've just got to dodge them. They're pathetic attempts at trying to win arguments. Keep calm and be rational. Then walk away.