Is it normal for boyfriends to test their girlfriends?

You did absolutely nothing wrong here. No, it’s not normal to “test” your girlfriend, he sounds incredibly immature and the bickering and play fighting only gives me confidence in that statement. Not to mention the fact that he reduces women to a one dimensional stereotype of talking about “shoes and girly things”.

A guy worth your time will not “test” you. When you meet his family just be polite, give compliments and ask questions and if they’re not whack-jobs they will like you.

I can see testing a GF... does she show up on time, ready, and a variety of other things to determine her character and interests, and if we match up for a continuation and long term.

But, this test is very inappropriate. He's obviously too immature for you.

Go find someone who actually wants to see if you match up?

That just sounds immature, it’s good that you broke up with him

No that isn't normal the guy deserves a thrashing.

The guy was - and most likely still is - a jerk.

The only thing you could have done differently is dump him sooner, but it sounds like this was one of life's learning experiences for you, and now you're probably better able to pick up early signs that a guy is a jerk of the same variety as your ex. (Unfortunately, there are many species of jerks out there in the wild, so you're probably not jerk-proof just yet.)

Emotionally mature, sensible people don't set up tests for their boyfriends or girlfriends. The fact that his cousin seems to have gone along with what he planned suggests that the whole family probably has fucked-up ideas of how relationships should work, so you probably can be thankful that you split up before you wasted too much of your life on the guy.

No that is not normal. Very manipulative and insecure behaviour.

It was your discretion to let it happen, it was his to vilify it

Personally that seems silly, like pseudo intellectualism, but you got what he thought he got out of it; signs of an unstable partner

Assigning blame is never a good sign

All you can do for future partners is just be you, it's either gonna work out or not

He sounds like a piece of shit!

Usually, it's the girls that test the boys. You're silence made you look like a true woman of character. Nice work.

He was a total loser with the emotional age of a young child. You did the right thing by dumping him. Don't put up with that sort of silly nonsense from anyone. Life is too short.

That sounds retarded.