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Christian couples seem extremely phony. Especially the ones that go on missionaries. They're always preaching about God and his power in their relationship. They seem faker than your average social media couple about how much in love they are. They always have a bunch of kids too.
While there are a lot of "fakers" in all religions. People who's actions do not follow their claimed belief's.
At the same time there is at least a solid minority who are obviously really living to their religious standards and who set real examples. I note that they rarely speak of this though as they focus on letting their actions speak for themselves.
I would agree that the majority who go out of their way to publicly claim how religious they are - are most likely fakers and living on their ego satisfaction based on what they say, and not on what they do.
You say that, but you clearly have no knowledge of the love of God, so you no way of saying that their experiences with the love of God are impossible. They also have many children because of that same love of God.
Do you have any knowledge of how the “love of god” applies in a relationship?
No, since I've never been in such a relationship. I don't claim people who feel it has an effect to be phony, though.
I've seen couples who were truly blest with divine grace when they said their wedding vows. But some Christian couples weren't, and they sort of imagine they were. Their phoniness is the first thing you notice about them. They have no way of being aware of it because they only understand grace they have individually from commitment to charitable values, good will, etc.
Anyway, I tolerate couples like this because although phony, as individuals they are people of good character.
I get that feeling more from politicians that play that "im a good christian" card.
But I grew up around very religious people and from my experience they did have very happy marriage and lots of kids.
They aren't phonies. What people believe could be a fake. They believe a fake, thinking it's real. It's a lack of understandment, or awareness etc and not willing to explore the reality.
I think they aren't phonies but just victims of a fake system or believing which was created by a liar.
It maybe doesn't look real because we don't recognise it as something we know. I too feel resentful sometimes to watch their happiness when it isn't what I have or what I have known.
There are surely some phoneys, yes. And I do admit that there are one or two couples I have known as individuals, and have wondered, considering their personalities, 'How on earth do you make your wife/husband feel loved and respected if you act like that?' But I have to say, that isn't most.
I have known some of these Christian couples for a long time and stayed in their homes, and I can tell you that at least in their marriages, the state of the relationship was as certifiably authentic as that of any non-christian couple I have also known for a long time and stayed with.
I will say though that having been a young adult in these circles, we are encouraged to expect different things of marriage. Many Christian couples see marriage as a thing that will require work and maintenance and will be hard sometimes, but will ultimately bring immense joy, and they know that they will probably end up hurting each other a lot at some point. Family and friends I've known who aren't Christians often don't seem to see it that way until they're about 7 years in - I chose to go to church as a teen, but I'm not from the mainstream Christian subculture. Because Christians (mostly) really try to avoid divorce, there is a lot of wisdom and counselling in churches on how to choose a partner, how to maintain marriages and how to repair them when they break.
I used to think that way, but it's actually me who comes from a dysfunctional family where people scream, and curse at each other all the time.
There are a lot of Christians that really have faith and they tend to match up and like to share it far and wide. Muslims like to convert as well. I like the Jews the most of the Abrahamic religions, they don't hard push their faith.