Is it normal for friend to do questionable things with me?

I'm 28 and he's 23 and I met him 2 years ago.

He tried licking my friend's ear as a joke when we first met.

One of his first conversations with me was him talking about circumcision and him basically asking me if I was.

When I went to his house, he talked about how he tells girls he has a small penis, but then said it's really like 8.25". I figured the guy was just curious and told him I was just average to which he quickly changed the subject. I also told him about a friend that wanted to give me a bj and he was like don't do it, I wouldn't let you give me a bj! But I didn't do it anyway.

That night we were in his room and he told me to turn my head because he had to get changed which he says he doesn't wear underwear to bed. I was like ok and turned my head while he put on pajama pants. I thought this was odd that he was getting naked in front of me instead of changing in a bathroom when we just met.

Later on I noticed he was playing with himself and maybe even masturbating under a thin blanket and would occasionally turn towards me with his eyes closed. I ended up calling it a night since it was late and I was nervous about staying over and he seemed upset, but I promised him that I was his friend.

Fast forward a few weeks and I'm over his house in his living room while he's showering upstairs. He came downstairs which he bypassed his bedroom and only had a towel on and he proceeded to get dressed under the towel in front of me. I thought, okkkkkk, why didn't he change in his room, does he want me to see him naked?

However, he always kept playing with himself or probably masturbating under a blanket every time I was over. He also always made it a point to always change under a towel in front of me. Normal?

Whenever we go to the movies, he's always leaning towards me and nudging me and always has his arm against my arm. I never thought anything of it until some of the stuff below happened.

So the second time that he stayed over my house, he was like, oh good we get to sleep in your bed since the first time we slept on the floor due to being in the process of moving. Usually when friends stayed over they would just sleep on the floor. But I noticed whenever we stayed in the same bed, I would wake up with him kind of breathing hard and the bed shaking a bit. I'm pretty sure I saw his arm moving, but I'm not positive. But I suppose it could be normalish to be comfortable enough to sleep in the same bed. Masturbating, not so sure if he was or if it would be normal.

The next few times that we slept over I started to wonder if he might have liked me more than a friend and possibly was throwing signs out. I woke up once and when I moved away from the edge of the bed I found out he was spooned behind me and I came into contact with him which he got an erection against me immediately. He stayed there for about a minute or three and turned the other way.

Then another time I woke up to him cuddled up to me and had his head on my chest. Then I woke up to him leaning his back against me and I could've sworn he was masturbating. Then he turned and swung his hand and briefly touched my crotch. The last time he stayed over I woke up with his arm across my chest and he sort of had his hand on my face. He's avoided staying over and inviting me over since then. But he says it's just a temporary thing until he feels like staying over or inviting me over. Again, I'm not sure if people do any of this in their sleep or if he was awake.

All throughout this I never brought any of it up and I never did anything back.

I'm not sure if what he does is normal, curious, gay/bi, or just straight and not normal. Being bi myself, which I'm pretty sure he knows, I wouldn't mind either way.

Normal Friend 5
Maybe Curious 5
Most likely gay/bi 23
Most likely straight but not normal 2
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  • Tealights

    Your friend really likes you and doesn't know how to go about it, or might be really confused/ashamed of his feelings. So instead of coming out and telling you (or attempting to himself that he's gay/bi), he's creating situations where you have the opportunity to make the first move, so that he can just simply go with the flow. However, it sounds like he got nervous after a while and pulled away.

    Solution? Tell him all that you noticed, and ask him if he likes you.

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  • gloryholeflasher

    I think he's at least curious, and maybe bi. I think any two guys who voluntarily sleep in the same bed together are bi or very curious. Being that you claim to be bi why haven't you responded to any of his advances or "innocently, in your sleep" done some of the things he does?
    Are you waiting for an engraved invitation?

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    • someoneus15

      Good question. I myself was questioning myself at the time plus I wasn't sure if his actions were intentional or if he even knew what he was doing as he was still "trying" to find gfs.

      I can say the last time he stayed over I pulled his stunt and came back from showering in just a towel. He quickly ran out of the bed and room when I came in lol. Then he came back in a towel after showering and asked why I seemed disappointed or mad lol.

      But I haven't had the chance to see about doing the same things back now since he quickly pulled away and stopped staying over and asking me to stay over after that. Every time I asked him why, he would give different excuses and get mad and say to just leave it alone that it's not forever. So I just let it alone.

      He does seem like he's getting back closer to me again more recently. Pulling me into hugs and talking and hanging out more. Each time he comes over and we watch TV on my bed I notice he glances at me and gets an erection. Not positive if it's from me or someone he's texting on his phone though since I still have doubts.

      So I'm not sure what to do besides wait and see what happens. I wouldn't want to ask him directly.

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      • gloryholeflasher

        Maybe the two of you should go to the gym together. It's just natural to change from your street clothes to your workout clothes in the locker room, then afterwards to get naked and take a shower. The secret will be over. The ice will be broken. You will quit pussyfooting around and actually see each other's nakedness and get on with it.

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        • someoneus15

          Ah, good suggestion but he definitely won't go to the gym. He's just not into that. Hell, I thought we could break the ice by inviting him to come over to swim back in the summer, but he never wanted to swim. Maybe he didn't want to get an erection in a swimsuit or just doesn't like swimming.

          So the only thing that I do is change into lounge pants or shorts in front of him whenever he comes over once a week for a few hours, which he still always checks me out but doesn't make any moves. A few times I thought he would, like one time he was staring at me for a few minutes like he was deep in thought. Another time was after the movies we were standing by my car and he seemed nervous like he wanted to say or do something, but then he just put his hand out for a handshake and pulled me into a hug.

          If he is gay/bi and interested in me, I think he would really need to make the move since I'm not positive if he is gay and I wouldn't want to freak him out by being wrong. I was originally planning on reciprocating some of what he has been doing the next time that he stayed over to see his response. But as I said he doesn't want to stay over or have me over for a while, which has been 3-4 months so far (not never according to him) even though I ask him every time he comes over. Him not wanting to stay over is what gives me the biggest doubts.

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